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Unprovoked crotch grab from same gender??

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So, was out at a Burner party the other night and everyone was smiley and flirty while dancing. Had a brief dance interaction with some woman (just a random moment, no touching at all). Accidentally bumped into this woman a little while later (it was pretty crowded) when she got this mischievous look on her face and aggressively grabbed my crotch; like full on grope of my clit! I was totally shocked and ran away and hid behind one of my friends who was right by me.

I don't get it though. I really don't think that I am sending out that vibe at all. I just dance and have fun, definitely am not out to hook up or anything like that. Just find it perplexing that some women think they can get away with non-consensual gropes just because they are women.

This is not the first time this has happened to me also. Was at a daytime park party a few years ago, just was dancing by myself when someone reached from behind and cupped my crotch while practically sticking her fingers in me through my pants. Another moment of total shock and when I turned around saw this woman laughing maniacally "Oooops! Wrong person!"

Is it pheromones?? I know dancing is sexy, but I am not trying to dance sexy, or sexual. Just am wondering if anyone else has experienced such molestations while out and about?
 
Maybe the 'grabber' had noticed you dancing with the other women and thought you were out for fun/sex? Music / drugs / alcohol / dancing can certainly lower some people inhibitions and screw with 'their' thought process. You should have simply confronted the person or simply pushed her hand away and she would have got the message :)

I don't think this is down to just women grabbing women - everyone grabs everyone when in that mood, I'm sure you have seen guys groping at a women on the dance floor, women grope at guys, guys grope guys etc.
 
I had a similar thing happen to me at Coachella one year. Some chick full on pinched my butt HARD! Like seriously pinched it and left a small bruise on my butt. At first I thought it was someone trying to steal my wallet but I turn around and their is this chick holding on to my butt for dear life!

She said whoops sorry wrong person and then left. I think when people get in these type of situations they just get a little carried away. I don't think its molestation just some people letting themselves go a little too much. Just be firm and tell them to leave you alone. That should be enough.
 
freddy47 said:
At first I thought it was someone trying to steal my wallet .
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I was in Thailand last year and this was a very common 'trick' - the person touches you with one hand whilst the other hand goes for your wallet. The normal reaction of the drunks is to find it funny or they think its a prossie looking for business - or the person gets a shock and pushes her hand away and missed his/her wallet/purse being swiped.
 
gay men do this shit to me too often, next one that does it is gonna get slapped though(or get an elbow thrown in their face). like others have said, they might just get too drunk or horny and aggressive from some kind of stimulant
 
I would have wanted to slap that person! I don't want people grabbing my crotch!!
I've never had females do anything like that, the worst it gets is guys slapping my butt which is ridiculously annoying but I just run away aha. If I were bigger/stronger then I would do or say something.
 
Gay chicks can be assholes just like the guys that think it's ok to slap your ass, they're just probably even more bold because they think they can get away with doing something like that more than men can.
 
I would be pissed, munki and shocked like you. Totally unacceptable. I don't know why people think they can grab someone and invade the person's space like that. I would seriously want to back hand her. A stranger touching me is one of my rage points. My friends and I used to grind on each other and my bi girlfriend would grab my boobs and slap my ass, but she was hot and my friend and knew me. :D But, a stranger? Not acceptable.
 
I used to grab my friends' junks all the time in high school; you would look him square in the eyes, too, and you wouldn't look away as you grabbed his package. It was like a handshake, really... just a little, "hey, how ya doin', nice package..."
 
GenericMind said:
Gay chicks can be assholes just like the guys that think it's ok to slap your ass, they're just probably even more bold because they think they can get away with doing something like that more than men can.
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this.

because there are less available opportunities for gays it can lead to some gays becoming sexually aggressive in a bad way. there's no need for it. (i'm gay BTW)
 
In my opinion it's no biggie...but I'm a bit more relaxed about this kinda thing - if I got groped I'd turn around and if they were attractive I'd just run with it - if not particularly, I'd look them in the eye and laugh them off with a gesture to do one...if they were really unattractive, I'd stop smiiling and tell them to fuck off...but it's not like they're raping you - it's only copping a cheeky feel, and if you can't deal with that assertively, you should grow a pair or lighten up IMO.

