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What is holding you back in life today?

Loneliness is epidemic, tone. You are not alone. <3 I read an interesting thing the other day about loneliness from an evolutionary biology point of view: the theory was that loneliness is what kept early humans together. Rather than trying to hog all the food for himself a hunter would be hardwired to share with others. The need to remain in a group was our only means of survival since we did not have claws or fangs or any other way to protect ourselves from predators. This is supported by all the evidence about babies failing to thrive when they are given adequate nutrition and adequate conditions but deprived of human interaction. Now when you consider how hard-wired we all are for connection to each other you have to wonder what the hell we are thinking as a species when the cultures we build separate us at every turn.
 
its equally as destructive on functioning as any withdrawal except it goes on forever, and slowly worsens, and superficial solutions like some sort of group bare no results whatsoever. I last changed my clothes Saturday.
 
Smoky said:
I'm sorry to hear that. I've had a few psychiatrists in the past and once was on so many meds it was absurd. I remember sitting in shower I couldn't barely move, way over prescribed. Got off all 5 of em (meds)!
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Did you have a cocktail of 5 meds at the same time? Did you slowly taper off of each med one by one or were you one of the few people that were able to go cold turkey?
 
Myself, most always myself. I wish I could source motivation from a vendor or something lol. I don't mean any type of mind-altering motivation either! It would be the shit if motivation could be packaged for resale lol
 
Tone303 said:
its equally as destructive on functioning as any withdrawal except it goes on forever, and slowly worsens, and superficial solutions like some sort of group bare no results whatsoever. I last changed my clothes Saturday.
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Tone, How are you doing now?
Best,
Smoky :)
 
Stress. Anxiety. Addiction even when sober. Feelings of guilt follows me since I was very little.
It´s annoying because I´ve done tons of Psychotherapy..
 
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Cosmic Giraffe said:
Self-doubt. Addiction. Obsession. Fear. Anxiety. Guilt. Shame. Stress.
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Pretty much this and being totally sober for almost a week. It sounds bad but being totally sober just brings back all of the negative feeling and emotions which were the reason I was drinking in the first place 10 fold.
 
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I can tell you something that isn't holding me back today.... and that is using drugs. Cannot believe I haven't used a single thing in almost a fucking year. Its been awhile since I have done that and this time its really sticking.

Guilt and Shame still flare up, but its basically taken care of. I have the steps to thank that for. I am making amends right now, which helps clear my past. Therapy has been a big help. Depression and Anxiety are nowhere near what they once were. My life is the best it has been since I started using 15 years ago, no doubt about it.
 
Just feeling "off" and unable to settle into a rhythm, it's just this lingering discomfort I haven't been able to shake for a few days, and make things more complicated I'll randomly start feeling good for short periods of time but there's no common thread to link when I start feeling better or of how long, I mean I know the mind is difficult to explain (to put it lightly) and can be akin to a roller coaster, but there's gotta be something linking why I've been feeling good for the last 20mins and why I had several random 10mins - 1.5 hour segments of my day yesterday. Last week got me way outta whack with 2 root canals (+ no pain meds) but I really thought I'd be back on my game by now, can't force myself to feel better so I'll play with the dog and play some racquetball and perhaps that'll help
 
nuttynutskin said:
Pretty much this and being totally sober for almost a week. It sounds bad but being totally sober just brings back all of the negative feeling and emotions which were the reason I was drinking in the first place 10 fold.
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I feel the same about being sober. It´s just too tiring.
 
phactor said:
I can tell you something that isn't holding me back today.... and that is using drugs. Cannot believe I haven't used a single thing in almost a fucking year. Its been awhile since I have done that and this time its really sticking.

Guilt and Shame still flare up, but its basically taken care of. I have the steps to thank that for. I am making amends right now, which helps clear my past. Therapy has been a big help. Depression and Anxiety are nowhere near what they once were. My life is the best it has been since I started using 15 years ago, no doubt about it.
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Congratulations phactor!
 
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