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Sex Rise in popularity of anal sex has led to health problems for women

TheUltimateFixx said:
Are you saying there's a way for women to actually like anal sex? If so I'm all ears haha
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I’ve been with many women who love anal sex. Slow with lube. I never offer it, they always ask me to go in there butt (just like I ask them to come in mine). Roaring orgasms all the time. Often with clitoral stimulation at the same time, but sometimes only anal.
 
CFC said:
Even the gays aren't really as into it as y'all led to think.
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This. Heteronormative gay porn has made anal sex seem so common but I know lots of guys who rarely do it. It's a rarity for me as well.

What I don't understand is why women are bottoming for anal when anatomically there's nothing in it for them. At least men have a prostate nearby.
 
Mjäll said:
It's funny when fringe weird shit becomes mainstream and you get this funny debate where normies argue that fringe weird shit is perfectly natural and logical.

Fucking a girl in the ass is not a crime if consensual, but it's one of those weird over the top violent kinks and people who indulge should own that and know what they're doing.
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“Weird over the top, violent kinks” Wow, exaggerate much?
 
Foreigner said:
This. Heteronormative gay porn has made anal sex seem so common but I know lots of guys who rarely do it. It's a rarity for me as well.

What I don't understand is why women are bottoming for anal when anatomically there's nothing in it for them. At least men have a prostate nearby.
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You’re assuming that prostate stimulation is the only way for anal sex to be pleasurable. This is definitely not the case. There are alot of nerve endings there. What, do you think the women who claim to enjoy anal sex are lying and really only doing it for the male partner? Lmao
 
Love licking a women's arse but rather vaginal sex. Will give it to anyone that can have anal sex once tried pushing a pregabalin up there and thought how the fuck do they do it
 
yubacity said:
Love licking a women's arse but rather vaginal sex. Will give it to anyone that can have anal sex once tried pushing a pregabalin up there and thought how the fuck do they do it
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Plenty of lube and you start slow and small like with one finger then slowly work your way up.
 
Foreigner said:
This. Heteronormative gay porn has made anal sex seem so common but I know lots of guys who rarely do it. It's a rarity for me as well.
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How the hell is gay porn 'heteronormative'

xtcgrrrl said:
Yes, it feels really good if you have adequate preparation and a partner who is receptive to your needs. Also, if you’re doing it frequently, your butt kinda gets used to it. It was really uncomfortable the first couple of times I tried it, but as I said, my ex-husband had this kink for it, so we did it at least once a week (as long as I had washed in advance!) so yes, it did feel good! Remove the discomfort, and there are definitely nerve endings there that are going to appreciate this activity;)
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OK so remembering basic anatomy, the vaginal canal is only separated from the rectum by a couple layers of tissue. I'm guessing then for women anal can feel good because it sort of 'massages' the vagina -?
 
Syntax said:
no
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Correct.

The actual answer, which Google would have provided which basic anatomy apparently does not teach is that the clitoris actually goes far further into a person's body than what is seen on the surface. So it actually works by stimulating that.

However many assigned female people do not enjoy the feeling, nor can they tolerate even the initiation of this type of sex.

From what I know from speaking to people it's super 50/50. Love it or hate it.
 
TheUltimateFixx said:
How the hell is gay porn 'heteronormative'
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There always has to be fucking. There always has to be "sucking his dick to get it ready" or "getting his hole nice and worked" for the inevitable fuck. There always has to be a top and bottom. Always these prescriptive roles. It's heteronormative.

Many gays many enjoy penetrative sex but we don't have to have it for sex to have occurred.

I enjoy porn with fucking but often the way it plays out is so very A leads to B leads to C, which usually looks like: making out --> jerking off a bit --> sucking/rimming --> fucking... and fucking is the "ultimate". It's so boring, and it's subliminally saying that one guys has to be the man and one has to be the woman. Usually the top is the more dom and the bottom the more submissive. It's a snooze fest.
 
