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Why women are attracted to the assholes

I've posted this several times before, but I shall post it again:


QUESTION:

Why are women attracted to men who are asholes?


ANSWER:

They're not.

Women are attracted to men who are good-looking, wealthy and confident.

The "asshole" part is kind of like cole slaw.

Nobody ever orders it . . .

. . . but sometimes . . .

. . . it comes with the meal."
 
Women are attracted to confidence. What do you do when you are at your most confident that everything will go right? You dont try as hard, and you do what you want. For example no one is in my room right now, Im totally uninhibitted, I feel confident, Im likley to do anything at any moment. I could get in my underwear and start dancing if I wanted to. Putting a specific gender on a pedastal, forgive me, is just stupid. There is nothing special that you should be thinking of around girls thats going to enhance your chances. Just have fun in whatever your surroundings are, try and not getting nervous just because she has a cunt.

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I really need to start reading other posts before I post lol
 
Rhombus said:
This theory doesn't make much sense to me. What you've described is a circumstance which would select for males who look out for wolves instead of feeling warm and fuzzy. If this picture were something that actually happened a lot thousands of years ago, then today no men would feel warm and fuzzy.
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i guess i'd have to prove fact to claim that depression hasn't risen over the few decades, but even if i did one could argue it has only been our abilities to diagnose it. so i won't bother, except to say i'm sure i've heard it or read it somewhere for australia at least.
 
YEah, I getwhere everyone is going with these replies.

Hey fuck you right, this is just where I person who thinks too much, and isn't prepared for the world ends up in a worldlike this. Not knowing how to understand things, and realising that he is just the toilet that his father flushed all his pityful time and effort down the toielt for and just wound up a disappoint for, and either I'll kill myself or I get him to kil himself but he doesn't deserve to because he's the one who was messed up enough to put in just the right amount of effort but in the wrong places turn me into an unsuccessful loser, god I wish he'd kill himself then I'd have somethign to live for...I'm nothing but a disappointment to him and everytime I look at a woman I feel guilty and I'm afraid that I might be gay and I'm posting on a forum thread drunk by myself at home whilst hoping to meet a girl off the internet who I hope isn't too fat.

All I did is live in a dream world my whole life. And then I get into the real world and realised what arseholes it's filled with.. Then I try to understand it in my own way and everyone just wants to have another piece of me.

You know I've never hit a woman. I've had a woman hit me though. You know, I was raised by my single mother,

You what. FUCK YOU. Fuck you all I'm lonely.,
 
Formico said:
...I'm posting on a forum thread drunk by myself at home whilst hoping to meet a girl off the internet who I hope isn't too fat.

All I did is live in a dream world my whole life. And then I get into the real world and realised what arseholes it's filled with.. Then I try to understand it in my own way and everyone just wants to have another piece of me.

You know I've never hit a woman. I've had a woman hit me though. You know, I was raised by my single mother,

You what. FUCK YOU. Fuck you all I'm lonely.,
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So here's your answer right here. I hate everyone, including myself, and I cant figure out why I can't get a woman to like me.

Gee :\

Anyway, there is no need to take it so personally. I'm simply fed up with the amount of threads that we get on this subject and they always follow the same line of thought, as in - "Why does she like that arsehole?" Instead of; "Why doesn't she like me?" - It implies that there is something wrong with the WOMAN because she doesn't like you, instead of maybe reflecting on yourself and your own attitudes to life and how that drives people away.

Lighten up. Life is short enough as it is.

Anyway, I'm not going to sticky it, but from now on all threads on this subject will be merged to this one.
 
Beatlebot said:


I'm simply fed up with the amount of threads that we get on this subject and they always follow the same line of thought, as in:

"Why does she like that arsehole?"

Instead of:

"Why doesn't she like me?"

It implies that there is something wrong with the WOMAN because she doesn't like you, instead of maybe reflecting on yourself and your own attitudes to life and how that drives people away.
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Extremely well put.
 
because she is not worth more than an asshole

or shes got the IQ of an asshole

I dont know
 
Women are attracted to 'assholes' because they're attracted to guys who show a lot of what is perceived to be confidence when it is infact arrogance.

And the reason there are so many threads about this subject is because it happens so often. Us guys looking on the outside can easily spot the difference between arrogance/confidence, most women seem to have trouble telling the difference. And that's why they end up being in troubled relationships with 'assholes'.
 
Formico said:
HaH, yeah, oh thatrazor cut in deep, I made myself bleed. That your fault. Fucking.
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OK...everybody stop picking on Formico. You've already made him cut himself.

What about the kind of guy who is both arrogant and confident? Is he an asshole too? Maybe he's arrogant because he has the right to be and he knows it and he gets girls because of it.
 
I don't believe you can be arrogant and confident, arrogance comes from insecurity.True confidence exists without arrogance.
 
Beatlebot said:
Man, I am sick of these threads 8(

Seriously, we're getting about two or three of these whiny, "Why do women like arseholes" threads a week.

Maybe it's because "arseholes" don't bitch and moan as much as the rest of you do, hmmm?

What, exactly, is an arsehole by your definition anyway? Just because he's an arsehole to you doesn't necessarily mean he's an arsehole to her.

I could just as easily ask why do whiny, insecure men get attracted to women who prefer to play victim in a relationship with an arsehole?

OMG!

Sorry, but I'd have much more sympathy if you explained the situation that inspired this thread, instead of trying to make sweeping generalisations about all women. That's not very "sensitive", is it?
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hahahaha

in defense i really don't see this as one of those threads, more of a T&a thread from what i understand of his question. it was just worded for this forum.

its not that women are attracted to assholes, its just that assholes are better at lying and putting on an act. both men and women fall prey to that. i mean really, if they're good at their "show" then how can you tell. obviously the people that stay with these people are the questionable ones. i mean you spend 3 or 4 months with someone, you should have seen enough to know.

people can bitch about anything, it goes for men and women. i've heard plenty of girls complain about how their men cheated on them when a blind sloth could've seen that comming.
 
SmC said:
And the reason there are so many threads about this subject is because it happens so often. Us guys looking on the outside can easily spot the difference between arrogance/confidence, most women seem to have trouble telling the difference. And that's why they end up being in troubled relationships with 'assholes'.
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Good points ;) .

I'll add some more:-

I think the problem is "guys tend to know what others guys are really like,better than girls do",but it also works the other way of "girls tend to know what other girls are really like,better than guys do".

So,basically I think alot of people can't and aren't good judges of the opposite sex (As a guy,I think I'm a hopeless judge of what girls can be like.Most likely why I'm single.Mind you I tend to give any girl a chance if she shows interest in me,NOT that many seem to :( .).

Finally,another big problem is.We only see a 'narrow view' of someone,so we can't truly see what someone is like as a person.Thus,why I will give any girl a chance that shows interest in me,and why I think people(especially people that complain about going out with assholes/bitches) should give people a chance that show some interest in them,and NOT dismiss people based on such a narrow view.You NEVER know the person you didn't give a chance to, could have ended up the great love of your life if you gave them the chance.....................
 
SmC said:

I don't believe you can be arrogant and confident, arrogance comes from insecurity.

True confidence exists without arrogance.
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Spot the fuck on.

As someone wise once poignantly suggested (and I'm paraphrasing here):

"If you were really as great as you portray yourself to be . . .

. . . you wouldn't feel the need to keep telling us all about it."
 
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