Fair enough if you're a woman, and a big dude grabs your ass on the dancefloor and gives it a squeeze - turn round and give them a slap - it's just a bit of fun til it goes past the point of no return.
 
I am fine with ass grabs in general; I do it to friends of mine, all in humor and good fun. But genital gropes are just crossing the line of good fun and delving into harassment.

She was quite pretty but that didn't justify her grabbing my clit. She was pretty funny about her attack though, with the slightly crazed look in her eyes.
 
Yeah, gay chicks can be especially aggressive. I think that our culture kind of gives them a pass, since homosexuality between women isn't nearly as taboo and a lot of girls can get away with being pretty handsy with each other. Going straight for the crotch grab is especially aggressive, though. If it happens again just smile kindly and grab their arm and twist it a little and say "that's enough of that", then keep dancing. Don't take shit from people, even gay chicks (I <3 gay chicks, btw).
 
Although I'm gay the majority of my guy friends have always been staight but I would never cross that line of crotch grabbing another joking or not. Its not I'm afraid of getting my ass get kicked but I would feel weird if one of them were to do it to me so I'm sure it would be the same feeling if I was to.
 
I use to play basketball when I was 16 for a league & this one kid would go around & touch guys penises for whatever reason. He had a hot girlfriend but we couldnt figure out if he was bi or not. Hes now married with 2 children but it was odd back then. He did it for like a year & stopped, weird in any case...........
 
Jason1981 said:
Although I'm gay the majority of my guy friends have always been staight but I would never cross that line of crotch grabbing another joking or not. Its not I'm afraid of getting my ass get kicked but I would feel weird if one of them were to do it to me so I'm sure it would be the same feeling if I was to.
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Im straight & I had girls do it to me in college while we were drunk on the dance floor so I didnt mind it but I would see them the next day & they would giggle & ask me if I had fun like I didnt remember............I always wondered what they would have done if I stuck my hand down there pants on the dance floor......probably nothing because they were drunk but I know its wrong so I would never have done it.
 
munki said:
So, was out at a Burner party the other night and everyone was smiley and flirty while dancing. Had a brief dance interaction with some woman (just a random moment, no touching at all). Accidentally bumped into this woman a little while later (it was pretty crowded) when she got this mischievous look on her face and aggressively grabbed my crotch; like full on grope of my clit! I was totally shocked and ran away and hid behind one of my friends who was right by me.

I don't get it though. I really don't think that I am sending out that vibe at all. I just dance and have fun, definitely am not out to hook up or anything like that. Just find it perplexing that some women think they can get away with non-consensual gropes just because they are women.

This is not the first time this has happened to me also. Was at a daytime park party a few years ago, just was dancing by myself when someone reached from behind and cupped my crotch while practically sticking her fingers in me through my pants. Another moment of total shock and when I turned around saw this woman laughing maniacally "Oooops! Wrong person!"

Is it pheromones?? I know dancing is sexy, but I am not trying to dance sexy, or sexual. Just am wondering if anyone else has experienced such molestations while out and about?
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LOL

you were at a burner party. I haven't been to a burner party, so I'm not really sure who attends, but I'm guessing its kinda like a rave crossed with a doof. If so, then uninvited genital grasping is probably considered nearly as polite as a handshake.
 
B1tO'RoughJack said:
In my opinion it's no biggie...but I'm a bit more relaxed about this kinda thing - if I got groped I'd turn around and if they were attractive I'd just run with it - if not particularly, I'd look them in the eye and laugh them off with a gesture to do one...if they were really unattractive, I'd stop smiiling and tell them to fuck off...but it's not like they're raping you - it's only copping a cheeky feel, and if you can't deal with that assertively, you should grow a pair or lighten up IMO.

Fair enough if you're a woman, and a big dude grabs your ass on the dancefloor and gives it a squeeze - turn round and give them a slap - it's just a bit of fun til it goes past the point of no return.
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Ted Bundy was, by all reports, an attractive person. :)
 
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