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Why do I attract certain people? Is it me. (Pic)

Awe you are such a cutie pie! I know this may sound a little odd coming from a girl but please listen close! YOU DON'T HAVE TO MARRY/FALL IN LOVE/START A RELATIONSHIP with everyone you have sex with. Trust me you haven't even begun to really start beginning to enjoy your life! Take your first girlfriends and put them behind you as lessons learned. And be grateful you learned those lessons early in life. Not every girl in the world is like that. You are 18 get out there bro, live a little, it's not up to anyone but yourself who comes into and stays in your life. Make goals, dream big, reach for the stars really think about what kind a girl you want beside you when your dreams come true. I don't think it's one you have to always worry about whether she is cheating or not, and has all your pass codes to everything that makes for a miserable life my friend. I think you know when you find that one true person that is right for you, a warm big heart and beautiful on the inside as well as the outside someone who loves you should generally want to be a better person just because and do all the little sweet things that goes along with falling in true love. And when that happens and your with that special girl it will be amazing because when it's right, it's right. And the heart ache the other girls caused will be long gone. But for now be 18 you got to live your life! Have some fun for yourself plenty of time to settle down later when you are older! Go to a concert! Hang with some friends! And play with the girlies! Just do you for awhile! Don't rush through to the end my young friend, make wise choices you still have so much ahead of you!
 
Pontifex01 and Pagey and OP after reading this I'm damn sure going to try harder to be a better mother! I really like reading the threads , and in this case. I really feel that I learned a lot from you all and I just wanted to say thank you for posting it really touched my heart.
 
pontifex01 said:
Just as an aside, so much <3 to Pagey. Not being a perv (lol CIAO BELLA!) - i always enjoy reading your posts and you're a beautifully sensitive and insightful soul. Good job girl.
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Thanks so much, that means a lot :) <3

XoxoMaryJane said:
Pontifex01 and Pagey and OP after reading this I'm damn sure going to try harder to be a better mother! I really like reading the threads , and in this case. I really feel that I learned a lot from you all and I just wanted to say thank you for posting it really touched my heart.
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I'm really glad if I've been able to help!
 
fleea said:
Therapy? lol f*** that just shag it all out of your system.There is a shit load of women out there for you.Go get em!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9GkVhgIeGJQ
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Hahah sounds like a good idea!


Stripes314 said:
I would just say fuck em. Party, fuck hoes, and relax.


If you are really curious though, I would ask them what it is that made them cheat on you.
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I don't really talk to them too much anymore, but I might give that a try, and don't get me wrong im not too hung up and sitting around depressed I have partied and been with other girls since then, but it's more of the same, I eventually want to meet someone who's actually girlfriend material yanno.



B1tO'RoughJack said:
It sounds like you have your answer - you are too passive, and not assertive enough, and therefore you get co-dependent girls and girls who walk all over you.

I used to be the same dude - no sweat - just learn from your path now. That's the most important thing after all along the learning curve - that you learn, or perpetuate negative behaviour cycles over and over.

You're a good looking guy, you just need to be assertive, and confident in yourself and your abilities, and you need to look for warning signs earlier on. When you see the warning signs (think back over your girls, what actions/behaviour they all had in common...stuff they would do) - just think deja-vu - end it if you think you've hooked up with yet another girl who bad for ya.
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Thank you, and good advice. :)

XoxoMaryJane said:
And when that happens and your with that special girl it will be amazing because when it's right, it's right. And the heart ache the other girls caused will be long gone. But for now be 18 you got to live your life! Have some fun for yourself plenty of time to settle down later when you are older!
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Thank you, and you're right, i'm to young to be looking for a serious thing. And what ponti said, the fact you said it shows that you probably already are a good mother :)

Thanks for the replies guys, realized alot. I don't need to focus on love at the moment, plenty of time for that later
 
^You're right to say you don't need to focus on love now - I think the best/ most hepful thing I've come to realize in the past couple of months is that when I actually focus on myself, being healthy, feeling good etc., I completely forget to think about guys. It's a nice break :p
Plus if you're in a healthy (or healthier) state of mind your relationships will definitely benefit from it, and as I mentioned earlier I think it could really help you in your choice of partner as well.

Also you're really cute so I think you should have some fun while you're at the right age ;)
 
^Judging from your picture, you don't look a pussy or a pushover to me, you've definitely got some fire in your eyes and I believe you'd stand up for yourself against other men......You do seem like the kind of guy that's very loyal, protective and caring towards women....

Maybe you're a little too serious for girls your own age who are just looking to get laid and have fun a lot of the time....

I was always the guy, even from fucking age 14 when I first fell in love.....I was always the guy that believed in true love and wanted a real relationship and was against just having sex with a bunch of girls, and I looked down on people who did that!

God knows where that self-righteous trip came from?!

I one day said fuck it and realized that I like just hooking up with different people and after that I was a lot more relaxed about the whole thing....I put aside my ideals!

I think you're treating them too nice! Some girls/men, if you treat them too well they just walk all over you and cheat on you! I don't why, but I've been around the block and seen it!

It doesn't matter if you're Brad Pitt and a millionaire, some people just like to play games!

You may be a little bit too "Serious"....
 
The only common thing in your relationships with different women is you. You need to figure out what your looking for and if you find out a girl is no it then pull the plug and move on.
 
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