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We know it's over, still together. What now?

Well you both know how this is going to end. You should really get away from him and "start fresh" now ... as soon as you can, anyway. No point in hanging onto him when it's not going anywhere. Based on your other posts, yeah I think we all knew he was kind of a jerk. Of course, he's not all bad, but he definitely is NOT right for you. You need more than that.
It does take time to get over someone, but there is no set amount of time before you can start dating again. In fact, I'm a big believer of rebounds (as long as the guy knows that's what it is). A lot of people don't think that's the right way. But I find that the best way to get over someone, is to find someone else. It doesn't mean it has to be a serious relationship, or even anything more than a crush, it's up to you. But find someone else to focus your time and energy on. If it's sexual or starting to be a relationship or something, make sure he knows that you just got out of a relationship, that's usually nice to let them know.
As for naughty webcam shows ... anytime!! Hah. :)
 
Yeah where's these naughty webcam shows I keep hearing about? Perhaps you could have a BL special? :P
 
So here's a new question- what is a proper time before I get over this? How long until it's "okay" to be in a relationship, or at least do a few trashy cam shows online?
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No defined limit exists, you'll have to figure it out empirically.

yes, everyone in the world "told you so" that it would never work.
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But they are wrong in the aspect it was not the age per se, it was that he was creepy douchebag. I wish you the best and I agree you need to get away from this fellow.
 
Now he wants to compromise. His compromise for everything? A microwave pizza and allowing me to go the college of my choice out of state. As long as he gets to choose. And he's not paying for it, he's just graciously moving out of state with me, ig he gets to choose the state. Were having a talk later, I'm going to stay strong and tell him the truth, very slowly and politely. He'll still hate me forever, but I dont want to hurt him more than nessecary. He was the one that wanted to split, and now he wants me back. He always threatens to leave, and now that he says he's going to he can't do it. But it's almost his birthday.... I hate to leave him alone for his birthday , but then it never ends. It's a birthday, then the holidays, then valentines day... Oh hell I've gotta do this sometime.


As far as therapy, I'm looking for a free online service for now, maybe look for a professional drug dispenser later.

As far as cam shows, PM me ;)
 
It's looking pretty final, he tried to get me back but I refused and told him how I felt. He refuses to acknowledge any serious issues, focusing on who to blame for the breakup. He threatened a friend he thinks influenced me, and now he's groveling. It doesn't feel good at all to see him like this, I don't know how he could stand it when I pleaded with him like he's pleading now. it's terrible. I hate knowing I'm doing this to another human being. I just want to hold him until he stops crying, then kick him out in the morning. I never wanted to hurt him. Not like this.
 
naughty webcam shows? oh yes well a request was in very fine small print in that PM thismorning ;)

You know what to do - as someone said, just reach out to friends and family to get away from this toxic relationship and his clutches - you are not"doing this to him" - he let himself get too emotionally co-dependent hence why he's acting like a little boy with a skinned knee, who is being deprived of his dummy AND his favourite toy- he will get over it, you cannoT let yourself get sucked into his web of manipulation anymore.

Hope you enjoyed the pizza though ;)
 
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You're not hurting him. He's manipulating you.

This guy is a monument to creepy old guy who preys on underage girls because he can control them.
 
Well, everyone's going to tell me how stupid this is, but I told him he can"hang around if he wants to" but I'm not going to be his possession anymore. If things change, great, but hes lost his main method of controlling me- threatening to leave. I called his bluff and in my mind I've already lost him so now it's up to him if he really wants to walk away. He can leave anytime, as I've already made peace with losing him. If I can get a few weeks of "honeymoon" out of him before he returns to being tyranical and manipulative, great, if not he can leave anytime.
 
Jeez these guys u all date, got it made for real. The reason I say that is because of all you put up with in ur relationship. Im just waiting for mine to cross that red line and its peace...Kinda hard to roll out on a 16yr marriage when ur intwined financially and not to mention one teen and preteen in the mix. Back when I was 22 it was one of those living in the moment kinda deals and married her after 4mos of dating. Being in the military kinda helped the relationship by hiding our way different personalities. Now thou I just really dont have the motivation to start over. Not only that but losing my house in the process. We all know they just dont handout homes anymore. Im kust not inlove w/her
 
* I ment im just not inlove w/her. I tried to edit but its a little trickier w/a cell lol. But anyways thats just the tip of my iceburg. Dont get me wrong, I try to reignite that flame that I had in the begining of our relationship but as usual nothing. Hell I even pray that I would just wake up and be inlove but I wake up and its just that empty feeling
 
Hi _mistriss, I messed up sending a message to u. Total noob lol,but its a little challengingon my Droid. So I have to wsit another 180 minutes before I can send a message. Ill try again as soon as im able. Im glad to hear you dumped thst loser. I undersyand that age is judt a number. Sometimes guys ur age r too immature but this last guy,geez, total control freak. If this guy was ur first love its gonna take a long time if ever to get over him. Only time can numb the pain. I fell inlove once when I was 17. She was my first love and when we ended a year later it hurt so bad I wanted to literally die. Eventually time took the edge off that love but ive never forgotten her. I still love her to this day but I know for a fact we will never be together evet. I accept that but I do miss her friendship. It was like she got me or whats a better word, understood me. Well ill get w/u when im able to send a message off k. God im so lame lol...
 
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