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Vent/Rant Thread 1 (POTENTIALLY TRIGGERING)

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The presence of one or another form of bullshit that i have come across me even when i am sitting around minding my own fucking buisness.... I'm getting fucking postal i was just feeling ill now im getting fucking agitated on top of it.... Not what i fucking needed, just wanna scream FUCK OFF @ the world:!
 
kill me
school starts on monday, and im not looking forward to it:|
another year of being a loner, waking up every morning wanted to just crawl under a rock,
another year of wishing i would've kept some secrets to myself,
or not taken some friends for granted. guess ill live tho:!
 
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He is supposed to be house broken and I believe he is doing this out of spite (in a sense) because he KNOWS he did wrong.

I'm never gone for more than 3 hours (the average being about 2 hours). I let him out prior to me leaving but I think I will turn the air conditioning on and removing his water bowl for periods of time (that's a good suggestion!)
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Maybe i can help im a dog trainer..first off a dog wont pee out of spite -we have a tendency to anthropomorphise dogs and i GAR-UN-TEE they don't have to congnative ability to pre-meditate a revenge/ spite pissing or shitting (they will urinate when nervous or to mark territory tho..and sometimes that territory can be a bed or a pile of laundry)

Its FINE to limit your dogs water intake to a degree..one thing i always recommend when housebreaking is feed dinner early(if you can) and take water away 3 hours before bed-OBVIOUSLY use common sense and if the dog needs water give him water

Dogs short term memories do NOTwork the same way ours do I HATE HATE HATE to see people find a puddle or a shit on the ground and drag the dog over and yell "Look what you did" THEY DONT UNDERSTAND!!! I know its the old school way of handling it but it NOT helping- just a few seconds after the dog is finished urinating he's over it..he's forgotten about it and does NOT understand that he is responsible for whats on the floor...Dragging your dog over to his mess and yelling makes everything worse; the poor dog has NO idea what it did wrong.. and is going to associate peeing in general with a bad experience .if you CATCH the dog in the act you have a one or two second window right when he's done to repremand him..and thats with a firm NO! or a loud noise..please dont roll up a newspaper or anything..

ANother thing(forgive me if someone has posted this type of stuff already..you have to get an ENZYME CLEANER for the urine stains..carpet cleaner or 409 or bleach wont do it..you need to have "natures miracle" the enzymes in the solution actually eat the urine..so the smell is not masked its gone..once a dog makes a habit of peeing and can smell it they are going to continue to go in the same place

The MOST important part of the process...is to PRAISE THE DAYLIGHTS out of the dog when he does his business outside..pick a simple phase like "be a good boy" "go potty" and say it over a few times and esp WHEN the dog is peeing..he will understand that that phrase means take a piss..every time he pees outside you have to act like he just dragged timmy from the well, give him treats, hug him, kiss him..it wont take anytime at all for him to start to associate peeing outside with positive attention

If he pees in the house and you catch him a firm no, then bring him outside..even if he doesnt go.

Alot of people expect dogs to "signal" when they need to go out and lots of dogs will but if he doesnt you need to take him out frequently
(like every half hour or so when your home!!! this is one thing people neglect to do when a dog isnt housebroken..you have to WATCH the dog and take him out EVEN if you think he doesn't need to go...this way your preventing another accident and negative experience for him) and ask him to pee if he doesn't after a few min go back in..back out again in another half hour or so..in the same spot in the yard where he has previously peed

I dont know what you do when your away from home but if he's alone the best thing to do is to limit his space somehow..that way he wont do a stealthy piss somewhere you dont know about and keep going back to that place..so keeping him confined until he's fully housebroken(when he's alone) is the best idea_
So anyway I hope im not trying to preach im trying to help..i know it can be frustrating..but take the time in the beginning and you wont have to worry about it...
 
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^that's some excellent information, piebald, thank you for taking the time.

I was only puppysitting but had to call his guardians so that they could use their backup plan. I REALLY liked that dog. he was cool as shit and we had a lot of fun (he really liked me too). I feel like i betrayed him by throwing in the towel but I thought he was trained. Basically, I was being held hostage in my house by this gut. If I left him indoors while i went out, he would pee inside. If I left him outside with food and water and plenty of space to lounge, he would howl which made my neighbors complain.

Fucking sucks!
 
..... the water pump finally ground to a halt, the heater-core is leaking, every engine/transmission seal & gasket that's been dry-rotting for years have quit their functions, and the belts squeal like a banshee from every stoplight.

..... by the time I finish replacing everything, I'll have a new 30yr-old truck.

..... if it first doesn't explode in a fiery ball of cinematic gasoline-death at the bottom of a ravine.

