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When will I want to settle down ?

DonMakaveli

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Im 21 years old (young?) now, grown & for the first time in my life I'm witnessing my perspective on relationships & women take a complete 180. I've been promiscuous with females ever since I was 14, this is all I knew or wanted to know, sex. For the most part, sex has blinded my judgement, ability to emphasize with womens feelings, bad decision making with relationships. But now, I genuinely feel the 'want' so much that it feels like I 'need' to settle down with a girl with the potential to love that person. Putting an end to me running around, only lookin forward to my next nut. Because I'm 21 is this a short phase of thought I'm going thru ? Although I am still very young, the opportunity will come at another time in the far future ? Or am i arrogant to think that ?
 
Wow at that age I've never though of settling down at all. But I guess it depends on the person and the maturity plus the dedication to the relationship
 
Im 21 years old (young?) now, grown & for the first time in my life I'm witnessing my perspective on relationships & women take a complete 180. I've been promiscuous with females ever since I was 14, this is all I knew or wanted to know, sex. For the most part, sex has blinded my judgement, ability to emphasize with womens feelings, bad decision making with relationships. But now, I genuinely feel the 'want' so much that it feels like I 'need' to settle down with a girl with the potential to love that person. Putting an end to me running around, only lookin forward to my next nut. Because I'm 21 is this a short phase of thought I'm going thru ? Although I am still very young, the opportunity will come at another time in the far future ? Or am i arrogant to think that ?
when will you want to settle down? a year... never... somewhere in there.

alasdair
 
Maybe now, maybe never. Don't focus on settling down, focus on learning to "empathize with your partner's feelings" and build a healthy relationship. The settling down will come after.
 
Who knows if this is a phase or not - you don't need to start thinking about settling down, just see how you feel in your next relationship. Don't force things. You'll know when you've met the right woman to settle down with.
 
Don't worry too much about it. You have lots of time - to settle down, or to change, or whatever. It may be a phase, it may not be, we don't really know.
I moved in with my boyfriend a year ago (when I was 21) which could be considered "settling down". That may be early, it doesn't work like that for everyone. Some people settle down young, some are much older.

I take it you're single? So you want a relationship? Why not just leave it at that?
 
when will you want to settle down? a year... never... somewhere in there.

alasdair
Maybe now, maybe never. Don't focus on settling down, focus on learning to "empathize with your partner's feelings" and build a healthy relationship. The settling down will come after.
Who knows if this is a phase or not - you don't need to start thinking about settling down, just see how you feel in your next relationship. Don't force things. You'll know when you've met the right woman to settle down with.
Don't worry too much about it. You have lots of time - to settle down, or to change, or whatever. It may be a phase, it may not be, we don't really know.
I moved in with my boyfriend a year ago (when I was 21) which could be considered "settling down". That may be early, it doesn't work like that for everyone. Some people settle down young, some are much older.

I take it you're single? So you want a relationship? Why not just leave it at that?

Pretty much.

You might be the type of person that settles down at 25,30,40, never. The important things are to be good to yourself, to those around you, and to do what you want. However that manifests is up in the air until it happens.

Just keep your head up brother. Things fall into place in your head as you learn more about yourself through your experiences, and you've just started the advanced lessons.
 
Settle down for some reason always means kids and marriage. I would consider myself settled down and I have neither of those things.
 
Pretty much.

You might be the type of person that settles down at 25,30,40, never. The important things are to be good to yourself, to those around you, and to do what you want. However that manifests is up in the air until it happens.

Just keep your head up brother. Things fall into place in your head as you learn more about yourself through your experiences, and you've just started the advanced lessons.

This was awesome. Good sound words of wisdom/advice. Along with EVERYBODY else who posted on here. Thanks.
 
you'll know when the time is right!
I never thought I could find someone who would love me for who I am.
But I have :)
 
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