what is the best way to deal with someone who seems clingy?

[Mel22]

Taking things slowly implies there is a relationship and something serious enough to warrant changing pace in order to sustain it

I think that this is an important point. If you are only after a fling, make this clear to her. In person, on Facebook - doesn't really matter IMO. Just get the point across. If you think you may have trouble conveying this in person, send her a Facebook message. She needs to understand it clearly, without any sugar-coating (which many people tend to do in conversations of this nature). Otherwise, you're just setting yourself up for a headache at the very least.

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

Cool shall do.

I really don't think it is an unreasonable request to ask for things to go slowly. But yeah, I am hoping I'm not dealing with someone who is a bit too intense or unstable. She has been messaging me each day which is sweet but the initial intensity that she acted towards me after we slept together did trigger a bit of a red flag for me (though flattering). I have a bit of a worry about getting involved with someone who might have borderline personality tendencies as I have a very strong suspicision my ex girlfriend has this (even though she has never been diagnosed as such). I know what an emotional rollercoaster having involvement with a person like thi can be like.

Do you guys think I should send her a message via facebook telling her I would like to take it slow or wait until I see her in person next?

Definitely in person. It would seem cold over fb or text.

 

[Abject]

I forbid you from quoting me MEL.

 

[Mel22]

ABJECT pls.

 

[B1tO'RoughJack]

no. you will probably hurt her feelings. BUT if you tell her now and then just be a friend to her and say "look lass, I don't wanna fuck you anymore, but I'm here as your friend - this is because I think you want something I am not prepared to give you. You just got out a relationship, and it seems like you want to jumpin into another one. I can't lead you on - I don't want a relationship like it seems you do, (and here's the important part - ending with POSITIVE) but I think you're fucking cool and still wanna hang with you."

Trust me if you tell her this now, in the long run you will save her so much more heart ache.

Pass her on to sero and let him take care of her

talking about yourself in the third person? HAHAHAHA joker.

 

[aussie101]

Tell then to chill, roll them a joint. Catch a taxi home. That's it.