Worried about hubby, he is misusing viagra?

[sara_wifer]

My husband and me makelove 3 times everyday (i mean intercourse at 7am and 1am. and other things at 7pm). He is really good at it but he wants to come 4-5 times per day because when i visited him at work he noticed my undies wet that told him i had come recently. And a few nights ago he woke up and noticed me with my finger rubbing myself. He said he wants to come more to please me and so he got viagra tablets from his friend and said hes going to start using them soon. I read though that people only supposed to use them if they have a malfunction. So is it dangerous for him?

 

[effie]

Viagra (sildenafil) is a prescription medicine, so ideally your husband should be assessed by a doctor and it prescribed by them.. we are on BL and a lot of people take prescription meds that haven't been prescribed to them here.

There are a few conditions that could be dangerous with viagra - low blood pressure, severe liver or kidney disease, recent heart attack/stroke, use of a drug in the nitrate class (like GTN) or people for whom sexual intercourse poses a risk to (usually people with severe heart disease). The main side effects are headache, flushing, blurred vision, nasal congestion and priapism (an erection that doesn't go away and needs urgent medical attention). Rarely it can also cause visual problems, and sex itself taxes the heart and circulation - it is fine for most people, but as I mentioned if your husband has heart disease then it can put it under extra strain and can precipitate heart attacks (this is rare). If your husband is concerned about any of these things, he should stop taking it and see a doctor..

Yes, it is supposed to be for people with erectile dysfunction, but a lot of people take it to enhance their sex life. It sounds like both you and your husband have a pretty high sex-drive - if you are happy with how things are then that is fine, but it might be better to have a discussion with your husband about your sex life and work out something that suits you both, to avoid the need for him to take a medication like viagra off prescription.. several times a day is higher than the average amount of sex couples get, but if it suits you both then it is absolutely fine! However taking a medication so you can have sex 4-5 times a day rather than 2-3 seems a little extreme to me.. there are other things your husband can do to please you apart from full intercourse, maybe that would be a better plan? Your husband might be feeling insecure too, and needing a bit of reassurance that you are happy with him and your sex life the way it is without hik needing to take viagra..

Good luck! Bear in mind this is not a medical site and is no substitute for seeking medical attention. If you like I can move this to Sex, Love and Relationships if you want to discuss your current situation further..

 

[debaser]

Viagra in itself isn't a monster that'll One Hit Kill you Just respect the doses and the tiger will respect you

 

[sara_wifer]

Viagra (sildenafil) is a prescription medicine, so ideally your husband should be assessed by a doctor and it prescribed by them.. we are on BL and a lot of people take prescription meds that haven't been prescribed to them here.

There are a few conditions that could be dangerous with viagra - low blood pressure, severe liver or kidney disease, recent heart attack/stroke, use of a drug in the nitrate class (like GTN) or people for whom sexual intercourse poses a risk to (usually people with severe heart disease). The main side effects are headache, flushing, blurred vision, nasal congestion and priapism (an erection that doesn't go away and needs urgent medical attention). Rarely it can also cause visual problems, and sex itself taxes the heart and circulation - it is fine for most people, but as I mentioned if your husband has heart disease then it can put it under extra strain and can precipitate heart attacks (this is rare). If your husband is concerned about any of these things, he should stop taking it and see a doctor..

Yes, it is supposed to be for people with erectile dysfunction, but a lot of people take it to enhance their sex life. It sounds like both you and your husband have a pretty high sex-drive - if you are happy with how things are then that is fine, but it might be better to have a discussion with your husband about your sex life and work out something that suits you both, to avoid the need for him to take a medication like viagra off prescription.. several times a day is higher than the average amount of sex couples get, but if it suits you both then it is absolutely fine! However taking a medication so you can have sex 4-5 times a day rather than 2-3 seems a little extreme to me.. there are other things your husband can do to please you apart from full intercourse, maybe that would be a better plan? Your husband might be feeling insecure too, and needing a bit of reassurance that you are happy with him and your sex life the way it is without hik needing to take viagra..

