Why is gay sex so filthy and raunchy?

[Captain.Heroin]

I have. I don't ask questions unless I've put some serious thought into it...

Yeah I feel you.

I wonder if any female Bluelighter is going to come along and confess they are just as raunchy as we are describing... would make for an interesting twist.

 

[rangrz]

It would... but as I said, it's not just the act, it's the whole situation and how it's done.

Gay sex is not intrinsically raunchy, and now and then I see non raunchy gay sex...it just tends to be more frequently than guy/girl or girl/girl.

Ms.G and I do stuff that could be insanely raunchy, yet it's always cute and romantic, for e.g.... it's not a tangible act or thing, it's phenomenological...

 

[pofacedhoe]

i'm pretty sure the op was gender specific. cool name^

 

[Illyria99]

I wonder if any female Bluelighter is going to come along and confess they are just as raunchy as we are describing... would make for an interesting twist.

Of course we're just as raunchy. And some of us are far more raunchy than what you described.

 

[Sepher]

I wonder if any female Bluelighter is going to come along and confess they are just as raunchy as we are describing... would make for an interesting twist.

Of course we're just as raunchy. And some of us are far more raunchy than what you described.

^This. I think often times women are brought up to hide just how filthy they can be and desire to be in their relationships, the kind of socially constructed and idealised female 'norm' far as gender roles goes is a submissive one, one that doesn't threaten the similarly socially constructed and sometimes fragile male ego. Given free rein to explore and express it though, esp. as kink, fetish, BDSM-type stuff can be quite an eye-opener.

But still, why so few female for male that are nearly as raunchy... no " I want you come lick my unwashed fishy cunt clean and them I'm going to peg you so hard you cry" type of stuff to be found...

As per above. Depends where you're looking for your women, in what kind of environment and scenario I guess. Some of the stuff I've seen at swinging parties and swinging clubs, FonF, FonM, or multiples of FonsomemixofFandMorother proves just how dirty and dominant women can be with the right encouragement, and just how eager some men are for them to be. Most interesting times with a fair few very different women in lots of different scenarios!

 

[rangrz]

^

Dominant yes. I should know... every serious relationship I've been in has been with females who where into BDSM and dominant, or switch with a propensity towards to dominant. However kinky and dominant they may have been, it has never been raunchy in the same way that gay bath-houses or CL ads are. I don't even know how to explain...but like, they've always been oh so adorably cute and very loving and affectionate and never degrading or "dirty" in the more literal sense of that word...like no "uuunh yeah! lick my unwashed, unshaved cunt with blood clotted in the bush" type of deal. I've been to swingers clubs many times, and yes, I've seen some truly depraved hetero sex going on, although lots of it was pretty cute too, and I've only on a few occasions ever seen girl on girl that was raunchy.

It's not that I am arguing raunchy hetero or girl/girl does not exist, or that all gay people are raunchy, but that as a probability distribution over a space, one has a far higher chance of observing "gay" in the neighbourhood of "raunchy" than one does of observing MoF or FoF. One has very low chance of observing FoF in the neighbourhood of raunchy.

Alternatively put... In the same way that it's not always the case that a person with Kaposki's Scarcoma has A.I.D.S, it is quite unusual to find a case in someone who does not, and it's usually limited to a few other defined, small subsets of the population.

 

[Illyria99]

It's not that I am arguing raunchy hetero or girl/girl does not exist, or that all gay people are raunchy, but that as a probability distribution over a space, one has a far higher chance of observing "gay" in the neighbourhood of "raunchy" than one does of observing MoF or FoF. One has very low chance of observing FoF in the neighbourhood of raunchy.

While I agree that one is less likely to observe really raunchy girl on girl sex, I can assure you that there is some seriously deviant, mind-shattering hetero stuff out there. If you know where to look, that is.

 

[rangrz]

^

Oh I know there is, and I've seen it and I know where to find it. But it's a much smaller fraction of heterosex than it is of the world of gay sex, at least in my observations on the subject. Which is more or less what I'm curious about, why is it seemingly that gay sex is more prone towards raunchy than any other subset of sex.

I've got an analogy to sort of sum it up... like sure, any drug can abused and have sketchy addicts who use it. But, one is far more likely to find a sketchy addict abusing methamphetamine than one is to find sketchy addict abusing the shit out of mushrooms.

So, it's like that...we sort of know why methamp addicts are tending more towards to abuse and being sketchy motherfuckers than shroomers, but I'm not really sure why man/man sex trend towards raunchy and depraved more than hetero or girl/girl.

 

[Illyria99]

I'm not really sure why man/man sex trend towards raunchy and depraved more than hetero or girl/girl.

Are you sure it isn't just a perception? I mean, a lot of us were dragged to church when we were children...."man shall not lay with man" and all that. Do you think that deep within our minds we just automatically feel that gay sex is somehow raunchier because of what was taught in church?

 

[rangrz]

I was never dragged to church or anything of the sort. Like straight up, there are at least 4 gay bath-houses down town within 20 minutes of each other. But there is no establishment of the sort targeted towards to the hetero or lesbian communities... i.e. there is apparently not enough demand from those communities for a cheap, 24 hour establishment to attend to have sex with strangers. But the gay sex demand is sufficient to support many of them within walking distance of each other.

 

[Jabberwocky]

Oh hi Rangrz.

 

[rangrz]

 

[Captain.Heroin]

I was never dragged to church or anything of the sort. Like straight up, there are at least 4 gay bath-houses down town within 20 minutes of each other. But there is no establishment of the sort targeted towards to the hetero or lesbian communities... i.e. there is apparently not enough demand from those communities for a cheap, 24 hour establishment to attend to have sex with strangers. But the gay sex demand is sufficient to support many of them within walking distance of each other.

I googled "lesbian bath house" and found a typed review about someone who went to one in Seattle allegedly (link); it's very interesting though because I've never heard of such a thing until I thought to google it.