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Want my ex back after years but can he get through my sexual past this time.

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Michelle76

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Its been years but recently I have been thinking about my ex alot. He is with a nice girl but I was the one who had his virginity and he used to say that there would be no one else. I am with someone but not happy.
What broke us up was his possessiveness and anger after one night of a missunderstanding.

I have had a lot of time to think about his behaviour and I now know its due to his lack of sexual partners when we first met but I could never understand this at the time and he never spoke to me about it.
Although I took his virginity I was younger and had a number of sexual encounters before.
I know it was wrong but I became a lady after a night of lust on a park bench for some reason I went off the guy soon after anywau. I also had a medium term relationship with a guy who was a bit of a rogue.
Finally a friend and i wound up having a onenight stand with two guy. One happened to be black I was not even that bothered about sex that night and should have known what they we like as one asked me for a fuck when I first met him ain so many words although my friend slept with the other one I only did on the second ocassion.
I told my ex about this in the early stages of our relatiomship in fact I mentioned shagging the black guy on our first night out so I was honest.
sometimes it would bother him during our time together othertimes it would turn him on. I never understood that.
I never cheated on him until he was told it was over but I told him there was noonelse at first. Then one night before I left we got close and he started acting kinky. I did not know what I wanted at the time but was turned on by my promiscuity and was enjoying the attention from men so I said to him that someonelse has had me. I stopped short of goodbye sex or getting back with him as this turned him on. He even said I could see lots of men and he would live with it. Yet after ai left he hot with someonelse. Its been years should I let him know or arrange a coincidental meeting after a makeover and getting a nice dress and hair in the style he liked. I simply do not know how he would react.
 
Hey,

I have no clue either overall. Maybe give it a shot and see what happens if it means enough to ya?
 
I'm so confused lol. I read your post twice but having difficulty understanding your "english".
 
I suggest letting him go. If he is indeed "with a nice girl" as you say, then you'd be a real A hole to interfere with their relationship. You are the one that walked away afterall. What choice did he have but to continue his life without you?

Him saying there would be no one else means nothing. That's puppy love talking and many men and women say that with their first relationships. You never forget your first love, but life goes on after the first.

If if he was single then things might be different, but if he's happy and involved with someone else, let em go.

By the way, if you're unhappy with your current relationship, might I suggest your work on your own relationship or try the single life for awhile? Running back to an ex probabaly isn't the solution to your current problem.
 
Well, you clearly enjoy sex and don't care about social standars. That's tottally ok, Im like that too, even though it's easier for me since Im a man. But even as a man, people still get jugmental when Im honest about my sex life(there is only one girl I would be faithfull to but at least for now Im not with her, so cheating and sex with out relationships are a big part of my sex life.)
You are a woman which means people-and your boy in that case-are gonna judge you stricter for having a rich sex life. He will also feel jelous of you since as you say he overall has a poor sex life.
So I think, try to take him back, but no, don't talk to him about your sex past. All you will do is put jelousy between you and him.
As for his girl, nothing lasts for ever anyway and people shall be free to choose. If he has one of those relationships that envolve real connection you will propably not be able to take him back anyway.
So, as others already said-give it a shot.
But remember, honesty ain't always your friend so be carefull what you say.
 
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