Anyone hav an opinion on the idea that fetishs generally come from trauma? personally, I definitely believe they can but I can’t imagine that’s the case for the majority of people.
In my case, I suspect only one of my two fetishes was linked to trauma.
My foot fetish started as early as I can remember(around five years old) and I don’t think there was any trauma involved as my childhood was very happy back then.
I would say my spit fetish was a little different and might be linked to very mild trauma. as a child, like most people I found saliva gross though I was probably a bit more sensitive and I still do feel that way about male saliva. people would always spit on the playground and I would have to be careful to avoid stepping on it. I don’t know why one day my mind started wondering to how I would feel if a girl had spat on the ground and I had stepped on it or if she had spat directly on me. at first there was no arousal, I still found the idea of a girls spit disgusting just much less disgusting than that of a boy. The thought would pop up in my head occasionally but nothing much for a few months.
I think what really Changed things. is when I started witnessing fights at school. at about 12, I was going through some serious stress related depression, Anxiety and low confidence. on top of that, I was, and still am extremely averse to serious conflicts like arguments and fights. interestingly, when I got to high school I started hearing about fights between boys and girls where the girls would often resort to ganging up and spitting on the boy. I don’t know why it happened, but it’s as if a switch was flipped in my brain and I literally woke up one morning wanting any girls I found attractive to spit in my face with as much saliva and phlegm as they could. perhaps my fetish was intensified by the fact that I was unfortunately never spat on by a girl.
Sorry for the long post, I just found the topic of fetish development fascinating
