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What ticks you off?

No one comes to my house and go through any private areas and they do it because they have healty boundaries-nothing to do with manners! They know what is appropriate and what is not!
So I would say, it is the people you choose to be with that lack those, or how your boundaries stand, whether they are going to respect them or not!
 
^^Yeah but sometimes you have said boundaries and people bypass them without you knowing. It's just something that happens, we all have a misjudgment in character sometimes. It's part of life.

-dp
 
people who are always angry

racism/sexism/homophobia

being an addict

having no motivation

always feeling sick

people who yell at TVs or inanimate objects

people who abuse their kids, and also do it in public

people who will straight up lie with a smile on their face (I knew a girl who lied about someone else living with her, and I mentioned it in casual conversation to a therapist we both had (in private, but we were in group therapy together), and I guess she wasn't supposed to be living with this girl. So she came back in the group after the therapist said something to her, days later, and said I was lying... I was like WTF, look me in my eyes and tell me I'm lying... I may need therapy but I'm not delusional. And she did, she looked me in my eyes and said "You're a liar, I'm not living with xxx"... and then when I said I wasn't arguing, this is ridiculous, she threatened my life and got kicked out. heh)

people who play mind games (see above)

abusive people - narcissists/sociopaths (and see above again)

someone who owes me money, knows i am trying to get clean, and tries to get me to get them drugs while they still owe me money

people treating me like shit because i'm on (temporary) disability, like I am less than them or just being lazy

insurance companies

flashbacks (not drug related, abuse related)

anxiety/depression

not being able to handle my own money, because the state thinks I need a representative... and the only person I trust enough to let handle that is my mom who does a lot for me but also has done a lot to me. so basically being forced to see my mom on a regular basis when sometimes I am having flashbacks ABOUT HER or something she did to me.



ugh i feel like a whiner now.
 
lasthurrah19 said:
someone who owes me money, knows i am trying to get clean, and tries to get me to get them drugs while they still owe me money...

...ugh i feel like a whiner now.
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Damn man you hit that square on. I hate that shit with the people owing me money and trying to get them drugs while they still owe it. I have that problem right now, my friend owes me like $90 and yet he still tries to use me to get him things, and do shit with him, and he will sit there and shoot up dope or OC in my house while I'm sitting here on suboxone trying to stay clean, and it's SO hard to fucking resist doing dope when it's right in front of you.

-dp
 
I had a friend once when I was making a lot of money (briefly selling some buds for about 2 months several years ago), I kept lending shit to and he owed me like $200. I never really expected him to pay me back, and he didn't... but we're still friends. This other guy owed me $40 wanted me to get him $20 worth of lets say pot, and only give me $30 - continuing to owe $30. Definitely wasn't cool with me. He did give me the $30 though when I refused. If I had money to spare like back then I wouldn't care, but I make less than $950 a month right now, my parents help me with a few $100 for bills.
 
dilated_pupils said:
Damn man you hit that square on. I hate that shit with the people owing me money and trying to get them drugs while they still owe it. I have that problem right now, my friend owes me like $90 and yet he still tries to use me to get him things, and do shit with him, and he will sit there and shoot up dope or OC in my house while I'm sitting here on suboxone trying to stay clean, and it's SO hard to fucking resist doing dope when it's right in front of you.

-dp
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thats letting yourself get walked on.

Try this. Next time he comes over and shoots up, rob his ass and kick him out the door. No cops will believe him.
 
ShaolinBomber said:
half that list is why i dont like hanging out in my house or hanging around alot of people. If im at someones house i never take/ask for anything unless its water or its offered to me. People dont know manners and i dont understand it.
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True. It amazes me how much more mature I am at 20 years old than 90% of the "adults" in the world.
 
ShaolinBomber said:
thats letting yourself get walked on.

Try this. Next time he comes over and shoots up, rob his ass and kick him out the door. No cops will believe him.
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Yeah I know, I have a tendency of being too nice. I can be very hard headed sometimes, but I let things slip as well... I think it all has to do with pity to be honest, I pity someone therefor making their life any harder I feel would be harming them and for that I wont do it. But I know better than all that, and still allow it to happen...

