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Why do women fall for nutcases?

TheUltimateFixx said:
I'm sorry for your friend.
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They divorced as his ex had cheated on him, and the next thing you know he had moved in with the guy that he had cheated with and they got married eventually.

According to my friend his ex wouldn't even admit to him, their children, family members and friends, "Our marriage ended because I cheated." I didn't know his ex husband that well. I did think it was weird how they would buy or mortgage multiple homes in multiple states and regions of the country, and when they all just suddenly one day completely moved to the home that was in a tiny village in the middle of nowhere, but that is where the guy on the side was living.
 
SpiralusSancti said:
Cuz there’s a lot nuttcase woman too… That’s my experience.
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True. I know women who get treated like the dog's dinner, or like dog shit by men both ex boyfriends they were with-physical and sexual abuse, stalking, cheating, harassment, being kept by a psychologically abusive manipulative sugar daddy type guy-though to be honest the kept woman was doing this as well as she broke up with him and had him pay her rent and for everything and all she had to do was sleep with him every so often and the large amount of money is all gone-and they got pregnant on purpose so the man would marry them.

A friend who is super desperate, got pregnant so her sugar daddy would marry her, figured he would change or she could change him. Not going to happen. He is still a deadbeat loser that stays home all day doing nothing but smoking weed and getting drunk-probably sees other women on the side, while she takes care of their children, makes breakfast, goes to work, and then comes home and has to make dinner and clean the house.
 
Yeah, even tho I wasn’t thinking of that kind of nutcases but more of those woman who are abusive or kinds of crazy feme fatale or … too many to name (same as in case of nutcase man).

But cases of woman who need help but instead get used by fucked up man are by far more fucked up..
 
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Kellsee said:
Because normal is boring. Apparently narccisistic socio paths make me horny.


Actually I'd love to have a preacher that's a freak in the sheets.

Do they make those?😍😍
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Yes, but if you're older than 12 you're shit out of luck.
 
Electrum1 said:
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Why do women fall for nutcases?

I think some women have no real interests (in terms of hobbies, life-projects and so on), that makes them terribly afraid of being BORED and they live with the need of having someone who makes their life INTENSE in terms of a emotional rollercoaster, the more void a woman are, the more likely...
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assclass said:

Why do women fall for nutcases?

I think some women have no real interests (in terms of hobbies, life-projects and so on), that makes them terribly afraid of being BORED and they live with the need of having someone who makes their life INTENSE in terms of a emotional rollercoaster, the more void a woman are, the more likely...
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The one lady I am friends with who I wrote about before she has basically never had any sort of long period of her life as an adult that she was single, or has sort of unrealistic expectations about relationships such as how she figured she would go to the same college with and marry a BF she had in highschool and when this did not happen she seemed shocked.

She went crazy when they were away at college, not living together and he broke up and started dating some other lady. She stopped going to classes and completely dropped out and had a nervous breakdown, and would always get with a guy to fill the void, never experiencing life on her own.

She was always dating a man or multiple men. She did not care how badly any of them treated her. Her ex boyfriend was super dangerous and controlling/abusive and he got her fired from her job and she only cut off any contact with her after he broke into her house and attacked her and a neighbor called the police. Unfortunately she got pregnant on purpose so another guy she was with who loves to control her every move would marry her.

I don't really understand it? Most women and men would not put up with how her husband only cares about himself and his own needs and nothing else. He does not work, does not clean their home, will not even try to cook meals, or take care of their son and daughter, etc. I guess he saw how easily my friend can be manipulated and forced into basically being his servant and into staying in an unhealthy co-dependant relationships/marriage? She is an adult and yes it is all her choice but I guess she is used to being completely obedient to whatever her boyfriend, husband or whoever wants?
 
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Neuroborean said:
No. I'm not a female, but I've experienced different relationships, with enough women
Because of several "factors" I've developed co-dependency-like and "white-knight" attitudes during my adolescence and young adult (college) years.
I ended up with "problematic women" so I sadly "failed" more than once due to not really acknowledging what was going on.
I think I know myself a bit more lately, I discovered the core issues why I became like that and now I can pinpoint what it's going on, which women are (or could be) good for me and how my attitudes must develop.
The most important issue: not getting close to people with BPD (which in some way or another runs in my family).

