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Women who date guys who live in their car...

i wont date someone if they don't have their own place. a car isn't a place its a vehicle and the sex is cramped and it lacks a shower etc.

so big red flag from me
 
I have been thinking about a serious relationship. Honestly, I haven't considered one night stands at any point in my life... I have heard of the drug dealer life style where they have girls that depend on them for drugs but I'm not a drug dealer. I wouldn't be interested in a girl if I found out she had an addiction to drugs like meth. Reason being is that I wouldn't want to be exposed to the drugs she is using or the people that she knows.

The reason I dont have work is because I have a mental health problem that disqualifies me from my last job and is preventing me from finding another. I've been thinking that I could start paint or do produce some sort of art that people would like. Specifically art that someone could hang on their wall.

I want to meet women that I would be satisfied with. It's rare that I see one that I want. When I someone I want I tell myself that I have nothing to offer them right now and to not even bother. I'm thinking that I should change this attitude but it seems that when ever I try to talk to someone a dark entity takes over my mind and prevents me from speaking or makes me mumble ect. Could this be a form of social anxiety? The only times I have ever been able to talk to females is when I don't really want to procreate with. Its like there is a barrier between me and what I really want.

When I said I cant provide financial security I mean that I don't have a reliable income. I couldn't protect her from anything since I have no money, no house, ect. I think your right about not getting into a serious relationship but what other options do I have? Could I make friends with her in such a short period
of time that she would exchange contact information? In my experience it is better to take things slow anyways when it comes to starting a serious relationship.
 
^Yes, I'd say that could be a form of social anxiety, but that being said, the danger with giving these kinds of things a label is that it tends to make the problem seem insurmountable, when in the end it might actually be fairly easy to overcome. From what you've said about yourself, it would seem your fear of talking to women you're romantically/sexually interested in comes from your lack of confidence in your current situation, so I'd imagine that if you can get the latter sorted, your anxiety would disappear/diminish as well, and it would therefore seem smarter to focus on your situation rather than on your anxiety at the moment. Another reason for that is that as you've seen from this thread, most women (myself included) wouldn't be that enthusastic about dating someone who lives in his car :\ I'm sure I don't have to point out the reasons. I really think your best bet is to work on improving your current living situation and all that comes with it, and that other things will fall into place naturally once that's sorted. I really hope things work out for you quickly and I'm sorry to hear you've got to deal with this.
 
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Yeah I agree. Everything will fall into place once you start focusing on yourself and improving your situation. Relationships are great, but they really cant happen (at least not healthy ones) unless you're at a good/stable point in your life. It will happen naturally when you get yourself together.
 
I agree with the above posters. Focus on bettering your mental health, first and foremost. That will make things so, so much easier. To have confidence that you're well and as good as anyone else.
When you're prepped for life, things have a odd way of falling into place. Focus on yourself and good things will follow. That sounds ridiculously cliched but sometimes that nonsense is legit.
 
psychlopath said:
I have been thinking about a serious relationship. Honestly, I haven't considered one night stands at any point in my life... I have heard of the drug dealer life style where they have girls that depend on them for drugs but I'm not a drug dealer. I wouldn't be interested in a girl if I found out she had an addiction to drugs like meth. Reason being is that I wouldn't want to be exposed to the drugs she is using or the people that she knows.

The reason I dont have work is because I have a mental health problem that disqualifies me from my last job and is preventing me from finding another. I've been thinking that I could start paint or do produce some sort of art that people would like. Specifically art that someone could hang on their wall.

I want to meet women that I would be satisfied with. It's rare that I see one that I want. When I someone I want I tell myself that I have nothing to offer them right now and to not even bother. I'm thinking that I should change this attitude but it seems that when ever I try to talk to someone a dark entity takes over my mind and prevents me from speaking or makes me mumble ect. Could this be a form of social anxiety? The only times I have ever been able to talk to females is when I don't really want to procreate with. Its like there is a barrier between me and what I really want.

When I said I cant provide financial security I mean that I don't have a reliable income. I couldn't protect her from anything since I have no money, no house, ect. I think your right about not getting into a serious relationship but what other options do I have? Could I make friends with her in such a short period
of time that she would exchange contact information? In my experience it is better to take things slow anyways when it comes to starting a serious relationship.
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Im not sure that I really understand what your comments about not being a drug dealer and about drug dealers' lifestyles and women depending on them has to do with anything here..not sure why you brought that up in relation to your concerns..

Also, I am curious about how old you are...you also said that you have never considered a one night stand type deal and i am wondering if you have been in a lot of relationships or no?
 
i mean, in the beginning stages of your relationship you could avoid going back to your car, if its that important.. i mean the only alternative is, theoretically her house, but unless youre a dirty bum with only one pair of clothes and a heavy booze habit, you could pull it off dude..
 
hmm how much does it cost to rent a Lamborghini diablo for the day?

I'm actually thinking about not talking about my living situation or at least try to avoid it if I meet someone. Thanks for the advice people. :\
 
For real thanks things do fall into place for me depending on how I take care of myself.
 
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This.
Just take care of yourself and improve your personal situation one bit at a time. The romantic situation will come along when the times right (i wont elaborate more as im already going all mills and fucking boon.lol).
Also, post back and let us know how your get on. Its nice hearing a BL success story (there arent many.lol).
 
I would, but I'm adventurous, and by adventurous, I mean I'm not sure I count as in my right mind.

To be honest, I can see myself having more interest in a guy who lives out of their car than one who gets pampered living with their mother (no offense to any blers in that situation).
 
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