Weed and relationships

[TouchN' Stuff Blvd]

I did a search, hopefully this topic has not been done.

How does/ did weed fit into your relationships with significant other? For those of you who are heavy smokers, does smoking a lot cause any problems? Is smoking / doing drugs together something you view as romantic?

To answer this question myself a bit, me and my boyfriend both get high many times a day. We do it together whenever possible, and it can be a bit romantic, especially when we make an effort to find some pretty outdoor area. Setting has a large impact on the high, if it is a good one. As a non addictive drug, its easy to share, and I dont really think it causes any problems. I do worry about becoming dependent on weed to enjoy eachothers company since we are high so much of the time, but when we do an occasional break this never turns out to be a problem. When we used to like to do coke, on the other hand, it always made me feel much less close to my boyfriend, at least for the night.
However In a past relationship I had a girlfriend that would sometimes smoke with me and occasionally lash out when I offered. Never understood. Anyway what are your thoughts?

 

[stuckinaloop]

I pretty much don't date girls who dont smoke.

It;'s not like a requirement of mine...but girls who don't smoke are not down with you smoking all the time-and relationships lke that just dont work

I like having a girl to just kick back with and blaze blunts...get a few blowjobs in here and there

after workin all day all I wanna do is smoke an L when I get home...the last thing I want is to come home to some annoying ass girl

 

[Roose]

I'm currently in a relationship with a girl who smokes. I like stoner girls to be honest, they're usually more down to earth. It's not something I would go out of my way to look for though and I definitely don't want a girl who smokes more then me.

 

[weekend addiction]

Romantic? No. But its pretty fun. Girls that don't smoke are usually bitchy and whine about everything. Stoner girls ftw!

 

[w01fg4ng]

I am one who prefers to not have my partner smoke, and I am a daily smoker. Very occasionally (like twice a year), she will smoke with me and it can be relaxing/romantic when that happens. Otherwise, I feel it compliments/balances our relationship to not have both of us stoned all the time. It works well for us anyhow...

and about doing coke in relationships...that's just silly.

 

[weekend addiction]

and about doing coke in relationships...that's just silly.

Sigmund Freud wrote that cocaine made him feel "sexually charged" around his woman. Coke and sex go together like weed and Dave Mathews Live albums.

 

[amapola]

I read a few years back on some other board of two highschool sweethearts who were big partners, dated all through university, and were basically soulmates/drinking partners. Eventually they got married and the mom to be obviously stopped drinking during pregnancy and the dad stopped as well to support her. Yadda yadda yadda child is born and mom turns back to party animal but dad has lost tons of weight feels healthy and doesn't want to party any more responsibility of raising a child etc. Mom can't stop and eventually he leaves her and takes the kid.

Morale of the story is hardcore partying relationships can be great, but be sure to use a condom :D

 

[Coolio]

My chronic cannabinoid use caused issues in a past relationship; funny though, she was the one who got me back into being a pothead, but a few years later she changed her attitude about chronic stoners and cut back heavily on her own use.

 

[w01fg4ng]

Sigmund Freud wrote that cocaine made him feel "sexually charged" around his woman. Coke and sex go together like weed and Dave Mathews Live albums.

and I could write you a book on sex and coke, but it does not have to do much with relationships...

also, Dave Mathews is much more of an alcoholic than a stoner and his music goes much better with beer/liquor than it does weed.

 

[weekend addiction]

and I could write you a book on sex and coke, but it does not have to do much with relationships...

Relationships = sex. Unless your a giant pussy and want to watch Nicholas Sparks movies that is.

 

[Sega420]

^if you believe this then you have a lot of growing up to do :/

 

[w01fg4ng]

Relationships = sex. Unless your a giant pussy and want to watch Nicholas Sparks movies that is.

First Dave Mathews and now Nicholas Sparks.

I didn't know this thread was about the naming of celebrity men whom young women lust after. Before you go boasting on about your masculinity you should put down that gossip magazine you are reading....

 

[Paradisum]

Smoking with my girlfriend has pretty much become a habit. After a long day or if were just chillen and wanna light up a bowl. I wouldnt say it is romantic, we have been doing this since we about met.

Now for me, MDMA is very romantic even when your puking your guts out at the peak in a porta potty at a massive with her... puking right next to you! lol

LSD is also real cool but kinda weird... me and my gf would lay there lost in our thoughts and sometimes we would blurt stuff out and it responded to what we were thinking... kinda freaky...


anyways smoking some cannabis with my significant other is like drinking a couple beers, just a nice buzz and head high to accompany us on our journey of love

 

[double ewe]

i've had relationships with smokers and non-smokers. they all had their problems, some weed-related, some not. but i will say that, if you're both in the right mood, sex with weed and good music can't be beat for sensuality.

@off-topic: jealous of the guys who can fuck on coke. the only thing i can do on coke is grind my teeth and do more coke.