In a way it's like you're wired for some type of relationships and your "baseline" needs to change A LOT to be able not to gather/attract/be attracted by the wrong type of person. That same stuff happens to women too, but in different ways most times.
There's also light-hearted, empathetic, people-pleasing women who are co-dependent. I just don't usually meet them for whatever reasons, but I guess they are as unhealthy as a co-dependent male.
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How were you co-dependant or like a white knight? Do you have BPD-is this bipolar or the borderline personality?

I had a friend that when he was alive had narcissistic personality disorder. I kept our friendship casual but I know his wife probably has borderline personality disorder. He loved her but excused her cheating, any type of neurotic behaviours or psychological abuse, and how she would say she was sick physically and every so often have periods of time she thought she was sick and not working and would sleep in bed for a few days and would be out of it. She was constantly jealous, they sort of had an open marriage but it was just one sided or it was completely permitted and fine for her to have as many romantic and sexual affairs as she wanted, but if he had a purely sexual affair or casual sex or a hook up with maybe 1-3 times in half a decade or in two decades with someone he would just have sex with and never see again as he would meet people who were traveling and open to sex while on vacation to his city, she would become extremely jealous and angry at him.

She was constantly worried he was going to leave her but this never happened. Rest in peace.
 
PriestTheyCalledHim said:
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How were you co-dependant or like a white knight? Do you have BPD-is this bipolar or the borderline personality?

I had a friend that when he was alive had narcissistic personality disorder. I kept our friendship casual but I know his wife probably has borderline personality disorder. He loved her but excused her cheating, any type of neurotic behaviours or psychological abuse, and how she would say she was sick physically and every so often have periods of time she thought she was sick and not working and would sleep in bed for a few days and would be out of it. She was constantly jealous, they sort of had an open marriage but it was just one sided or it was completely permitted and fine for her to have as many romantic and sexual affairs as she wanted, but if he had a purely sexual affair or casual sex or a hook up with maybe 1-3 times in half a decade or in two decades with someone he would just have sex with and never see again as he would meet people who were traveling and open to sex while on vacation to his city, she would become extremely jealous and angry at him.

She was constantly worried he was going to leave her but this never happened. Rest in peace.
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She has BPD, I don't have anything, well, ADHD and perhaps very low level Asperger with high IQ. I could see some things of myself that could be considered "narcissistic" but honestly a lot of people have narcissistic tendencies or behaviours and I'm sure it's not the core of my personality.
My ex didn't cheat, afaik, nor she abused drugs or anything, probably because she is quite "drugged up" by Big Pharma shit, antidepressants, rx for migraines,rx for bulimia, benzos, etc. I wouldn't bear that type of behaviour if long-term, I'm pretty self-controlled myself, I could abuse drugs from time to time, but only a week of stims, things like that.
The problem with her are her rage outburst and harsh attacking/controlling during 10 days a month, coinciding with her pre-period days. Sometimes was not during those days, and sometimes she got totally deranged and dissociative, she's a severe case.
White knight attitude is to think one could "save" or even "cure" those people.
 
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Not read thread yet, but both men and women can fall prey to predatory partners. I am a woman btw.
 
keseyhitchens said:
THIS. I don't think it's about being bad (bad meaning, putting her in dangerous situations, bullying, using insecurities agaisnt the woman, like actual bad shit) at least it's not like that for me. It's about being witty. Saying and doing random, funny, and sometimes a bit inappropriate. Not being boring. Like with my ex. I'd just start dancing randomly all goofy in front of her. Talk to her in funny voices. Be a total goofball. Then have a deeply intellectual conversation on the existence of God 10 minutes later. Being silly and not taking life too seriously even sometimes in moments where you probably should, but I could also be dead serious and passionately loving and caring and protective of her. That's my two cents.
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That. Just knowing that there's somebody out there that understands the relationship I had with my wife, make me feel a lot more positive about my loss, rather than being paralysed by grief.
 
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