Foreigner said:
There always has to be fucking. There always has to be "sucking his dick to get it ready" or "getting his hole nice and worked" for the inevitable fuck. There always has to be a top and bottom. Always these prescriptive roles. It's heteronormative.

Many gays many enjoy penetrative sex but we don't have to have it for sex to have occurred.

I enjoy porn with fucking but often the way it plays out is so very A leads to B leads to C, which usually looks like: making out --> jerking off a bit --> sucking/rimming --> fucking... and fucking is the "ultimate". It's so boring, and it's subliminally saying that one guys has to be the man and one has to be the woman. Usually the top is the more dom and the bottom the more submissive. It's a snooze fest.
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I don't see the receiving partner as automatically having to be 'submissive'. I think that's more of a male attitude problem per se, nothing specific to heteros. I'm a switch so I'm fine with it both ways, but yeah penetrative sex is not obligatory for there to be sex.

I agree on the porn tending to be formulaic. I'd like to see a bit more variety. What mainly annoys me is that the guy doing the fucking always pulls out for the obligatory money shot. I find that so frustrating to watch because it's not like in real life you'd pull out of a nice arse or someone's mouth just when you get to the best bit in order to finish yourself off with a lame hand job.
 
Syntax said:
i shave all the hair off my body cos i like how it feels for me not cos of how it looks for anyone else
sorry a bit off topic but yeah
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I was being a bit tongue in cheek m'dear 😘
 
Eligiu said:
Correct.

The actual answer, which Google would have provided which basic anatomy apparently does not teach is that the clitoris actually goes far further into a person's body than what is seen on the surface. So it actually works by stimulating that.
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Ok, believe it or not I'm actually aware of the fact that the much larger portion of the clitoral erectile tissue is on the inside of the body, kinda the reverse of the penis. But doesn't that mean that a large part of the satisfaction from vaginal intercourse ALSO comes from the internal parts of the clitoris? And what about what one or two women here have said, that they find the g-spot can be stimulated by anal intercourse, and THAT is definitely inside the vagina?
Eligiu said:
However many assigned female people do not enjoy the feeling, nor can they tolerate even the initiation of this type of sex.
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Well many blokes can't either even if they're as gay as they come.


Also just as a side note, can transsexuals like yourself fucking stop appropriating terminology that doesn't apply to you?!
I know it's fashionable and PC right now to say 'assigned female at birth' for transsexual men, and the opposite for women. But this is simply incorrect, if nothing else. The whole essence of the condition of transsexualism is that the brain is hardwired for an opposite-sexed body, ie what might be called neurological sex and physiological sex do not match.

However the doctor present at the birth observes physiological sex. THAT'S what goes on the register. So if you had a standard female body at birth with no physical abnormalities whatsoever, your sex wasn't assigned to you, it was merely CORRECTLY NOTED.

Sex 'assignment' only meaningfully happens with intersexed individuals, because that's the only case where it would have to be consciously decided what sex to raise the child as. Hell even the majority of intersex people don't get 'assigned', because they need to be VISIBLY intersexed, ie exhibit ambiguous genitalia, in order for a deliberate sex assignment to be thought necessary. And as I hope you're aware, for most historically such a 'sex assignment' meant surgical removal of any clitoral structure deemed too large / penile structure deemed too small, and amounts to genital mutilation.

Of course, and perhaps not surprisingly, a proportion of transsexuals later receive an intersex diagnosis on further investigation ; but unless you have one, or unless there was reasonable doubt about which you were when you were born, STFU using this word just because people like you find it 'validating' or whatever. It's insulting.
According to what you said about yourself so far, you have XX chromosomes and a perfectly normal female reproductive system. Sorry if that sucks, but nobody fucking ASSIGNED you anything.
 
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RDP89 said:
“Weird over the top, violent kinks” Wow, exaggerate much?
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Not really. It's not like i judge.

I place anal sex in a lighter end of the same spectrum as punching and cutting each other up in bed. This is because it has potentially damaging and superfluous additional elements.

