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I just need to post Vs. wisdom, beauty, and baggage.. here hold this bag and ponder.

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Are you new to the group Evelei? If that's the case then perhaps they know each other because they've been going for a while and that's why they meet up outside afterwards. You should just join in if you want to, I'm sure they won't shun you, people at meetings are quite friendly. Sometimes people tend to feel intimidated at events where others have friends/clicks/groups and you're the new person, but if you join in and introduce yourself it might help you make some friends there and feel less outcasted.

Was the meeting set for 1:30 before you started going? If the meeting is set for a certain time I don't think it would be probable that they'd be able to change it for one person. Perhaps you should find a meeting that would better fit your schedule if this one is interfering with your ability to pick up your daughter.
 
Went to the physician/doctor about some shoulder pain that I had, I thought I slept on my side too much

Turns out I did

And I have scoliosis :\ I thought everyone just had this back pain from sitting down I thought I had a "what society would call normal" body kind of thing.

I can still walk talk breathe eat and smoke the same way as I did this morning, but Idk, there is now an actual diagnosis and now I think I will always be ultra careful about my back for the rest of my life.

I don't know how to really take this. But there are millions of people in the world with this diagnosis (and a whole lot worse) so in all serious I don't think have anything to complain about.

But I can't help but just feel uneasy about all this.
 
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No I'm one of the original members when we started up the meetings a few months ago. At the beginning it was going to be for 1:30 but I asked if it could be changed to 1 pm as I have to pick my child up (I can't drive due to my sight so I have to catch buses which is a half hour bus ride. Although she goes to after school club for an hour they are snal if you're so much as a minute late). They all agree there was only five there then. But now this new lot of people have started attending who are lohd n I feel imtimidate but they are nice if that makes sense.
One of these people set up a Facebook page n keeps telling everyone it starts at 1;30 pm. I know it may seem a little thing but that was one of the things I liked about this group - that I was included n what I felt mattered.

I feel that these people have just joined n are taken over n I don't know what to do because I don't want conflict over it but if they get this then what next is going to change. I just think the best thing is for me to stop going that way I can't get into confluct with them. I really don't want to fall out over it arrrggg

Thanks for listening n for advice.

Evey xxx

PS : ios7 is getting on my wik grrr
 
^^ is this a 12 step meeting that you helped start???

Why is there Facebook advertising if it is? (if not thats cool, but if it's 12 step anything Facebook related is a major violation of the traditions)


Otherwise, ask the secretary to take a group conscience next meeting, if 51% of the group is ok with 1 rather than 130, then it's settled and regardless of what people post on Facebook, its 1.

(seriously, with the Facebook stuff i really hope this isn't a 12 step group...)
 
No it's not I explained in my original post that it's a new group :) but Why is Facebook a major violation if it was NA? I'm confused. they've made a Facebook page to spread the word round so that we can get new members
I did not reay want Facebook involved with it but it is so I have to live with it.

Re uni - My key worker (saw her today) advised me to go to uni n arrange to see the leader of the course n explain what has been going on with me et. My mam thinks I should do similar n explain how the other members are not bothering me due to my disability. I've arranged a tutorial for Friday n also arrangef to go through my assignment with study skill, also on Friday. Also my passion has come back for the course n I need to explain this encase I've failed the other assignment to as i wasn't really me last June n I squeesed too many modules in considering I wasn't well. I would not have done that if I'd broken my arm so I shouldn't have with my addiction. Lesson learnt. Please God, don't let it be too late.
Evey x
 
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No I'm one of the original members when we started up the meetings a few months ago. At the beginning it was going to be for 1:30 but I asked if it could be changed to 1 pm as I have to pick my child up (I can't drive due to my sight so I have to catch buses which is a half hour bus ride. Although she goes to after school club for an hour they are snal if you're so much as a minute late). They all agree there was only five there then. But now this new lot of people have started attending who are lohd n I feel imtimidate but they are nice if that makes sense.
One of these people set up a Facebook page n keeps telling everyone it starts at 1;30 pm. I know it may seem a little thing but that was one of the things I liked about this group - that I was included n what I felt mattered.