Good luck! Bear in mind this is not a medical site and is no substitute for seeking medical attention. If you like I can move this to Sex, Love and Relationships if you want to discuss your current situation further..

Sorry, should have put it in relationships/s3x section, so yep please put it in that thanks muchly effie
Good its good that you are like me and think its not a good idea I think if i did not get caught by him in bed and if i wore fresh panties to his work, he would not of looked for sildenafil. I like doing some things without him anyway as my friend said its normal to. I will try and convince him against sildenafil for sure. Thanks!

Viagra in itself isn't a monster that'll One Hit Kill you Just respect the doses and the tiger will respect you

If he does take it I hope he reads a lot or sees a doctor. My friend said vigra makes guys always big even after he bursts lol.

 

[Oxide]

Moved to SLR per OP's request.

 

[nAON]

Do you guys use any other drugs together? There are a lot of drugs that can make guys last longer, plus doing em together in bed might spice things up

But yeah, may be worth checking out the sex/love forum for more info on stuff like this.

EDIT: ninja'd by oxide

 

[sara_wifer]

Moved to SLR per OP's request.

Hi Oxide thank you

Do you guys use any other drugs together? There are a lot of drugs that can make guys last longer, plus doing em together in bed might spice things up

But yeah, may be worth checking out the sex/love forum for more info on stuff like this.

EDIT: ninja'd by oxide

I m so dumb when it come to drugs. I do not even know what to take for a cough/cold

 

[augustaB]

Don't worry too much about it. If he's already doing it 3 times a day, I'm sure that Viagra or not his willy will become too sensitive to want to do it much more.
Taking viagra is not entirely pleasant. It gives some people a flushed feeling, some people find that it alters their colour perception, etc.
It's not wise to combine it with poppers, as poppers lower blood pressure. Viagra + poppers will often give the user blue lips (a sign of cyanosis).
Personally I think Cialis is pleasanter to use, as it is effective over a longer period of time. However frequent use gives me unpleasant muscular cramps.
Anyway I hope you enjoy what he's got to offer and if he can't his willy in action, why not ask him to give you head?

 

[sara_wifer]

Don't worry too much about it. If he's already doing it 3 times a day, I'm sure that Viagra or not his willy will become too sensitive to want to do it much more.
Taking viagra is not entirely pleasant. It gives some people a flushed feeling, some people find that it alters their colour perception, etc.
It's not wise to combine it with poppers, as poppers lower blood pressure. Viagra + poppers will often give the user blue lips (a sign of cyanosis).
Personally I think Cialis is pleasanter to use, as it is effective over a longer period of time. However frequent use gives me unpleasant muscular cramps.
Anyway I hope you enjoy what he's got to offer and if he can't his willy in action, why not ask him to give you head?

He does h3ad but i accidentally said 2 weeks ago that riding on his lap is my favorite. If i never said that he probabaly wouldnt be so hungg up on being hard always

 

[lola]

He sounds like he has a lot of insecurities about pleasing you sexually and that any suggestion of you being sexual without him (e.g. masturbating) makes him jealous because he's worried that he's not meeting your needs. Same about him always wanting to be hard for you so you can ride him.

I'd suggest that instead of (probably unintentionally) putting him in a position where he grinds himself to the ground in the attempt to be a megasuper lover to you, just give him lots of reassurance and explain to him that:
1. You will always want to have sexy time with yourself occasionally, even if you had sex 100 times a day; having intercourse is not the same as self-pleasuring, and in a healthy sexual relationship there should be room for both. This is not a comment about his performance in any way and noting to get insecure about.
2. You are very satisfied sexually and you don't need him to fuck you any more than he already does to prove to you that he's a great lover. You understand he's not a machine and you don't want to be married to a machine that performs on demand. Also indicate to him that sometimes it's ok if one of you is tired or not in the mood - being under pressure to perform is very stressful, especially to men.
3. Tell him how much you loooove him giving you head and you don't always have to fuck to be sexually satisfied. I don't care if actually you prefer intercourse, you need to understand that giving head is a man's way of feeling like he's "man enough" and able to please his lady even if he's not up to fucking. Accept the gesture and don't be greedy.

