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Tired of casual sex

washingtonbound said:
I'm 29, almost 30 now, and I'm starting to get tired of pursuing casual sex in general. I do have a high sex drive, but I'm starting to look at it just as a biological thing rather than something I care to engage with. I don't connect with women very well and haven't really been in a committed relationship in my life, but have had around 30 casual partners. Now it is not even interesting for me anymore, and messing around on stupid apps like Tinder and Bumble is just getting old. I can't tell if I would like to try a relationship out with someone, if I ever found someone I remotely liked, or if I ought to just stop all pursuits entirely. The latter options seems like it may be better for my mental health.
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Just stop pursuing, and you might find it will pursue you.

And get rid of Tinder and Bumble if they don't work for you.
 
Take a break from your routine and explore other meaningful ways that make you happy. Try your hand at cultivating a relationship by making friends even if it makes you uneasy..relationships take time to develop so don't give up just because you think it is silly. It's not easy stepping out of your comfort zone, but it's worth the discomfort when you succeed. Not if you succeed but when you succeed.
Believe me sex takes on a whole new meaning when you're invested in somebody's life that you really care about.
 
M!$TER-ED said:
Believe me sex takes on a whole new meaning when you're invested in somebody's life that you really care about.
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I've always vastly preferred lovemaking to sport fucking. Essentially they're both "sex." But it's like the difference between a perfectly grilled 12oz ribeye and a stick of beef jerky....yeah, they're both "meat," but c'mon.
 
I get what you’re saying. Sometimes, the whole casual thing just loses its appeal, especially when it feels shallow. Maybe taking a break from dating apps and focusing on yourself could be a good reset.
 
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