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whos on your mind when you masturbate?

Serotonin101

Serotonin101

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I'm just curious as to who you think of when you masturbate. do you watch porn avidly? do you think of your SO? people in your everyday life? etc. I UTFSE and didn't find anything.

as for me, it's usually chicks in my everyday life but lately its been my most recent ex. no porn as I had issues with porn addiction.
 
I've got to say wanking to people you're still attached to had a very love/hate relationship for me.
As for the title itself, nobody is on my mind. Well, I'm on my mind because that's what masturbation is.
I've been on an SNRI lately and it's sort of killed my sex drive, but it's almost like I push myself more than average in some sort of compensation for the lack of such..
Anyway maybe you should poll this some like:
[porn]
[erotica]
[sexual memories]
[fantasies with SO]
[fetish fantasies]
[music?]
[cuckold pet]
[armpits?]
I don't know, sexuality varies.
I find porn to be healthier than people you know, but that's just me.
 
sometimes when i cant cum during sex i picture one of my friends and then it happens easily. dodgy territory i am well aware off
 
My ex girlfriend of over a year ago. But then after i remember we broke up and then i get kinda deppresed and i start thinking about her and its all downhill from there... Fuck. i need to get high....
 
Well, I have to very vividly imagine a certain scenario in my mind....sometimes I map out the scenario before hand so it will flow better. It is never people I know, just good looking strangers. I cannot make myself come without it.

When I have actual sex, I don't think of anything except the person I am with and try to stay in the moment. But masturbation is a different story...I have a VERY active imagination.
 
My S/O. (Like, always when I'm a relationship with someone it's them I think of, if not in a romance relationship but still have an FWB, then them.) sometimes them with another girl, or like my S/O, myself and a 3rd, usually in the context of a fetish scene of some sort.

Also; YO MAMA. OHHHHHHHHHH!
 
Usually my boyfriend. There are a few other people that come up occasionally. Like this friend of mine who is absolutely gorgeous (but married). Or my favourite DJ who I'm obsessed with.
 
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I was having this discussion with Ms.G the other day, re:DJ's/rock stars/actors/pop culture famous people and girls finding them particularly hot because of it. Why is that? Like I don't hear of that many girls being "mmmmmm oh em gee! That guy who won the Fields Medal for his work on Algebraic Geometry is sooo hot, I want to have his babies!!!"

Or like "Oh fuck, Dr. Tak Mak!. Nobel prize and cures cancer, I want to lick his loli-pop if you know what I mean"

How come? Why is flipping switches to make electronic devices (which they likely have little to no understanding of how they work) hotter than curing a disease or discovering something about the universe?
 
rangrz said:
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I was having this discussion with Ms.G the other day, re:DJ's/rock stars/actors/pop culture famous people and girls finding them particularly hot because of it. Why is that? Like I don't hear of that many girls being "mmmmmm oh em gee! That guy who won the Fields Medal for his work on Algebraic Geometry is sooo hot, I want to have his babies!!!"

Or like "Oh fuck, Dr. Tak Mak!. Nobel prize and cures cancer, I want to lick his loli-pop if you know what I mean"

How come? Why is flipping switches to make electronic devices (which they likely have little to no understanding of how they work) hotter than curing a disease or discovering something about the universe?
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kinda falls into the same category why pretty but dumb people are still able to reproduce somehow. look at high school demographics, if you're smart you're a "nerd" which is deemed a lower class in high school. yet dumb jocks and cheer leaders are sought after. even goodlucking smart guys get that reputation it seems. I remember when I was a junior I was getting along great with a cheerleader who said she'd date me if I was more popular and not such a nerd... aesthetics trumps intelligence I guess? or stigma/social class trumps everything. you can be an ugly as all hell celebrity and get more pussy than an attractive "normal" person.
 
rangrz said:
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I was having this discussion with Ms.G the other day, re:DJ's/rock stars/actors/pop culture famous people and girls finding them particularly hot because of it. Why is that? Like I don't hear of that many girls being "mmmmmm oh em gee! That guy who won the Fields Medal for his work on Algebraic Geometry is sooo hot, I want to have his babies!!!"

Or like "Oh fuck, Dr. Tak Mak!. Nobel prize and cures cancer, I want to lick his loli-pop if you know what I mean"

How come? Why is flipping switches to make electronic devices (which they likely have little to no understanding of how they work) hotter than curing a disease or discovering something about the universe?
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I don't think there's any logical explanation for it. It's like the guitarist syndrome. If a guy plays guitar, he's automatically more attractive. That's just how it is.