I'll get that money one way or another.

-dp
 
I actually like packing and unpacking heh

I hate when people say they're going to do something and don't do it.
 
spork said:
I actually like packing and unpacking heh

I hate when people say they're going to do something and don't do it.
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I like packing and unpacking too, it let's you sort your shit out and when you unpack it allows you to put everything in order the way you want to organize it and all... I don't know maybe it's because I'm OCD that I would enjoy packing/unpacking...

And yeah people not sticking to their word sucks, I hate putting trust in someone to find that they are just a piece of shit and aren't ever there for you.

What else ticks me off is not being able to sleep. My insomnia has been so horrible lately, actually it's always been horrible. I really need to get to the bottom of this problem and get the right help for it, because sleep is very important trust me I know.

-dp
 
dilated_pupils said:
What else ticks me off is not being able to sleep. My insomnia has been so horrible lately, actually it's always been horrible. I really need to get to the bottom of this problem and get the right help for it, because sleep is very important trust me I know.

-dp
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fuck yah I hate tossing around in bed for hours:X The only way I've found to help deal with it is just forcing yourself to wake up really early the next morning. I know it sucks, but make yourself get up at 5 or 6, and IME, your body will eventually force you to go to sleep earlier to adjust to the early wake. After 3 or 4 nights of waking up at 5am, I'm betting you'll be able to go to sleep at a decent hour.

You take, and/or recentlyl taken any stims on a regular basis that may screw with you sleep patterns?

EDit: I've never been diagnosed to medical insomnia though, so it may not be as simple with a medical condition in play
 
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dilated_pupils said:
^^Yeah but sometimes you have said boundaries and people bypass them without you knowing. It's just something that happens, we all have a misjudgment in character sometimes. It's part of life.

-dp
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Yes you are right, in some of the things you state, but boundaries are not said-but formed.
You form them also according to each individual. Some people respect them and others don't but you owe to be alert and observe people before you form stricter boundaries for some.
Don't trust unless they earn your trust. Don't disclose too much of yourself, unless you trust that person 100% of some of your personal issues.
People will cross your boundaries, if they know your weak points, so don't disclose these unless the person is worth your trust.

Having said all that, I understand what you say above, we can't control all of our environment, but some things that are expensive and/or of value to us, you are best to lock them away in more private areas, so that no one who we don't fully know is tempted to act indescently and you don't get hurt in the process.
 
People removing the bin liner, and not replacing it (or any variation on that). And then without checking, you automatically assume the liner is there and throw something like old milk into it, grr.
 
KStoner6tb said:
You take, and/or recentlyl taken any stims on a regular basis that may screw with you sleep patterns?

EDit: I've never been diagnosed to medical insomnia though, so it may not be as simple with a medical condition in play
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I'm prescribed adderall, but I just got back on it so I know that it's not the adderall. I've had insomnia since I was around 6-7 years old. And since you've never been diagnosed, maybe you should try seeing a doctor about your insomnia troubles, and hopefully you may find something that will help you get to sleep. Either through therapy and/or a medication. Nothing has worked for me other than seroquel, but I ended up gaining 25 pounds in a month off of it so I had to stop (although luckily I was underweight so gaining 25 pounds wasn't a horrible thing).

LivingInTheMoment said:
Yes you are right, in some of the things you state, but boundaries are not said-but formed.
You form them also according to each individual. Some people respect them and others don't but you owe to be alert and observe people before you form stricter boundaries for some.
Don't trust unless they earn your trust. Don't disclose too much of yourself, unless you trust that person 100% of some of your personal issues.
People will cross your boundaries, if they know your weak points, so don't disclose these unless the person is worth your trust.

Having said all that, I understand what you say above, we can't control all of our environment, but some things that are expensive and/or of value to us, you are best to lock them away in more private areas, so that no one who we don't fully know is tempted to act indescently and you don't get hurt in the process.
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Exactly. Well said.

-dp
 
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