If you like putting stuff up a body part that's not designed to have stuff put in it and likely gets somewhat damaged by that, i'm fine with that. Do you really need me to not call it for what it is, too? This entire thread is even about the same thing. There is scientific indication here. You don't have to enter a thread about a topic you're uncomfortable with. Your comment is confused.
 
If this intercourse is allright for both sides.....thst mean it's alright
 
TheUltimateFixx said:
Ok, believe it or not I'm actually aware of the fact that the much larger portion of the clitoral erectile tissue is on the inside of the body, kinda the reverse of the penis. But doesn't that mean that a large part of the satisfaction from vaginal intercourse ALSO comes from the internal parts of the clitoris? And what about what one or two women here have said, that they find the g-spot can be stimulated by anal intercourse, and THAT is definitely inside the vagina?

Well many blokes can't either even if they're as gay as they come.


Also just as a side note, can transsexuals like yourself fucking stop appropriating terminology that doesn't apply to you?!
I know it's fashionable and PC right now to say 'assigned female at birth' for transsexual men, and the opposite for women. But this is simply incorrect, if nothing else. The whole essence of the condition of transsexualism is that the brain is hardwired for an opposite-sexed body, ie what might be called neurological sex and physiological sex do not match.

However the doctor present at the birth observes physiological sex. THAT'S what goes on the register. So if you had a standard female body at birth with no physical abnormalities whatsoever, your sex wasn't assigned to you, it was merely CORRECTLY NOTED.

Sex 'assignment' only meaningfully happens with intersexed individuals, because that's the only case where it would have to be consciously decided what sex to raise the child as. Hell even the majority of intersex people don't get 'assigned', because they need to be VISIBLY intersexed, ie exhibit ambiguous genitalia, in order for a deliberate sex assignment to be thought necessary. And as I hope you're aware, for most historically such a 'sex assignment' meant surgical removal of any clitoral structure deemed too large / penile structure deemed too small, and amounts to genital mutilation.

Of course, and perhaps not surprisingly, a proportion of transsexuals later receive an intersex diagnosis on further investigation ; but unless you have one, or unless there was reasonable doubt about which you were when you were born, STFU using this word just because people like you find it 'validating' or whatever. It's insulting.
According to what you said about yourself so far, you have XX chromosomes and a perfectly normal female reproductive system. Sorry if that sucks, but nobody fucking ASSIGNED you anything.
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It's the terminology that is currently used. If you have an alternative that acknowledges the fact that I'm not actually a woman (although until recently, I *did* have reason to suspect being intersex and just couldn't afford genetic testing - and I mean very recently), then I'm happy to use use alternative terminology which acknowledges my needs as well as not affecting your sensibilities.

But again, can you please resist using any time I post about being trans to start an argument with me. I'm willing to hear your alternative suggestions, but I'd appreciate you not just attacking me any time I mention being trans. It's getting very tiring. I don't go out of my way to negatively interact with your posts, and it's unhelpful to just respond with criticism without suggesting another term(s) which you don't find offensive, repeatedly, especially when your views do not align entirely and 100% with the views of the intersex community as a whole, and therefore I've been basing my terminology off what intersex activists I follow on social media have said to use.

I'm not going to engage in this with you further, if you can't respond with some reasonable suggestions. It is possible to be polite and informative when you respond to people with criticism, and I know you're autistic, but I am as well and I make a point now to try not to just come off as what is pushing the envelope of being direct and moving into different territory. If you continue doing this, frankly I'm just going to put you on ignore and then stop interacting with you if you can't at least be civil because it's really something to call me 'gender confused' in one comment, then miss all the times I've mentioned suspecting being intersex until literally weeks ago (and doctors also suspecting it), and then to aggressively tell me not to use the only terminology I have available which other intersex people are fine with, and not offer an alternative which you don't find offensive.

I'd appreciate it, but it's up to you.

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