Hi Bright Star,
I've been following your story starting with the thread your mom made, and of course, since you've joined and started this. And I just wanted to send you some love. I can sense the sincerity of your words, and the authenticity of who you are, what you want and where you're going, and what your family means to you. Even the handle you chose, bright_star. Idk. It's just lovely and evokes goodness.
Reading about what that girl said you makes me so mad. And listen, baby girl, it has NOTHING to do with you and everything to do with them. Whether they say it because, like TPD said, they are trolls or get off on putting others down, or think it's cool to kick people while their low, it doesn't matter. All of it is ugly. And people see that. No one thinks that's cool, unless they too have hate in their hearts. Its drama and it's dumb and it serves no purpose. So please, if you ever see that girl and she causing you trouble or makes you question, for one single second, your worth, or makes you think about changing your life to avoid her, stop. Just stop and think to yourself 'what does this person's opinion mean to me?'
And as a general rule, unless this person is someone you care for, or you respect, or someone that wants what is best for you, the answer should be "not at all".
There is a quote that I love "
We are so vain that we even care for the
opinion of those
we don't care for." - Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach. And while I am not vain, and I don't get the sense that you are, the point remains the same: why would we care about the opinion of someone we don't even like? It's madness. The people closest to us know our heart, those are the people that matter.
Hold your head up high, focus on your goals, and fuck those people. Seriously. Their insides are ugly; and you, my dear, are a bright_star* A phoenix raising from the ash. Embody that power. What you're doing now shows your strength.
As a side note: You may even want to consider deactivating facebook for a little while. It's so negative, so often. I quit all the time. Just quietly deactivate my account when I need a break, and sometimes, yes, it's because life is tough and I need to lick my wounds without being bombarded with hate. There's plenty of really great blogs, forums out there to chew up your time. I really like instragram because I can cultivate the kind of influence I'm allowing into my life. After all, we become who we hang out with, what we read, and watch.
Wishing you all the best. If you ever need a friend, my name is Jordan and I'd be happy to be buddies. Love to you, girl.