I bet that if you follow these steps, he will no longer feel the need to impress you with his constantly throbbing manhood

Lola

^ I wanted to add, you posted this in a different thread: "when i have one org i need another org really soon after" and this made you uncomfortable when you he took you out for dinner after having sex. I'm not sure how to say it but if he's not 18, and he's working, and he's treating you right and fucking you twice a day + giving you head in the evening and taking you out for dinners, you might need to ask yourself if your sexual demands are so high that he would feel he needs a viagra just to feel good enough. I mean, most women would be very grateful to have sex in the morning, then in the evening, then be taken out for dinner. I'm not belittling the fact that you need 2 orgasm to feel satisfied, but maybe you can give yourself the second one with him there or something, so it takes the pressure off him? Just a thought...

 

[sara_wifer]

LOLA thanks i printed your 3 main ideas and i will talk about them with hubby!

Self-pleasure is a good idea for sure, its fun and lots of ways to do it even though i dont have toys (but lots of smart types of lingerie). I think i will talk about how fun it is to pleasure nyself and so hopefully it will make him feel like not all the pressure is on him

Lol his throbbing manhood is so cool to read/say hehehehehehhehhhee!

This idea about my 2nd org with him still there is such a smart idea thanks Lola! Today i got to ride his lap in the car (when we had stopped driving for sure) and i had ‘one’ and then we arrived at the beach and i got sensations from putting lotion on and had ‘two’, so it worked ideally and he saw:D

 

[lola]

Hey, glad you found it useful :D

I think introducing self-pleasure into your lovemaking would be great, esp since you sound like a very passionate woman, and most men find it a turn on anyway. I would suggest you get some toys - a little clit vibrator is always fun, a rabbit if you want him to watch you fuck yourself with it - and have some fun that isn't so focused on him penetrating you. What's the saying? The brain is our biggest sex organ. If he feels he is satisfying you in other ways he'll be more chilled. Oh and if you do get a rabbit you can always put it inside you and suck him while you give him the remote control, so he can decide how fast it should go... it's a good way to give him some control back as some man can initially be intimidated by toys. And one last tip: NEVER buy a dildo that's bigger than his cock, unless you know for a fact he'll be cool about that!

 

[sara_wifer]

Hey, glad you found it useful :D

I think introducing self-pleasure into your lovemaking would be great, esp since you sound like a very passionate woman, and most men find it a turn on anyway. I would suggest you get some toys - a little clit vibrator is always fun, a rabbit if you want him to watch you fuck yourself with it - and have some fun that isn't so focused on him penetrating you. What's the saying? The brain is our biggest sex organ. If he feels he is satisfying you in other ways he'll be more chilled. Oh and if you do get a rabbit you can always put it inside you and suck him while you give him the remote control, so he can decide how fast it should go... it's a good way to give him some control back as some man can initially be intimidated by toys. And one last tip: NEVER buy a dildo that's bigger than his cock, unless you know for a fact he'll be cool about that!

Thanx! That is so smart about the sizes
Just thinking about toys is really fun/exciting
My friend gave me vibrating panties with a control i will try tonight, so fun!

 

[lola]

Why not take him to a sex shop, go shopping together, it's a fun day out and there's just so much to choose from out there!! But again, try to go for things that are not penetration-centred (so avoid the vibrating cock ring, etc. however much fun it can be) and go for things that make you come without him penetrating you, to take the pressure off and so you can pleasure yourself in front of him/with him controlling the vibrator...

 

[sara_wifer]

Why not take him to a sex shop, go shopping together, it's a fun day out and there's just so much to choose from out there!! But again, try to go for things that are not penetration-centred (so avoid the vibrating cock ring, etc. however much fun it can be) and go for things that make you come without him penetrating you, to take the pressure off and so you can pleasure yourself in front of him/with him controlling the vibrator...

This is so fun! Will ask if we can go to that shop absolutely I love toys its so fun to imagine trying them!!