This is a known problem of pornography. The unrealistic standards, the fucked up power dynamics,the escalation (as with drugs) into harder and harder stuff. Not saying this is the root of al the problems in your relationship, it's probably symptomatic, but it is a prime driver as far as fucking up the sexual dynamics of men and women. I mean maybe find out what he is into in pornography (although prepared to be disturbed) and think about acting out some of those fantasies (assuming they are not too disturbing for you.) Also, of course, couples' sex drive does not always match and waxes and wains not always in sync with one another. Some of this is natural. Some of it is beyond that, and problematic; the pornography probably falls into that direction. There is a lot of reading to do about pornography from various perspectives (religious, feminist, criminalist, etc.) NoFap looks like an interesting forum/resource for men who have trouble with pornography. It may give some insight. It really is a genuine problem in society and is not a harmless thing that it is perceived: not only, the horrific exploitation of almost all of the women involved except perhaps some at the very pinnacle of the business, and also the effect on men, and on a tertiary level, the women who are in relationships with those men. It is sad. But I think the pornography angle is one to be pursued. There are a lot of resources online and elsewhere that deal with the problem and those affeceted by it and from various perspectives.
Hang in there bro. Start fucking her brains out and maybe she will come around. Good sex on a constant basis will change anyones point of view eventually. Seriously though, don't give up hopeGeez, that's like 3 times longer than I thought. Really sorry about the book! I just always try to give lots of info and details when seeking help.
Sorry!!!
This is a known problem of pornography. The unrealistic standards, the fucked up power dynamics,the escalation (as with drugs) into harder and harder stuff. Not saying this is the root of al the problems in your relationship, it's probably symptomatic, but it is a prime driver as far as fucking up the sexual dynamics of men and women. I mean maybe find out what he is into in pornography (although prepared to be disturbed) and think about acting out some of those fantasies (assuming they are not too disturbing for you.) Also, of course, couples' sex drive does not always match and waxes and wains not always in sync with one another. Some of this is natural. Some of it is beyond that, and problematic; the pornography probably falls into that direction. There is a lot of reading to do about pornography from various perspectives (religious, feminist, criminalist, etc.) NoFap looks like an interesting forum/resource for men who have trouble with pornography. It may give some insight. It really is a genuine problem in society and is not a harmless thing that it is perceived: not only, the horrific exploitation of almost all of the women involved except perhaps some at the very pinnacle of the business, and also the effect on men, and on a tertiary level, the women who are in relationships with those men. It is sad. But I think the pornography angle is one to be pursued. There are a lot of resources online and elsewhere that deal with the problem and those affeceted by it and from various perspectives.