..... I love my Jeep. 8)
 
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i need advice from anyone who's done with school

it seems like everyone is just so fake and tries WAY to hard to be popular/cool,
i mean is it just me? id really like some insight on this.
i only know like one or 2 people who dont try to be cool, they just act like themselves.

i understand that people at my age are trying to figure themselves out but honestly its just getting pathetic.
its like im with someone and they're trying to make me jealous by saying how they made a bunch of cool new druggie friends - and i know they're lieing, just stuff like that :|

is it just a phase? or am i just around the wrong types of people?
 
^ Fyasko, I'm glad I stumbled upon this...sorry I got spacey with my PMs.

High school fucking sucks more than anything in the world. A lot of the things you do and others do are based on how the world views you, and figuring yourself out, as you said. I have no lasting friendships from high school and was a loner the entire time, although I'm pretty loud and most people flat out just didn't like me, and I got made fun of bad, including throwing heavy things at me and getting beat up.

College is way better, go away to college, and suddenly school won't suck quite so much. Once again, high school sucks, all you TDSers still there...get through it. Right now my life is pretty pathetic, but high school is just particularly awful, and the next episode of your life will definitely provide many more positive people and learning situations.


EDIT: Just for "finished school" proof (although Fyasko is aware) I did highschool-4 year undergrad-2 year grad program thing without any time off...so I feel like in a lot of ways, the only thing I know about is school and being a student, this actual world thing is bizarre. Those fake people are still around, it just becomes easier to deal with them after you know yourself a little more.
 
purple_cloud said:
it just becomes easier to deal with them after you know yourself a little more
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I think that this is the key. Once you're done with high school it becomes much easier to find people with common interests and values, and therefore becomes far easier to be yourself. Post-secondary is a great first step for this, especially if you can find a field of study about which you are passionate. Some people try to keep the 'cool' thing going, but the older you get the more 'cool' gets redefined as: someone that I'm likely to get along with.

I actually had a brief discussion along those lines at a dinner party last night. We were just tidying up and getting ready to leave, as we all had other places to be, and the one friend there asked: 'what do you call people like us?' Which was actually a tough question as we're pretty diverse group, ranging from artists to scientists, environmental workers to teachers to dealers. He tossed out a couple of suggestions: 'hipsters' (which got a laugh, as none of us look the part or have the attitude, and the word is almost meaningless from overuse now), 'creative-types', and I think one other. Me and this fellow's girlfriend replied, at pretty well the same time: 'cool people'. No fashionista would consider us cool, nor would a hardcore hippie, scenester, or likely anyone too far into any subculture. But we share similar values, love good food and great conversation (including civil debate), and in my books that means cool. I'd bet good money that any of the 'cool' people at your school would scoff at the idea of a dinner party, much less the sort of things that we would have discussed, which would then make them uncool by that definition.

In the end, 'cool' is all about in-/out-group identification, and isn't really that useful. In time you'll be able to surround yourself with a core group of good friends, and that is far more important than fitting in with a crowd. Until then, all I can suggest (hard though it may be), is to keep being yourself. Find what you love, and throw yourself into it. People will notice, and once your peers are adults rather than high-schoolers they will respect you all the more for it.
 
Ah high school was a nightmare for me man. Had a better time in rehab. I sometimes think that it must have been specifically designed to be the most miserable painful experience possible. I don't see how it could have turned out that way with any other goal in mind. So hang in there people and circumstances do change :)
 
I feel the same on your plane ticket idea. Fucking I Barely have food, I Really dont know what the fuck im going to do. I dont know if I have hiv right now which is really bothersome to know. Its also bothetsome to have your mom call you a dumbass or a fuck up. I really wish I could get a ticket to wherever....wherever they give you other opioid treatment options besides bupe and methadone. Half the time im scared to even walk outside. Im so fucking hot right now. I feel like im burning inside. I feel burnt but its probably just the shards I did for the past 3 days. I dont know why i just dont take myself to a free testing facility I feel so stupid for what I am doing and did. Fuck I can probably type something up better and more understandable for you later.
 
Purple_Cloud - thanks, yeah ive heard so many good things about college, i can tough it out its just hard ya know. dont trip about the PM's either i know whats up :) hope things have been getting better for you <3

Dave & Legerity, thanks for the responses, i just keep reminding myself that theres 1 year left of highschool and when college starts, i plan on making the best of it :\

keep your head high and your middle finger higher i guess
 
Thanks ocean <3 might send you a pm soon, am beyond words at the moment..
 
/hugs effie.

Don't rush this. Let it run its course. But also remember that there are many people just waiting to help in whatever way they can. PM or public, when the time is right, please vent. The more things are held in, the worse they become.
 
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