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Why do women fall for nutcases?

fastandbulbous said:
Ever argued with yourself and still lost the argument? 🤣
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All the time, dude. To make matters more complicated, I also have the voices of other people in my head, like my mother, etc. my lover resides in my head but mostly it’s me talking to him and him listening, lol. Cuz that’s how it is in real life! But I also have the voices of some more negative influences, like my ex MIL in my head, who I can’t get to shut up. As time passes, though, those voices are starting to fade.
 
Personally i like to date the good girl type and suppose i am a bit of nut case. Not i like a bad way im really loving and affectionate. But i am a wild drug fueled mad man at times and can be alot to deal with. But i feel like some women that have lived kinda normal lives and be attracted to the chaos at times cuz it gives them a thrill. My girlfriend does drugs to but to a much milder degree than me and is really wholesome preschool teacher. Im really into woman like that, it turns me on for whatever reason getting them into my debauchery and chemsex.
 
cosmic charlie said:
Personally i like to date the good girl type and suppose i am a bit of nut case. Not i like a bad way im really loving and affectionate. But i am a wild drug fueled mad man at times and can be alot to deal with. But i feel like some women that have lived kinda normal lives and be attracted to the chaos at times cuz it gives them a thrill. My girlfriend does drugs to but to a much milder degree than me and is really wholesome preschool teacher. Im really into woman like that, it turns me on for whatever reason getting them into my debauchery and chemsex.
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So basically you like to corrupt them 🤪
 
I'm not a woman but I've always preferred the nutcasery to come as an appetizer, not the main course lol. I always assumed that it was the same for women too...getting involved with a REAL nutcase has the potential to introduce a lot of stress into your life. Although maybe that appeals to some of the "my partner is a wreck who I need to fix" types

Same with drugs in a relationship...as an appetizer, fun, as a main course, makes the relationship seem cheap and transactional etc, and I just don't really want to be with someone who prioritizes their whole life around something like that
 
Burnt Offerings said:
Although maybe that appeals to some of the "my partner is a wreck who I need to fix" types
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Women are not rehabilitation centers for broken men, that’s how I’ve always viewed that. And anyone who “needs” a problematic person in their lives in order to “fix” them…well, that’s codependency (and usually the fixer is only doing that in order to avoid dealing with THEIR OWN issues.)
 
xtcgrrrl said:
All the time, dude. To make matters more complicated, I also have the voices of other people in my head, like my mother, etc. my lover resides in my head but mostly it’s me talking to him and him listening, lol. Cuz that’s how it is in real life! But I also have the voices of some more negative influences, like my ex MIL in my head, who I can’t get to shut up. As time passes, though, those voices are starting to fade.
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Not got anybody who can make an animated version, where she just explodes on screen. Even poorly animated, it would be satisfying as fuck!
 
xtcgrrrl said:
Usually most women grow out of their “bad boy” phase at some point. That’s when dad bods become appealing lol. At that point, we’re looking for stability, not just sizzling hot sex.
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The one I'm gonna settledown with is the one I can have a stable relationship with and have a sizzling hot DRIPPING WET STEAMY FIRE WATER ICE...SEX. :D
 
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xtcgrrrl said:
The key thing here is to be just enough “bad boy” to be exciting, whilst being simultaneously someone you think would be a good daddy. Spontaneous AND stable. Sexy AND soothing. If you can both absolutely destroy her in bed and hold her hair back when she’s puking over the toilet, you’ve got it made. Also at least PRETEND to listen to her when she’s talking about stuff you have no interest in. But I’m giving away too much here, we’re supposed to be all mysterious and unpredictable here 😜
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THIS. I don't think it's about being bad (bad meaning, putting her in dangerous situations, bullying, using insecurities agaisnt the woman, like actual bad shit) at least it's not like that for me. It's about being witty. Saying and doing random, funny, and sometimes a bit inappropriate. Not being boring. Like with my ex. I'd just start dancing randomly all goofy in front of her. Talk to her in funny voices. Be a total goofball. Then have a deeply intellectual conversation on the existence of God 10 minutes later. Being silly and not taking life too seriously even sometimes in moments where you probably should, but I could also be dead serious and passionately loving and caring and protective of her. That's my two cents.
 
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There's the dark fascination as one factor, but there's also a saviour complex. Most women who are attracted to major criminals get it in their heads that THEY'RE going to be that one special person that changes this man. They're gonna be the sole person a psychopath will love (despite being incapable of any such emotion) etc etc
 
xtcgrrrl said:
Usually most women grow out of their “bad boy” phase at some point. That’s when dad bods become appealing lol. At that point, we’re looking for stability, not just sizzling hot sex.
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Speaking as a male, I find it annoying in the extreme that the sort women want to have a serious relationship with doesn't seem to be the sort they'd actually wanna fuck. MAKE YOUR DAMN MINDS UP!!

PS there again I'm with a guy now. It's a lot less confusing.
 
Zopiclone bandit said:
What happens?
He end up between two pieces of fried bread covered in HP Sauce?

If he becomes a tasty sandwich I say people should celebrate.
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a-perfect-pair
 
TheUltimateFixx said:
There's the dark fascination as one factor, but there's also a saviour complex. Most women who are attracted to major criminals get it in their heads that THEY'RE going to be that one special person that changes this man. They're gonna be the sole person a psychopath will love (despite being incapable of any such emotion) etc etc
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True, it is like this with men as well. I have a gay platonic friend and his ex-husband they both learned through seeing a counselor that the ex-husband likes to get into relationships with men who have problems-my friend has many-and it is not because he is a caring person or wants to help people, but it has to do with narcissistic tendencies as the ex-husband thinks that if he fixes people who have problems that it will give him all of the attention and make him look good.

I told my friend, well at least you are no longer married to him and living together with someone like this.
 
Your friend is being manipulated and she has to be the one to realise this or that her BF/partner or whoever is best avoided.

I read the life changing true crime book THE STRANGER BESIDE ME, by Ann Rule. She knew Ted Bundy personally as they volunteered together and saw each other socially as she thought platonic friends.

After he was identified, escaped, and killed almost all of the women in a sorority and was arrested and had a trial, she went to and would always see Ted's groupies or women of all ages sitting as close as they could, some wrote to him after reading her book writing how they were "in love" with Ted Bundy and wanted her to send them the way to contact him. She replied and wrote how they needed to re-read her book, and learn the difference between a teddy bear and a fox, as Ted had abducted, raped, and killed lots of girls and women and was a necrophiliac.

Charles Manson, Leslie Van Houten, Tex Watson and the rest of the "family" also had groupies. I don't mean the teen runaways, drop outs, hippie teens, bikers, or college students who went to the ranch for free drugs and for the sex orgies, or in the hopes that Charlie could introduce them to the beach boys, but various people who admire or think of these psychopaths as misunderstood, not really bad, etc. including John Waters and Johnny Depp.

Depp also advocated for the release of the west Memphis three. The two other teens/young men might have not been involved in the murder or could have been accomplices manipulated by Damien Echols, who probably did it and he is a psychopath/sociopath. He killed some great Dane dog "for fun", cut the dog open and drank its blood and touched and ate the vital organs.
 
PriestTheyCalledHim said:
True, it is like this with men as well. I have a gay platonic friend and his ex-husband they both learned through seeing a counselor that the ex-husband likes to get into relationships with men who have problems-my friend has many-and it is not because he is a caring person or wants to help people, but it has to do with narcissistic tendencies as the ex-husband thinks that if he fixes people who have problems that it will give him all of the attention and make him look good.

I told my friend, well at least you are no longer married to him and living together with someone like this.
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I'm sorry for your friend.
 
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