However, this does show a lack of trust for her to go through your browser history, which is unacceptable IMO. There have been many times when I could have looked through my bf's text messages, emails, browser history, etc. BUT I DON'T. One has to respect a certain modicum of privacy towards one's partner. Snooping violates trust.
Edit: my advice is to start kissing ass immediately. A girl that insecure is never going to accept that your eyes may see other women than her, so standing your ground is a losing battle. Just accept that this is an area where you need to sugar-coat the shit out of things in the name of domestic tranquility.
snooping violates trust.
- AGREED!Disagree. All this will do is reinforce her behavior. She needs to come to terms that guys enjoy looking at erotic and even non-erotic pics of women and they may or may not turn them on. Which, in turn, mean absolutely nothing to their current relationship. The only "ass kissing" he should do is to reassure her about how he feels about her but I dont believe he should be sorry for something as innocent as looking at a breast pic. Will he have to apologize during a movie that shows female nudity? He may love her but at some point this behavior will poison their relationship and it will be time to move on.
Okay, obviously we can conclude that your girlfriend is VERY insecure.
If you don't mind me asking, how old is she? How old are you? How long have you been dating?
allow me to put this into perspective for you.
if you explored your S/O's browser history and saw semi naked pictures of a man with a better physique than yours, or one where certain parts of him triggered insecurities within you and sparked a question internally if your S/O is seeking more than what you have to offer, would you be affected?
women try so hard to mask their deep emotions, but being the naturally emotional creatures they are; try and internalize their feelings (in fear of seeming irrational to their male counterparts); which in turn builds up, and eventually causes an outburst of expression. due to their embarrassment in being so emotional and candid in the moment, they then tend to retreat and distance themselves from the situation and parties involved to gather their thoughts and regain themselves. nine times out of ten, they are simply grateful that they released everything/the pain they were truly feeling and are content from that point onward to work to move forward with their partner and reestablish balance in the relationship.
give her the time and space she needs to heal, and she should be fine.
good luck
...kytnism...
The only "ass kissing" he should do is to reassure her about how he feels about her
Disagree. All this will do is reinforce her behavior. She needs to come to terms that guys enjoy looking at erotic and even non-erotic pics of women and they may or may not turn them on. Which, in turn, mean absolutely nothing to their current relationship. The only "ass kissing" he should do is to reassure her about how he feels about her but I dont believe he should be sorry for something as innocent as looking at a breast pic. Will he have to apologize during a movie that shows female nudity? He may love her but at some point this behavior will poison their relationship and it will be time to move on.
Disagree. All this will do is reinforce her behavior. She needs to come to terms that guys enjoy looking at erotic and even non-erotic pics of women and they may or may not turn them on. Which, in turn, mean absolutely nothing to their current relationship. The only "ass kissing" he should do is to reassure her about how he feels about her but I dont believe he should be sorry for something as innocent as looking at a breast pic. Will he have to apologize during a movie that shows female nudity? He may love her but at some point this behavior will poison their relationship and it will be time to move on.
As long as you can work out a way to keep her insecurities in check there should be no problems
^ it's only a quick fix til the next time it happens though - that's the point - the quick fix gets you NOWHERE, it's just wastes time.
I can - he does it...they break up and he actually finds someone who accepts him for who he is.but my point is that i really don't see any scenario where he "wins" (i.e. his life and/or relationship benefits) from standing his ground on his right to look at other women's boobs on the internet.
he has a right to do what he did, but it's something that she will likely never be ok with.