I feel that these people have just joined n are taken over n I don't know what to do because I don't want conflict over it but if they get this then what next is going to change. I just think the best thing is for me to stop going that way I can't get into confluct with them. I really don't want to fall out over it arrrggg

Thanks for listening n for advice.

Evey xxx

PS : ios7 is getting on my wik grrr
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If you guys agreed on the time of 1 at one point, I believe you should bring it up regardless of the new members. You mentioned the team leader being at your uni, I think you should mention it to them and see if they can make a difference.

The worst thing that could happen is you could fall out due to it, so if you think it would be best, perhaps finding a new group in the meantime and perhaps the team leader can help out with the situation.
 
allright.. of to work out.. I feel good and am going to hit it hard.. then off to do a little present shopping.
 
No my uni has nothing to do with my recovery meeting. Speaking of uni I really need to take a break from Bluelight to get myself sorted. I am going to fail this masters if I don't n paying £650 a module is a lot of money to lose. Plus think I'm over-training because everytime I sit down I'm literally nodding n it's hard fighting it. So if I don't reply to you all you know why.
Please take care, Evey xxxx
 
Ah, you confused me as you mentioned uni and the meeting in the same post so it seemed as though it was a uni based group.

Time off is good at times. Best of luck to you with your course and your meetings :).
 
Sooo I'm starting kick boxing classes soon =D

It'll be a good way for me to get out all this pent up anger haha
 
^ Charlie says this may be just what you need:D

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You better! get that body rocking in the gym

Also don't forget us with the present shopping lol
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I did.. the soreness from the 20 hour cramp in my shoulder finally is going away.. Im going to really hit it hard.. I want the body of atlas by summer..

Its kinda crazy how fast im getting stronger..
 
^ don't forget to take pics of the Atlast body in summer

What is your routine atm? I am doubling my effort and I want a rocking toned abs by next year. Early next year if possible. The only thing is I am failing on the eating part lols
 
Today I walked a mile.. 2.5 at 5.8 veloc and incline of 2.5 and then waled a half.. sorry must remember the rest of the world.. walked 1.6K ran 4k at ~9.8 Kph (I hope thats right as i never looked at the units) and 2.5 incline and walked another .8 K.. then I lifted legs.. extension, squat, curl, extension, calves, (will add in groin soon) then triceps, and wrists.. tomorrow run again and chest, incline, bench, decline, Bi's, and part of back,.. next day run and abs, shoulders, and remainder of back or a core type thing.. I vary it allot.. but unless its my legs I mostly stick to really high reps and low wights.. mix in a few five by five sets, and pyramids when i plateau or want to rip and grow a bit.. but as im 245 pounds i dont really want or need to much bulk.. mix it all up between free and machine.. strongest are my legs.. slid the max on the whole damn press machine including finishing with calves at the end for four sets of twelve, so i will need to move to the free rack, just allot easier with the other.. but like us all im not nearly that strong in my weak areas.. real strong in back, legs, and arms.. not so much so in chest.. yeah so like I have been benching large rep pyramids with real low weights.. starting out with the bar and fifty reps and adding 5 ponds per and dropping three to five reps till I fail.. of course there are tons more things I haven't mentioned when I get my full routine going.. should be going by crassmass.. but I keep it pretty simple.

whats your routine like?
 
I'm following the 30 day butt challenge and 30 day beach body challenge. On top of that 30 to 40 min cardio then 200 to 400 crunches or 200 russian twists depending on how I feel. Its like a mini boot camp per say lol. The only thing I need to control is the eating part lol I just can't seem to control myself when I see a chocolate bar in front of me like its callling my name to devour it.
 
better you than me.. why so many reps and no weight as opposed to weight and lower reps.. calorie burning?
 
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I've actually done a few last sunday. I think I should change to every other day I feel like I'm burning bmyself out.
 
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