On a basic, just-for-sex level, I think (and am sure most people do as well, regardless of gender or sexuality or whatever) coolness, entertainment, whatever, is much more attractive than intelligence. Especially since rockstars/actors blablabla tend to pay much more attention to their appearance and just physically look better than Fields Medal winners. :\ (I know there are exceptions, obviously).
Obviously it's different for relationships, but I'd take hot over smart any time if it's just for sex.

Also - just wanted to add that one of the things that makes me so ridiculously attracted to Jimmy Page is the fact that he's a fucking musical genius. I'd be much less attracted to him if he was a shit guitarist. Same for actors. Talent still goes a long way.
 
Jimmy Page is so good at the guitar no one even batted an eyelid when he started noncing up a 13 year old! Ahhh, to be a rock god....%)
 
omen_owen mk2 said:
Jimmy Page is so good at the guitar no one even batted an eyelid when he started noncing up a 13 year old! Ahhh, to be a rock god....%)
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Yeah, it gives me hope that his 69 year-old self might go for 19 year-old me =D

Although we did have a moment when I screamed 'I LOVE YOU JIMMY' when I saw the band at their film premiere a few months ago and he waved at me (was standing on the barriers like 2 meters away). The connection and sparks were obvious. =D
 
rangrz said:
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I was having this discussion with Ms.G the other day, re:DJ's/rock stars/actors/pop culture famous people and girls finding them particularly hot because of it. Why is that? Like I don't hear of that many girls being "mmmmmm oh em gee! That guy who won the Fields Medal for his work on Algebraic Geometry is sooo hot, I want to have his babies!!!"

Or like "Oh fuck, Dr. Tak Mak!. Nobel prize and cures cancer, I want to lick his loli-pop if you know what I mean"

How come? Why is flipping switches to make electronic devices (which they likely have little to no understanding of how they work) hotter than curing a disease or discovering something about the universe?
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Well, when my favourite DJ is playing in my favourite club, I'm I'm not usually sober, the feeling I get is the most amazing feeling. Thus that leads to him being more attractive. He's at the front of the DJ booth and I'm dancing at the front and I see him the whole time. He is bound to be attractive.

So this guy who won the math award or whatever. I don't know what he looks like. How can I find someone, who I've never seen before, attractive?
Sometime I see every weekend ... yes. Someone who I've never seen before ... no. Maybe this award winning math guy is super attractive? Never seen his pic, I'd be able to decide once I saw him.

Do you think DJ-ing is useless? DJ-ing takes skill. I certainly can't do it myself. I am quite offended that you automatically presume DJs don't know understand how their DJ equipment works.
I don't find a guy attractive because of his job. It's because he looks good!!! If there was an attractive guy curing cancer, then I'm sure I'd fine him attractive too.

Add: So my favourite local DJ, let's call him J, I find him very very attractive. Why? Because he is attractive. He happens to be a DJ. He also works in sales/marketing or something during the week. But if J was working on curing cancer, I'd find him attractive too!
I went to see this international DJ last night, lets call him C. He was absolutely gorgeous. If he was working on curing cancer, I would still find him attractive.

I don't hang out with people who are working on curing cancer. I go out clubbing a lot. Therefore, I see a lot of DJs. There are many DJs who I find unattractive as well. But, the more DJs I see, the better chance that I'll find more attractive DJs.
 
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@Llama:

It was not a personal attack, it was just made me recall this discuss from last night and I thought I'd ask SLR for their input on why this phenomena exists.

I'm not saying it's bad or good. It's asking "why" in a neutral way, like the same way I'd ask "why" if I noticed an unexpected particle was being produced in one of my experiments.

The example of the Fields medal winner was an abstract/hypothetical person vs an abstract, hypothetical DJ. i.e. asking why, -in general- is a DJ swooned over more than a Fields Medal winner.

Or "Why do guys find high heels sexier than sandals?"
Talent matters, and sure, a particularly guitarist or DJ is worthy of admiration for their skill. But then a Fields Medal winner or a Noble Prize winner is obviously extremely talented too, albeit it a different, but still very creative discipline. Why does arts and entertainment talent seen as so much more sexy than other pursuit that people undertake?



No judgement or attack was intended towards Llama, it was just generic question.
 
Guitars are just an extension of a man's penis and in the same vein why female drummers are fucking hot.

I just try really hard not to think about my dead grandparents watching me. :sus:
 
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