What Is The (Your) Key(s) To Happiness?

Stay busy. Stay active. Keep learning every day. Act on instinct.
Save time for yourself. Your sanity is not worth a few dollars, nor is it worth someone's respect.
 
Love this thread. :) Thank you for making and posting everyone

What keeps me happy (other than drugs)
-Cycling, fast as hell, through the countryside or whizzing in and around traffic whilst listening to banging music

-Accepting my mistakes, fuck ups, and learning a lot from them.

-Being able to forgive and not hold grudges.

-Having a good conscience and being able to chill comfortably by myself.

-Trying everyday to be a good, honest, friendly person that doesn't judge others

-Listening to other people when they just want to rant/ have someone to listen

-Helping others and strangers




Take care pplx
 
This is a super sweet thread, why have I been wasting so much time in the lounge :?


I stumble upon happiness when I manage to accept myself and my situation,

When I don't desire to change what I'm doing when wake up in the morning,

When I'm treating myself with respect,

When I get to give love and when I get to get love,


and then just like that I lose it... But it comes back, because its sinusoidal like that.


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Making people laugh, laughing, being loved and loving back, animals, the sun, family, making relationships, being part of something, learning, progress.
 
And so I ask, what makes you happy?
What (if any) work goes into seeking it? Achieving it? Maintaining it?

Is happiness, in fact, something that can be "maintained"?

Thinking patterns color my view of the world. Positive or negative. Since I've been out of individual & group therapy 6 months I've let myself slip back into negative thinking patterns. I start back up in January but that's several weeks away. So for now I'm going to work on my thinking patterns through moodgym.

Since I grew up depressed and unaware of how to think positively for so many years, I believe that checking in to therapy on & off throughout my life may be in order.
 
Writing and especially making art is what makes me happy... I haven't written anything besides papers for school in months and I seriously haven't made any artwork in over a year...... that's so sad to me. I would win art competitions and everything. Making art made me happy. Now after losing my whole art portfolio after I became homeless made me say fuck it. However I want to get out of this phase and start working on making things again. I just need to find a stable environment to live in.... then I will truly be happy and I will feel secure. Until then I can't be happy or at least I make it so that I am not.
 
Alcohol is my key to happiness.
Music used to be it but I dont even find my favourite songs enjoyable anymore.
 
*1)Openness, Appreciation and only short bursts of anger followed by humour(see 1). ;)

*Balanced alone time with others(selected others).

*Being in nature and the desire to appreciati its simple beauty.

*Having a good laugh at anything/with anything/with or at yourself.
 
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Doing precisely what I want to do at that particular moment. Indifference to anyone's opinions is a great facilitator.
 
- Loving relationships.. we're wired to need physical connection. Even just hugging.. but also friends and relationships with other people.
- Work or activities that you get fully engaged in.. mastering anything you find meaningful
- Spiritual practices: church, nature, virtue, art, psychedelics, meditation, prayer
- A good brain.. which I mean can be influenced by genetics. But also can be helped by anti-depressants, cognitive behavioral therapy and meditation.

... Something that's been on my mind lately about maybe more like "peace" than happiness is a simple idea, and that is - not seeing LIFE as a problem. As in, even thinking about things and trying to figure things out. Our minds generally want to work everything out, that's what our minds do. But putting your mind to work on LIFE, even if you "figured it out", you're still framing life as a problem. That idea has given me a practical way of just "being in the now" and just being.. quietened my mind and stuff.
 
^Yes. Uncertainty, mystery, change. If we expect this rather than certainty and stability it is paradoxically a more stable place to rest.
 
Sobriety is the key to my happiness. Without it I can't have lasting happiness. Without it I can't know how wonderful Jesus & God's love is. Without it I don't stand a chance at having a decent life. Without it, I don't have my sanity. Without it, I don't have me.
 
I'm still trying to figure this one out, although I know spreading good vibes helps me stay happy.
 
Living a healthy lifestyle makes a huge difference to your mental state. I used to sit around popping pills, eating junk food and watching movies and felt like shit. Now I work out a lot and eat healthier foods, don't smoke anymore and drink only occasionaly and feel just way better overall. I used to think that having spare time to do what you want was so important when I was using because when you're full of opiates sitting around doing nothing is fun, but since I got off I feel that keeping busy, keeping occupied is essential to feeling fulfilled and happy. I have a job now that requires quite a bit of travel and long hours but it's challenging and I enjoy it a lot.

Doing things that require you to put in effort and you see the reward down the road instead of immediate gratification is good - like learning to play an instrument.

And I think having a relationship, loving someone is one of the biggest things correlated with happiness. I've never gotten to that point yet, but I think there are a million studies out there showing that married or at least people in long-term relationships outperform single people in just about every category, health, income, happiness etc. etc.

A lot of it is just your attitude and outlook too. Not just your circumstances. Coming from drug addiction, like I said before, I think if you had to sum it up, probably the most important thing is to focus on goals, and set bigger and bigger ones each time you accomplish them, long-term success and accomplishment is always more satisfying than ways we get immediate gratification in the long run. The most satisfying things in life are those that are hard to achieve and take effort and aren't necessarily fun or enjoyable right at the beginning.
 
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