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Whats Behind The Dirty Things We Say During Sex?

Pariahprose

Pariahprose

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Some people just straight up like to fuck and not exchange any dirty sexual talk during the act. I personally love it when my gf talks dirty to me while we have sex and I enjoy talking dirty back to her. But one has to wonder,whats really behind some of the dirty things we say during sex?

This one time I was with a girl who insisted on calling me "Daddy", caught me off guard at the time, but the girl really got into it so I wasn't going to ruin it for her. My current gf has this thing about telling me that she is my slut and tells me to fuck her like one. Oddly enough,this drives me crazy so I continue to add to the things she says, telling her how good of a dirty little slut she is and how I would love to watch her be filled up by another by another man, etc.

So does anyone think the things we say during sex may reveal some of our more carnal desires or other attributes of our personality? How would you take your gf wanting to be called a slut when you have sex? Also, whats the dirtiest thing you have ever told your sexual partner during the act?

Pariahprose
 
I dunno. I never say stuff like that, nor does Ms.G and none of my past GFs or FWBs has either.

I think it's kind of a turn off, mostly because it sounds ridiculous and low brow.

I usually just tell my partner stuff about how they're hot/cute, or if something feels awesome and I want more, or if I don't overly like something, I'll politely say it "that's is too ticklish!" or something...

We might exchange fantasys, but not in a omfg I want to pound your asshole you slut type of way
 
rangrz said:
I think it's kind of a turn off, mostly because it sounds ridiculous and low brow.
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for me it ruins things. heavy breathing and something mild and honest is better than "i think i'm in porn duhoy!". many aspects about porn for me are off putting and unsexy
 
pofacedhoe said:
for me it ruins things. heavy breathing and something mild and honest is better than "i think i'm in porn duhoy!". many aspects about porn for me are off putting and unsexy
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Exactly! I like telling Ms.G stuff like "mehr! you are squishable!" and I like it when she breathes all heavy and makes cute, quiet little moans. Not that porno style "aaaigAAAAH! OOOOOOH! AAAAAAAAAAAAH! I'M A CUM GUZZLING BUTT SLUT!" Fuck man, that is a huge turn off.

No word of a lie, me and Ms.G where at a sex club, and there was this orgy of (rather unattractive) people screaming like that and it legit made it hard for me get turned on cause I could hear it.
 
If it's genuine & from the heart I don't see why it wouldn't be a turn on.

I've had some ridiculous stuff. Being asked to spit on her, verbally abuse, restrain whilst telling her to 'shut up/be quiet/etc', slap aggressively, pulling hair, etc. But if that's what they like then it's a pleasure to see them enjoy it.

I'm far more subtle though if truth be told - but I've yet to find a woman who hasn't asked me for at least some of those things, lol.
 
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rangrz said:
I dunno. I never say stuff like that, nor does Ms.G and none of my past GFs or FWBs has either.

I think it's kind of a turn off, mostly because it sounds ridiculous and low brow.

I usually just tell my partner stuff about how they're hot/cute, or if something feels awesome and I want more, or if I don't overly like something, I'll politely say it "that's is too ticklish!" or something...

We might exchange fantasys, but not in a omfg I want to pound your asshole you slut type of way
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Rangrz whats your take on the reason of why people may say these kinds of things during sex? Does a woman who calls their lover "daddy" have some kind of unresolved daddy issue? Does the woman who is turned on by being called a slut have some deep desire to possibly experience sex in the slutiest ways possible or maybe even desires their partner to sexually treat them as one to compensate for issues of maybe self esteem or other psychological issues?

I wouldnt say we take it full blown to the level thats in porn. Porn does get kind of cheesy in that manner at times because it can make it seem so fake. Its almost impulsive in its nature with us,it isn't something we plan,its very real and sporadic...

LMAO! So as of right now Im the only freak in here so far that is turned on by this kind of thing!
 
I don't know why people do it. I think it might be a lack of creativity...they can't think of what else to say, so they default to the stereotyped sound bites from porn and pop culture?
 
my ex-wife often called me daddy... I think it had more to make her feel like a naughty girl than it had to do with daddy issues. Like "don't spank me daddy." in a demure voice. Of course I, being me, was more than happy to spank her ass, pull her hair, or "make" her do things.
 
I'd say it's probably an expression of transgressive sexual fantasy, and pushing accepted social norms in a more or less harmless way. I do know that our normal thresholds for disgust are lowered during sex. Beyond that, I can't say for sure, I'm not into the talking dirty thing.
 
rangrz said:
I don't know why people do it. I think it might be a lack of creativity...they can't think of what else to say, so they default to the stereotyped sound bites from porn and pop culture?
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I would have 2 actually agree with you about your point on the majority doing it because of a lack of creativity. However, I have found very few things where I tend to fit in the majority with,lol, so I do not feel it is an issue of creativity for me. I can be romantic sexually with the things I do and say as well. However,it just depends on my mood whether I am sexually romantic or animalistic...
 
I would so much rather the stuff rangrz said. It's more passionate and loving, and poop it sucks being a romantic, but there it is. I like that stuff. My reputation is ruined now, ruined.
 
Pariahprose said:
However,it just depends on my mood whether I am sexually romantic or animalistic...
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this. It's usually one or the other... I's say 60/40 for us.

Sometimes looking into her eyes telling her how we love each other without saying a word...

Sometimes hitting it deep and it's moans and animal sounds with some naughty talk mixed in...

Both good.
 
Lysis said:
I would so much rather the stuff rangrz said. It's more passionate and loving, and poop it sucks being a romantic, but there it is. I like that stuff. My reputation is ruined now, ruined.
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LOL, I never let being a romantic ruin my reputation... I'm a certified bad ass and if anyone wishes to say that being a romantic and telling my S/O that I think she has a really cute nose and that I like how I can see her ribs when she stretches and that I find that adorable makes me a pussy, they can tell it to me while I'm standing there in IIIa body armour and holding a carbine. ;)

I don't like "animalistic" sex, it's so crude, low brow and base and it's the kind of thing I associate with a guy with long hair and a beard who is drinking Bud light while watching football and demanding a blowjob from his wife in between her cleaning the bathroom and starting dinner cooking.

That said, humans are metazoans and therefore animals, and by definition any and all sex humans have is animalistic.
 
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