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What do you consider "sex"?

there are many different definitions of 'sex' and sexual intercourse.

there are court cases in the past 10 years where a US court has ruled that anal sex between a same sex couple does not constitute sexual intercourse.

at the end of the day, i think the definition has to take into account the context it is used in. you can bend words to fit what you want in a lot of cases, and drilling down into technicalities and opinions is usually unhelpful in most discussions.
 
Anal sex hey?

I must be one of the few 24 year-old virgins here then :p

I'll be dying a virgin too, most likely!


Vaginal all the way IMHO.
 
^ yeah, I guess that's true...

But if you're with your man and you decide to opt for, say 69 to the point where both of you orgasm or giving each other handjobs rather than opting for intercourse, would it be a satisfactory solution for you, or would you go to sleep frustrated feeling you haven't had sex?
 
Any sexual activity that can lead to an orgasm... sexual intercourse, oral sex, hand jobs, etc. They're all forms of sex to me.
 
I consider sex to be just sexual intercourse (penetration), and oral sex is oral sex. Though i think they (and any other sexual activity) are all pretty similar in terms of the degree of... intimacy. I recently had a sexual encounter with a guy where we fooled around and had a lot of oral sex and really intimite stuff... and then when it came time for penetration he freaked out and was like, no, we shouldn't, it'll get weird etc. And i was like.... ummm we've just been going down on each other... its not really going to make any difference now. But yeah its like he thought there was a really big leap from one to the other, whereas for me its all sort of the same.
 
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lola said:
Just a random thought... I've seen gay people on B/light say that for them, giving and receiving oral sex or handjobs is considered sex - e.g. it doesn't have to be intercourse in the same way it does for many heterosexual couples. It's definitely often the case for me that if it doesn't end up in penetration it doesn't really count, but I'm starting to think that's a bit simplistic. And obviously, if your man can't go again for a while after coming it means you have to choose between, say, having him come in your mouth or in you. So I'm curious - do you consider non-intercourse sexual encounters "sex"? And how often would you have these instead of full on intercourse? Lola x
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I consider anything involving both of your nether regions together sex. Either buttsex or sex in the vag. However I used to know some mormon girls when I was in highschool that didn't believe even anal sex was sex so they would have guys fuck them in the ass so they could "stay pure"
 
Pander Bear said:
this^^

If your ambition is to come/make somebody come, you're having the sex.
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Haha! So, I was getting a blowjob, and I was TRYING to get my partner's pants off, but she didn't want to go that far herself. Does it count as sex?

(Epilogue: We fell asleep in my bed, i was nekkid and she with her pants still on. And she slept like that the whole night. How lame.)
 
lola said:
^ yeah, I guess that's true...

But if you're with your man and you decide to opt for, say 69 to the point where both of you orgasm or giving each other handjobs rather than opting for intercourse, would it be a satisfactory solution for you, or would you go to sleep frustrated feeling you haven't had sex?
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I would DEFINITELY go to sleep frustrated. I consider oral and anything else of the like to be foreplay at best. Only sex does it for me.
 
I'm not sure how anyone can consider oral "sex." According to the dictionary:

sexual intercourse 
–noun
genital contact, esp. the insertion of the penis into the vagina followed by orgasm; coitus; copulation.

Or if you're gay I suppose it could be the insertion of any object in any orifice 8) I just don't consider going down on someone actual sex. I've even heard people talk about losing their virginity when in reality the most they've done is oral copulation. Losing your virginity involves penetration, not a tongue or finger.
 
When I'm givin head to some nice lady, and she's into it - then it's sex for me. The reverse isn't true so when I get a BJ it isn't really sex until/unless penetration is involved.
 
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