To have sex or not to have sex?

[Sharapovafistpump]

If you start of riding mingers, things are gona get pure freakshow as you get older an likely less gd looking. Buck goodlookn people when you can

 

[Draigan]

NNaaaah save it for when u cant contain yourself and just rip the guys clothes off. If u feel that way about this guy, then by all means. Just the thought of a horny virgin who cant take it anymore... WOW! U don't know what u have there lol. Dont give it up to just any fool

 

[GoddessLSD-XTC]

I'd wait. Once U have sex, the thrill is gone, Ur personality will change for the worst. I waited until I was in my 40's and don't regret it at all. One friend in high school described sex as an addiction: "the more U have it, the more U want it." Many times I was ready to lose it, my body was willing but my heart was not into it. When I finally did lose it, the guy was a HOT hunk, nice bed too.

 

[ct-boi]

All i'm saying is if he's very very unattractive as you put it, it's going to be very very arkward when it's over i would think.

 

[graugeist]

Ideally, you should reach the decision of how, when, and with whom you wish to lose your virginity on your own. It seems as though you are uncertain; perhaps this means you should think about it longer before making a decision.

Having more sex does not make you "good" or "better" at having sex because every individual sex partner that you have will like his or her own different, unique things. There is no "right" or "best" way to do things for the most part. Getting "experience" doesn't necessarily make you a better lover in the long run. Good communication skills about what you and your partner like and do not like matter far more.

 

[ChronicHD]

Having sex with someone you're not attracted to just for the experience seems pretty silly to me. Most goes don't mind if you're sexually inexperienced. I'd wait. This could easily become something you regret down the road.

Agreed. Having sex just for the sake of having sex doesn't make sense. It's not just another thing to "cross off the list". Not that it's a big deal, but neither is waiting.

 

[xeros]

I'll be 17 in a few months and i've been thinking about sex a lot recently. i'm a girl btw. i have a friend who wants to have sex with me. he's such a nice guy, probably the nicest guy i know. but he's extremely unattractive. i feel bad for saying that but he is extremely extremely extremely unattractive. but he is very expirienced in sex. even though i am a virgin i am very tempted to take his offer on sex, but i'm still not sure. i asked my friend what i should do and he said i should wait untill i find someone i love, but i dont plan on being in a real relationship untill i'm like 20 or something. and i dont want to be a noob at sex when i'm 20. and no one really cares to wait now anyway. i'm ready to have sex so i dont know whats stopping me. maybe its because he is so unattractive. we would have the help of liquid courage so maybe i'll be attracted to him that night. i just want my first time to be with someone that wont treat me like crap after we do it, and i know he wont because he is really a great guy.
should i go through with it?

if he's that unattractive, tell him to fuck you from behind. then you won't have to look at him.

 

[MyFinalRest]

Honey, virginity is not a disease to get rid of in hurry. Experience gained for the sake of "gaining experience" doesn't count. Save it for someone you really love. Also you can't plan on "when" you are going to have a serious love in your life, it just happens.

 

[B1tO'RoughJack]

making a commitment to someone and then lying about it when you break that commitment, or omitting to tell when you have. That's cheating, nothing wrong with sleeping with other people in a relationship or kissing them even, if you're truthful about it, or it's within boundaries laid out by mutual parties.

 

[EbowTheLetter]

Two year old thread started by an anonymous poster.

 

[TheLostBoys]

the first time sucks, sex won't get good for a little bit. and with every new partner it takes some time for it to be GREATTT. for the most part.

but i wouldn't have sex with someone you don't find attractive at all. you won't be able to get wet or into it and it'll more unpleasant then necessary. plus your friends and it'll be awkward after. not like i was with someone i love for the first time. i got with someone i barely knew, but i wanted too, so that's what mattered.

^^^^^

This.......why would you want to have sex with someone that you're not attracted too? Thats stupid to me........my first time was with a girl that was 5 years older than me but she was experienced & good looking. No way would I ever want to have sex with someone im not attracted to.

 

[ZombieK]

I do not know whether or not you decided to do it since this post was made 4-24-10 but my advice is wait till you are in love it will be so much more amazing. I wanted to wait until I was in love but was pressured by people around me and I got worried I would be a virgin forever so I just said fuck it and did it at 18. It was a terrible first time as well lol. Guy was a total prick. Now you say this guy is a good friend of yours.. well if you really want to experience sex and don't care to wait or wait for love then a trusting friend is a good way to start. Just make sure you guys make it clear it is a one time thing(unless you want more from him lol). As for him being unattractive, try your best to look past that and see his inner beauty, the stuff that makes him such a good friend that you are actually considering sleeping with him ya know? Forget the alcohol for your first time, you want to remember it girl! & do it with the lights out in the dark so if he is really that bad you can imagine Johnny Depp or something. Best of luck to you miss.

 

[rakeone]

what's really funny is... most girl won't have sex with a guy that is unattractive but most of the guy have to have sex only with unattractive girls.. ha ha