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Why women are attracted to the assholes

Why women are attracte to "assholes"

I have seen a few posts in here about "nice guys finishing last" and "how come all the assholes get the girls"

The thing is, those assholes never remain happy. They get a girl, treat them like shit, then end up in an unhappy, miserable relationship.

The girl leaves them (hopefully for her sake) and they are left single and unfulfilled.

Nice guys may not get the same "quantity" of women, but if you know how to treat a woman respectfully, then the satisfaction derived from your relationship is much much greater than someone who gets involved in those trivial, miserable relationships.

On a side note; some men are "too nice"... or lack confidence that gives them that "I want to do everything to make her like me and please everyone around me and be self-pitying" attitude, which is just a complete turn-off I'm sure.

The trick is... confident-humility....

Humility is my favorite virtue, but it must be concerted with a strong character and air of confidence (not arrogance)
 
I think people should define what they think an "asshole" is and what a "nice guy" is - the terms arent specific enough.

Personaly i just want a real guy (by real i mean not being something his not).. I dont know what i prefer, maybe a mixture of both.. Someone who's really a nice person but he can have his asshole days - just means his human i guess
 
Sorry for restarting a closed thread, and i hope this one wont follow the same fate, but its a subject i am very curious about and I was slightly bothered to see it closed before some serious insight into the topic was given. In the past i have seen guys treat girls like garbage, literally, i was damn offended, saying to her "shes a dirty girl", stuff like that, the epitomy of disinterested, just so assholeish. They craziest shit was the girl responded not with a slap to the face, but by sleeping with him! Im dumbfounded as to the why of this. So if maybe you could pllleeeeaaaase allow this thread, with the purpose of serious discussion i would appreciate it alot.
 
You know how sometimes little puppies or small kids will act out because they need attention in ANY form? like, they're being neglected by those they're surrounded with, and when vying for positive attention doesn't work, they will try for any kind of attention they can get? most of the girls who fall for guys like this (in my case, and all of the cases i've observed) have terrible self esteem, don't think that they can get anything better, and are happy to even have ANY attention because of how undeserving they feel.
 
naw not these girls, they get alot of attention being that there very good looking. I do think its a self esteem issue but i dont think that was it.
 
^ a lot of girls who are very attractive also have some seriously low self esteem. more than you would probably suspect.
 
As i said, i believe it is a self-esteem issue, but not to do with desperatly wanting any attention they could get.
 
well, the low self esteem has a definite effect on what they think they deserve. i stuck 8 months with a guy who treated me like i was worthless because i didn't think i deserved better. it was just normal, that's what i got for being who i was.

and much like any human behavior, there is no right or wrong answer as to people do this or that. it's too subjective to even try to pinpoint.
 
Amebix said:
"shes a dirty girl"
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I call my flatmates dirty girls to their face... Just because I call them dirty girls it doesn't mean I treat them like shit. In my case it's teasing. I give what I get...

It's attention a lot of the time. School-yard flirting/play-fighting happens all the time... When you see a guy play wrestling with a girl on the bed you thinking woman basher...
 
Youd have to be there, it wasnt simple teasing. I can tell the difference between simple teasing and something darogatory thanks. I might not be describing the scene very well but youll have to trust me that there was something at play there and i want to know what it was. These girls could easily have found a guy that would have treated them better, but for some reason they were drawn to this behavior.
 
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what do you want the answer to be, exactly? because many people have offered their input, and it doesn't seem to satisfy you... there is really no cut and dried explanation for these things. you might try asking the girls in question, they would probably be able to offer better insight.
 
well really only you offered any insight (thanks btw :)), and i dont think its that they wanted any attention. So i guess what im looking for is...another angle. And asking them is out of the question, i have no clue where on earth i would find them.
 
There's books on the issue, in a lot of cases it's psychological and can come down to being mistreated by there family, or previous partners to the point where they believe they don't deserve anything else, and that its the norm to be treated as such. Some girls more so see it as a challenge, in that they can mould a "rebel" into something they want
 
Amebix said:
well really only you offered any insight (thanks btw :)), and i dont think its that they wanted any attention. So i guess what im looking for is...another angle. And asking them is out of the question, i have no clue where on earth i would find them.
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They want to get the soap opera rolling. Simple as that. If those girls didnt do this then me and you and the other people on this forum would not be having this discussion.
 
I think that ^^ is precisely the reason the other thread was closed.
 
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