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Where to find girls in sobriety?

lman_15

lman_15

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I'm 18 months sober and have had some serious problems finding girls in sobriety. When I'm using I always had a girl around and it was never an issue meeting or dating women. I'm 23, 5'8'', work out every other day, got a good build, have a good job, my own apartment and for the most part think I'm a datable person. However, I'm having trouble meeting women as most girls my age want to "turn up" (whatever the fuck that means) and most people my age frequent bars and clubs on weekends. When I was in my halfway house I had a girl I was messing around with for about 3-4 months then she decided to start partying really hard (drinking and doing blow all the time) so that came to an end. I was going to bars with my friends who partied to meet girls (I don't mind being around drinking) however I slept with one girl one night she was drunk and I was sober. Just felt really shitty about it for a while after morally it just didn't sit well with me. So I'm in a strange place in my life were I'm young and in recovery and can't really think of ways to meet single girls or at least the ones I want (ideally someone who doesn't want to party every night of the weekend). If anyone has advice it would be appreciated.
 
Go take a french-class (language), or some other activity like that. Maybe just go to the library, must be women at the library
 
probably find them at like any kinda healthy shit

yoga class
a gym
organic grocery stores

also:
community art / painting workshops, college or university, church? idk,


hook-ups = download the tinder app
 
I always though mebbe a sexual addiction class, could hit some real paydirt there!
 
I fuck around with Tinder from time to time and aside from that not much movement on the girl front. Was thinking of trying Plenty of Fish or something like that. Anyone on here try any dating websites?
 
lman_15 said:
I fuck around with Tinder from time to time and aside from that not much movement on the girl front. Was thinking of trying Plenty of Fish or something like that. Anyone on here try any dating websites?
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my friend who i call the POF slayer used to use that all the time for like 6 months, like at least twice a month he would hook up with someone.
until he got some STI from a girl (no protection.... dumbass) and then got scared off. makes for some pretty funny stories while it lasted though lol
 
Go to an AA or NA meeting for young people. Most cities have them and while probably not the best for sobriety, there are tons of girls who are in the same situation. A lot of people get sober and turn to sex to fill the void. It's sketchy to go there looking for girls but check out a meeting. It can't hurt. Or maybe you'll make some sober friends who could set you up with a girl who isn't into partying.
 
Think of the kind of girl you want to meet. Think of something you have in common with her. Try to meet her there.

Lots of people have given great suggestions. You don't meet your life partner at a bar (not a quality one anyway), I'd much prefer to meet them at the library, or the farmers market, or even through work.

ParappaTheRapper, that post with the two videos is fucking hilarious, the juxtaposition is great. Makes me think of Zulu Nation's recent letter to Worldstar Hip-Hop.
 
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