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DeeCee did you try and make contact with any of them whilst in your absence?

I feel like I lose my connection to the people in the party scene because I feel I am different to them and had a common goal of getting fucked up.. Nothing more than that, sure they thought i was a nice guy, and yea they were nice too, but there is only so many times u can talk about djs, drugs and Plur before you kinda realise you aint got much in common.

Ive asked myself plenty of times why I hang out with the people in the party scenes I did, why I am nothing like them... Then you realise, hanging with them is different, you can do it whenever they welcome you for a night and then you catch up with them a few years later. To me its no fuss.

but im over having those fun nights out, im gettin too old, i havent got time to spend with my good friends let alone the phonies... nah jk.

anyways i hope i did a good job of going on a tangent
 
I don't agree with the general sentiment here.

I know it's easy to blame friendships crumbling on the lack of time spent together.
I know it's justifiable to think people need to make the effort to stay in touch - to stay informed about you and your life.

I also know we have just as much responsibility to share our time and our thoughts / emotions / smiles / voices / experiences with the people we feel close to and want to get to know, and keep in our lives.

Just like I know a true friendship [to me] doesn't always involve time.
Sure, a lot of relationships blossom over the passing of moments shared..but I'm sure a lot of us have those friendships - - those special connections that still burn just as bright after not seeing each other for months or years.


Lack of time? How about lack of interest from one of the involved parties? The general idea I gather from deeCees post was that upon stopping going out, his 'friends' no longer contacted him at all.

His 'friends' no longer had the time for him.

A true friendship does endure time. Thats how I've noticed my friends.
They're still putting up with my shit after many many years. Still there for me when I need them most. Not the people who return to me when they need a favor, or when they need a shoulder to lean on. Not the people who only have time for me when I'm out getting trashed with them
 
In my drunken thorts of last week, I didn't mean for it to turn into a drugs friends thing... Cause thats been done to death before. I shouldn't have meantioned that and apoligize for that

I wanted it to go more inline with ahhhh, I'm not sure, something like how you contact someone to go out for a nite, or something along those lines. In my eyes I seemed to be the one doing the contacting. And when I didn't contact people I sat at home doing nothing. Made me wonder to think if really I'm a loner?
So "drug friends" aside, I shouldnt have said anything about that. Just friends in general.

No I havent been lazy... I really like and relate to what moebro and LahLahGatecrasher said.

*please note: I still can't quiet get words to what I really want to say*

Muzby: I believe I did say 2 people try to contact me :) Maybe, soon, I'm really sorry dude!!!!!! will explain later.
 
Like to add the amount of messages + missed calls myself and Emma left you should say how we wanted to keep in touch.
 
i sort of grew up with a group of close knit friends that i then experienced the world of "going out" with as more of a unit than individuals and we have sort of carried on that tradition.... then when i changed schools i met a group of equally important friends who i dont get to see as much due to living large distances apart, but i value them just as much..... i must say, in both groups, both local and all over the place, everyone keeps in touch or at least tries to, and we see each other kind of regularly.... i feel blessed to have the friends i do, and i cant really see anyone whose friendship i truly value slipping away from me.... even if i see them once a month, or once every 3 months, they are still special to me....
 
I don't think there is one person who i party with that i don't keep in contact with 'out of the scene'.

I still email and call all my friends every week even though i have been overseas for the last 7 months. I long for the dinners, conversations and sober times more then the party nights.

To me, if i cant have a sober conversation/dinner with them, they are not my friends.
 
I know exactly how you feel... When I was young and stupid.. I traded in my real friends for my party friends. I thought the party would never end and these people I had met, were my friends - true friends...

5 years on and I have lost contact with a hell of a lot of people.. the people I have stayed in contact with all have had one quality - They have lives outside the party and drugs.

Have you noticed that most people who sit around and get fucked up - constantly.. and only thing about getting fucked up are usually the people you loose contact with when you finally come back to planet earth........
It's the ones who have lives outside the party and have a more balanced life style that you keep in touch with...

Some of my friends who I keep close contact with who still go out recently had a get together. About 40 people who I use to go out weekly with all went to a bar to catch up..

For the majority of the night.. my conversation went like this:

Me: Hey, haven't seen you in ages!!! How you been?
Them: Hey XX, my God!! What a long time.. haven't seen you out in ages?
Me: Yeah, I know... beeen fairly quiet recently.. just resting for the summer ahead! Got heaps of stuff to do with school.. work...
Them: Work?... Oh yeah.. cool! Hey dude - did you go to XX party last week?
Me: No.... I went camping
Them: Oh!! I bet you got really fucked up hey! *small nudge*
Me: Not really
Them: You had XX pill or XX tab...
Me: No....
Them: Ummm ok.. umm well nice seeing ya. catch ya around.

Everyone just wanted to know what pills I had taken, parties I had gone to.. When I couldn't provide them with either.. it was really uncomfortable.

Anyway.. the party is great while it lasted and I wouldn't trade it in for the world.. but yeah.. I dont know about the friendships.
 
Not many people... Thats okay! My real friends are groovers. I love them to pieces and reality, I couldent really care who doesnt want to know me :D

shals!
 
I sometimes feel that if i dropped off the edge of the earth no one would notice. even with my two closest friends it always seems that i'm always the one ringing them / organising stuff. its because they are lazy etc. but somehow sometimes it just seems like work to keep the friendship going. we have a great time when we are together but somehow its sometimes too hard for them to pick up the phone and say hi...unless they have a problem, then they ring to bitch and moan.

who wants to know me? well maybe i should not call anyone for the next month and see who cares....:\
 
kryalkastleE said:
maybe i should not call anyone for the next month and see who cares....:\
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i do this quite regularly....

and find it funny when i do actually catch up with the ppl i haven't seen, the act like its my fault that we haven't caught up...
 
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