 

[Chainer]

Heavy / every day smoker with a girl who smokes probably 1-3 times a month. It causes a bit of a problem, but then again, I gotta admit smokin' everyday is a bit of a problem as well.

It's made me consider other female options because I feel like she sees it as a character flaw rather than a college kid doing his thing.

 

[w01fg4ng]

It's made me consider other female options because I feel like she sees it as a character flaw rather than a college kid doing his thing.

I am in a very similar situation. We fought about me smoking cannabis because she thought it might be a "phase". We fought about her smoking cigarettes because I thought it was a phase.

The truth is, most people in relationships have a tendency to want to control the other person, especially when control is about drugs. The only reasonable thing to do is ask yourself if you can live with the other persons "bad habits" (in your opinion), and if the answer is yes then you don't have much to worry about.

It's also never a good idea to attempt to change yourself dramatically for another person. I have never seen it work anyhow.

 

[khald]

I smoke everyday after I'm done with my goals for the day: class, notes, studying, homework, chores, etc. This always seems to fall around when the gf gets home. She doesn't smoke - anxiety problems, and she's just not interested. I guess I'm pretty lucky to be a daily smoker and have a gf that doesn't really give a shit about it. We do other MDMA or LSD at raves or at home once in a while, and those are usually pretty good bonding events.

Although, recently, I have been feeling kinda guilty for being stoned all the time around her :/ She says she doesn't mind, but maybe it's time for a break.

 

[purple_cloud]

I gotta admit smokin' everyday is a bit of a problem as well.

I'm a female stoner, I smoke multiple times a day and have for several years...I completely agree with you chainer. It is a problem for me too. I've tried to hide it from people I've been with at times but I'm sure they can tell I'm stoned most of the time. I've dated stoners and non-stoners, and tend to have more fun with the stoners...since they wanna do everything high, even something as simple as going for a walk, when the non-stoners who smoke a few times a month don't like doing everyday tasks stoned. Don't date people who don't smoke at all --- the people I know who don't smoke don't do it because it's "illegal", but drink like fishes because "that's okay"...that mentality alone shows ignorance towards science itself, and I don't wanna date someone like that. I have friends that do not consume any drugs or alcohol as a personal choice, and while I wouldn't date them, these people seem to at least have less of a stick up their ass then the folks who are like "OMG NO pot is illegal you shouldnt do that! Just drink instead!"


Sorry for the rant...chainer, we can run away together and just get high everyday and not care that the other is doing it and have a nice stoner time, hows that sound?


(BTW, I haven't been with a stoner in a LONG time and I really really miss having my current other half getting stoned with me constantly 8) )

 

[Chainer]

I'm a female stoner, I smoke multiple times a day and have for several years...I completely agree with you chainer. It is a problem for me too. I've tried to hide it from people I've been with at times but I'm sure they can tell I'm stoned most of the time. I've dated stoners and non-stoners, and tend to have more fun with the stoners...since they wanna do everything high, even something as simple as going for a walk, when the non-stoners who smoke a few times a month don't like doing everyday tasks stoned. Don't date people who don't smoke at all --- the people I know who don't smoke don't do it because it's "illegal", but drink like fishes because "that's okay"

Haha, I hear you and feel ya. I'd love to challenge any drunk to a simple math test whilst lit as hell. Besides, you can't do everything drunk that you could high (ie: almost anything). I try to keep the smokin' down till night or after the majority of my complex tasks are finished.

Sorry for the rant...chainer, we can run away together and just get high everyday and not care that the other is doing it and have a nice stoner time, hows that sound?

(BTW, I haven't been with a stoner in a LONG time and I really really miss having my current other half getting stoned with me constantly 8) )

Not a rant at all! In fact, you were pretty on topic haha. Let's see... NY? That's only a small leap from where I'm at. If you find yourself on the more north eastern coast, let's say MA/VA/NH, I'm down for a toke

*Sigh. Wish my girl was more cool with my smokin'. It seems to be one of the bigger problems in our relationship when it's really not one at all. I haven't been with a like-minded stoner... well... ever. The next one (if that day comes) will have to be. It's funny so many of us have the same problem.

 

[weekend addiction]

^if you believe this then you have a lot of growing up to do :/

Women already have a pussy, they don't need another one!

First Dave Mathews and now Nicholas Sparks.

I didn't know this thread was about the naming of celebrity men whom young women lust after. Before you go boasting on about your masculinity you should put down that gossip magazine you are reading....

I realize I mentioned 2 famous people in my analogies but had no idea they were considered sex symbols. You seem to know all about it though.

By the way you mentioned fighting your woman about cannabis smoking. No woman I have ever dated would question anything I did. They would try once of course. But I would tell them "If you want to be in charge of a relationship then there are plenty of other guys that would be happy to let you do so." That put an end to that. Wolfgang, while I don't know you personally, you seem like one of those guys. You shouldn't even let a woman question your decisions, you are the man after all. Most of my girls have been christian. If this is the case with your woman then quote them a verse about women being submissive to their mates.