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What should I do? Should I contact her after weeks of no contact?

Andrew508

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I’m having a problem with a ex, and I love this girl. We started talking back in December and became a couple on her birthday in March. She fell for me real quick and said the “L” word to me two months after we became a couple. Then we started to fight about what I thought was little things, her on the other hand thought were big things. She’d get upset with when she would text me asking to go for dinner but would already have plans and I wouldn’t respond with a “well let’s hangout after”. So she started thinking I never wanted to be with her. When I really did. Then we’d make plans a day or two later. Little after that I broke it off with her cause I didn’t like the fighting, and thought it wasn’t gonna change. When I broke it off she looked like I crushed her heart. So emotional , asking why are you doing this to me and she wanted to be with me. Little over a week later I started missing her as a person and the good times we had so I contacted her asking if she’d like to hangout with me for the day. She loves the zoo so I took her to one then had lunch out in Boston. During the day she reached for my hand to hold it. We had a good day. Then on the ride home later in the day she asked me to join her to a family cookout. I declined saying it would feel awkward for me since we are not together and that it was the first time seeing her after I broke it off. She got upset about that. Then the fighting came again about her not thinking I didn’t want her around. So she’d stop talking to me for a week. I said I can change and I thought I was spending a lot of time with her until recently. We went to a resturant with a few of our friends had a good time then later went back to her house. Two days later she got upset again cause I was cooking dinner for my family and she wanted to do something . Granted yes I should of invited her of done something after. Another week goes by of no talking, now she says we’re done and she hates the way I treat her. And that she works at a compony so she’s always on the computer so I would always send Facebook messages saying how I “missed her”. Important things she didn’t want to talk about in a message. A week later of no contact I sent her flowers to her work. Then messaged her if she got them. I got only a “yes” then “stop spending money one me”
I asked why and said it’s cause I missed her and wanted her back. She got mad and ended up blocking me on Facebook and saying “good bye” and “I hope you find happiness”. Now a week later a buddy told me that they were all having dinner at her place with her roommates and her ex bf was there. Granted he lives 2 hours away and cheated on her when they were together. I just don’t understand why she’s treating me like this. I’d never cheat. Please help! I realized I’ve fallen in live with her and said that to her weeks before the breaks up.
I’d do anything to change and want her back, but I don’t wanna chase and lose her forever.
 
change? why would you need to change? it doesn't appear to me that you have done anything wrong from your post.

this girl is giving me borderline personality disorder vibes.

it sounds like she thinks you have done something to hurt her, so she is closing herself off to protect herself

why would you want to be in a relationship with this girl?

there are plenty of fish in the sea, you will get over her eventually~
 
Just wanted to throw out that I'm 26. Not a teenager looking for some crush advise. Haha
But I fell in love with this girl. She does have a bad past with bfs cheating on her. I told her that I would NEVER do that. I understand starting important conversations with her while she's at work was a bad idea on my part, and understand why she'd get upset at me. It's been almost 2 weeks and I can't get her out of my mind
 
you broke it off because you were sick of the fighting, she emotionally manipulated you into coming back, you both kept fighting, she stopped talking to you for week stints, she told you goodbye, you kept msging her on facebook, you sent flowers to her workplace 0.o, now she is seemingly back with her ex-bf who cheated on her in the past

now u r coming off as needy, get over her dawg
 
Well not back cause he lives 2 hours away, and not needy really I was just looking to get her back cause what I did doesn't come to what other guys do. Just felt like she is blowing this up more then it has to be.
 
she seems to get extremely pissed at you when you try to reach out to her first, i think its safe to say that if she loves you, then she will try contact you. sooo don't try reconnect, she is controlling and crazy anyway.
 
you broke it off because you were sick of the fighting, she emotionally manipulated you into coming back, you both kept fighting, she stopped talking to you for week stints, she told you goodbye, you kept msging her on facebook, you sent flowers to her workplace 0.o, now she is seemingly back with her ex-bf who cheated on her in the past

now u r coming off as needy, get over her dawg

You called him dawg :D He's not a dog, lol. You're a silly butt :)
 
I broke up with her just a week before. Then I'm going to show up at her families house knowing all them know that I dumped her. To awkward for me.
 
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