Trouble with child's behavior

[spadedstars]

So long story short I'm a single mom and I go through a power struggle with my mom's boyfriend over how to deal with my son. My son gets angry quickly and doesn't listen very well. He's extremely smart but has such coping issues it's hurting himself with things at school. I feel like because I'm so quick to get angry it made him quick to get angry. We are seeing his doctor on Monday, but I'm just not sure how to go about this whole appointment. What's the best way to bring up the issues that he's having himself and the issues he and I have together?

 

[fuc]

So how'd it go?

 

[T. Calderone]

You didn't say how old your son is. But children mimic behavior that they observe: If you have a short temper, it's natural for him to follow suit because this is what he's learned. My dad likes to shout when he gets angry and I didn't realize I was doing the same thing until someone pointed it out to me.

 

[herbavore]

Learning to express anger in healthy ways is probably the most important thing you can tackle to make your family relationships go well for the present as well as years to come. We don't get many models these days with the whole country seemingly locked in a constant state of anger, outrage and blaming but help is out there. See if you can pick up some books on the subject (self-help type books) as well as a parenting book that deals with it. The most important thing is to separate the feeling (perfectly natural, normal and acceptable to feel anger) from behaviors that are not acceptable (screaming at someone, violence, insults etc). When little kids feel like their emotions are not allowed they have a way of getting bigger. If your son is in elementary school you might ask the staff for recommendations. Good luck--it isn't ever easy!

 

[bunnyrabbitz]

A) No psychiatric drugs. 98% percent of the time unnecessary and do more harm then good. DON'T TAKE THE EASY WAY OUT.

B) No one else's fucking business how you parent.