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Youre either the girl hes screwing or the one he's bringing home to mom...

Update: Had a longggg discussion with with my bf about all the thoughts racing through my mind. He made more time for me this week, 3x the usual, and admitted that hes not used to having to plan his schedule around anyone besides himself. I dont think he realized just how upset I was over it, even though I brought the topic up before. I guess we'll see how it goes, if promises are lived up to and if his actions speak for themselves.

THANK YOU EVERYONE SO MUCH FOR YOUR ADVICE :) It means a lot!
 
Well, a guy who's too dependent on his girlfriend is not really the strongest or the best protecter. Also, the way human nature works, as soon as you get what you want, you start taking it for granted and start thinking of the next thing you want. But don't beg him for more attention because it doesn't work.

If you want him to show more interest give him some space and start acting more like he does. Don't text him 50 times a day, wait for him to initiate contact and be the one he can't reach, so he gets a chance to feel he wants to be with you. Having said that, if his interest level wad really high he would probably want to be in touch with you almost every day.
 
I think you have a good bf... Everyone has downsides like him not giving you enough time... The way I see it, he's a keeper, he's working hard now to lay foundations for a solid future. Stick with him and share that future.
I'm 25 and through circumstances out of my control lost everything and just spent 2 years surviving. Met my gf and in 5 months Iv changed my life. I want to work hard n make something of myself for OUR future I had to nip over to Australia for 2 weeks a month back and she couldn't understand it. But now she sees it how I do, Im punching my cunt out at work so we can hopefully buy a house by end of the year. I think girls priorities change with age, most younger girls want the guy that's popular and have a top car (by top car I mean a shitty corsa C with an ill fitting body kit and a sub in the boot) when girls get a bit older they realise they need a bf with prospects and a future....
 
Ninae said:
Well, a guy who's too dependent on his girlfriend is not really the strongest or the best protecter. Also, the way human nature works, as soon as you get what you want, you start taking it for granted and start thinking of the next thing you want. But don't beg him for more attention because it doesn't work.

If you want him to show more interest give him some space and start acting more like he does. Don't text him 50 times a day, wait for him to initiate contact and be the one he can't reach, so he gets a chance to feel he wants to be with you. Having said that, if his interest level wad really high he would probably want to be in touch with you almost every day.
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whose asking for a protector? I dont think the OP is seeking out a "strong macho man" to develop dependancy with. ALSO a guy that is too dependent on his mother cant really be considered a 'strong protector'

fuck that. sporadic and considerate gestures that make you feel special are the perks of being exclusive with someone. The OP deserves that.
 
carlenacel said:
fuck that. sporadic and considerate gestures that make you feel special are the perks of being exclusive with someone. The OP deserves that.
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Are they always the perk of being exclusive? Empirical evidence suggests not? Are they not absent in non-exclusive scenarios? I do sporadic and considerate things for my GF, despite not being, thus again, empirical evidence disproves that.
 
carlenacel said:
whose asking for a protector? I dont think the OP is seeking out a "strong macho man" to develop dependancy with. ALSO a guy that is too dependent on his mother cant really be considered a 'strong protector'

fuck that. sporadic and considerate gestures that make you feel special are the perks of being exclusive with someone. The OP deserves that.
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Thank you for understanding me <3
 
mr.buffnstuff said:
I think you have a good bf... Everyone has downsides like him not giving you enough time... The way I see it, he's a keeper, he's working hard now to lay foundations for a solid future. Stick with him and share that future.
I'm 25 and through circumstances out of my control lost everything and just spent 2 years surviving. Met my gf and in 5 months Iv changed my life. I want to work hard n make something of myself for OUR future I had to nip over to Australia for 2 weeks a month back and she couldn't understand it. But now she sees it how I do, Im punching my cunt out at work so we can hopefully buy a house by end of the year. I think girls priorities change with age, most younger girls want the guy that's popular and have a top car (by top car I mean a shitty corsa C with an ill fitting body kit and a sub in the boot) when girls get a bit older they realise they need a bf with prospects and a future....
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I agree, a few years ago I just wanted someone to have fun with but now I'm looking for someone for the longterm (if its meant to be!). Once we spoke in depth about it, and he told me he just wasnt used to having to delegate his busy schedule for anyone but himself (said in much nicer way lol) it made me realize that no ones perfect and he may not have realized how big of a deal it was to me. He is trying hard to establish himself and I want to be a supportive girlfriend without losing sight of my own needs.


Like the 5 love languages: touch, gifts, quality time, practical help (ok forget real name for this one), and positive affirmations. some ppl put more emphasis on certain ones over others. Quality time is huge for me, i feel if someone truly loves me theyll want to make the extra time to spend together. Other ppl are different. I took it very very personally that he didnt want to spend more time with me, and now I think he realizes how important it is to me and is willing to make a change. He gets so unifocuses anal on a task (like work) that he loses sight of everything else, and now that hes in a relationship that cant fly. This week we spent 3 days together, which is perfect for me, and hes been texting me daily just to check in and say hello. He told me he cares about me very much and that he wants me in his life. On a side note i think he was starting to take me for granted, so im glad i re-voiced my feelings and were starting to hash things out. Hopefully things continue this way, bc he rly does have a ton of great qualities.

I just want to love and be loved- is that too much to ask? lol relationships can be so tough
 
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