sunday.bird
Bluelighter
- Joined
- Mar 11, 2023
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I'm bisexual. I've always had some wiggle room in relationships but there has always been tension there, even though I'm more than happy to have a threesome with her there (which we have done, but didn't do the right way so it turned her off the idea).
Not sure why people wouldn't want to have sex with other people once in a while.
The reason we don't do it is pretty much fear, from what I can figure.
We're afraid our partner will fall in love with another person; we're afraid that they will prefer sex with another person: we are afraid - basically - they will leave us.
There's also fear of performance in front of multiple people.
I guess with my situation there's fear I'm going to "turn gay"?
If it was a FFM threesome, I'm sure guys would be worried about their girlfriends or wives "becoming lesbians".
It all seems kind of petty to me, if you break it down.
If my relationship is so flimsy that some random person can come along and destroy it with meaningless sex: I want to know.
I was talking to her about this recently and it's only fair that she should be able to sleep with other guys. She caught me off guard, but I thought about it and I don't actually have a huge problem with it. If we can both do it, I can live with that... But she doesn't want to do it. She was just making a point. I get it. Although, I don't think it's the same. Because - like I said - I want her to be there. So, if she wants the same thing then what she's suggesting is exactly what I'm saying I want.
I haven't had any extra-marital encounters for a while now (almost two years?). She said it's okay, but she said it in a way that it clearly isn't.
She doesn't seem to have any issue with it, really, other than me not conforming to this idea because I should conform to it.
It's unfortunate the threesome we had turned out weird. We blindfolded this guy we met online and chained him to a queen size bed, then fucked on top of him and took turns playing with him. Sounds good in theory, but it was a bit too much of a shock to the system for her... and that's obvious in retrospect.
I don't want her to do anything she doesn't want to do. I'm not pushing that at all. But she has hinted that we might do it again one day.
It's hard with kids. It's hard enough to have sex with just the two of us, let alone organizing something like this. There's not a lot of time one of us isn't at work and/or our daughter is reining destruction upon our house.
I get the impression we're going to postpone it for a decade or so.
In the meantime, I think I should be able to play around. Thoughts?
I understand the counterarguments, but I don't think my wife is concerned about any of that petty shit.
If I wanted to be with another woman, she says she'd feel insecure about herself... which makes sense to me.
I'm not really into the idea of swingers or anything like that. Don't want to introduce other women to the mix. I'm satisfied in that department.
Most men fantasize about threesomes with another girl... Do most women fantasize about threesomes with another guy?
Not sure why people wouldn't want to have sex with other people once in a while.
The reason we don't do it is pretty much fear, from what I can figure.
We're afraid our partner will fall in love with another person; we're afraid that they will prefer sex with another person: we are afraid - basically - they will leave us.
There's also fear of performance in front of multiple people.
I guess with my situation there's fear I'm going to "turn gay"?
If it was a FFM threesome, I'm sure guys would be worried about their girlfriends or wives "becoming lesbians".
It all seems kind of petty to me, if you break it down.
If my relationship is so flimsy that some random person can come along and destroy it with meaningless sex: I want to know.
I was talking to her about this recently and it's only fair that she should be able to sleep with other guys. She caught me off guard, but I thought about it and I don't actually have a huge problem with it. If we can both do it, I can live with that... But she doesn't want to do it. She was just making a point. I get it. Although, I don't think it's the same. Because - like I said - I want her to be there. So, if she wants the same thing then what she's suggesting is exactly what I'm saying I want.
I haven't had any extra-marital encounters for a while now (almost two years?). She said it's okay, but she said it in a way that it clearly isn't.
She doesn't seem to have any issue with it, really, other than me not conforming to this idea because I should conform to it.
It's unfortunate the threesome we had turned out weird. We blindfolded this guy we met online and chained him to a queen size bed, then fucked on top of him and took turns playing with him. Sounds good in theory, but it was a bit too much of a shock to the system for her... and that's obvious in retrospect.
I don't want her to do anything she doesn't want to do. I'm not pushing that at all. But she has hinted that we might do it again one day.
It's hard with kids. It's hard enough to have sex with just the two of us, let alone organizing something like this. There's not a lot of time one of us isn't at work and/or our daughter is reining destruction upon our house.
I get the impression we're going to postpone it for a decade or so.
In the meantime, I think I should be able to play around. Thoughts?
I understand the counterarguments, but I don't think my wife is concerned about any of that petty shit.
If I wanted to be with another woman, she says she'd feel insecure about herself... which makes sense to me.
I'm not really into the idea of swingers or anything like that. Don't want to introduce other women to the mix. I'm satisfied in that department.
Most men fantasize about threesomes with another girl... Do most women fantasize about threesomes with another guy?