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Thoughts on significant others that ride the coat tails of their partners talents?

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So I was having a big discussion with a friend of mine today and she is all trying to get into what her boyfriend is doing(art) even though she had no previous inclinations or talents. I am talking like displaying it at art shows and what not. He is a bad ass and she is not so much. Reminds me of how bad Jerry Garcias wife was, yoko, etc.. What is your take on when this happens? Is it cool in your book?
 
Droppersneck said:
So I was having a big discussion with a friend of mine today and she is all trying to get into what her boyfriend is doing(art) even though she had no previous inclinations or talents. I am talking like displaying it at art shows and what not. He is a bad ass and she is not so much. Reminds me of how bad Jerry Garcias wife was, yoko, etc.. What is your take on when this happens? Is it cool in your book?
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It's cool beans in my book :D
 
Droppersneck said:
So I was having a big discussion with a friend of mine today and she is all trying to get into what her boyfriend is doing(art) even though she had no previous inclinations or talents. I am talking like displaying it at art shows and what not. He is a bad ass and she is not so much. Reminds me of how bad Jerry Garcias wife was, yoko, etc.. What is your take on when this happens? Is it cool in your book?
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I can see how that can be unappealing.
It's not very authentic and could be annoying.

I guess it depends on how it's done. If she gets her own little niche, and displays her shit and they both have a good time and feel good about it, I don't see it as a negative, even if she wouldn't be there on her own merits.
On the other hand, if I was like a big fan of the bad ass artist, and now suddenly the art show was converted into some love-birds duo-show which really detracted from his brilliance, than that would suck too...
 
what sickens you is your lying and holding in what you think

if you have to listen to her talk shit i'd tell her it was bollocks.

its lame to copy into an inauthentic interest like you dont have your own personality and just get sucked into being someone else cos of loveobsession like knives chau
 
Why is this your business? If she is inspired by his art that she picks up the paintbrush herself, its a testament to his talent and her willingness to try new things/hobbies. Perhaps you should get a hobby too, instead of sitting around judging people?
 
how can you judge that yoko ono was a 'bad' artist?

i think anyone creating art is a positive thing, you dont have to look at it or buy it if you dont like it
 
Mysterie said:
how can you judge that yoko ono was a 'bad' artist?

i think anyone creating art is a positive thing, you dont have to look at it or buy it if you dont like it
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This should help with Yoko watch it. The fact that she ruined this epic song of chuck berry and Jlennon playing is proof enough.


The girl I am friends with is terrible at art and it is clearly a yoko type of situation. I know art is subjective but there are limits imo
 
If she hadn't had a chance to try it out before and now, she has him to help her, it could be an opportunity to learn more about it. But that's not the only reason. And it depends on the degree. Is this something she wants to do just sometimes. Or is she like "omg this is my new career" type thing.

My boyfriend is a DJ. He has been for years (before we started dating). Anyway, we go clubbing together a lot. We get to know DJs, promoters, party-goers, etc. I love the music, I really do. It's something he introduced me to but it is a passion of mine as well. Now my boyfriend and I are working together to plan events and I do some promotion and stuff. So yeah, I'm technically getting involved in what he did. But we work well together. I'm not trying to overrule him as a DJ (I'm not trying to be a DJ lol). But something that he was interested in first, I am now interested in, and we work together on things. I think it works because I'm not trying to take over what he's doing or something. In fact, ever since I got involved, he's gotten a lot more gigs (networking and stuff).
 
Every year my wife's company fly her and I around the world for a week as thanks for a job well done. This year it was New York, last year Tahiti, next year Barcelona. I am more than happy to ride on her coat tails, drink and schmooze with her bosses and charge it all to the company tab. At the final dinner they always toast the partners, in thanks for their support throughout the year. Honestly I didn't do shit, other than cook her dinner each night and give her a sales dicking each morning before work.

Linda McCartney was the glue that held together the percussion section of Wings. Yoko is the punch line of every joke about dying cats.
 
One Thousand Words said:
Every year my wife's company fly her and I around the world for a week as thanks for a job well done. This year it was New York, last year Tahiti, next year Barcelona. I am more than happy to ride on her coat tails, drink and schmooze with her bosses and charge it all to the company tab. At the final dinner they always toast the partners, in thanks for their support throughout the year. Honestly I didn't do shit, other than cook her dinner each night and give her a sales dicking each morning before work.
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There is a difference between getting to go on trips and stuff with your partner and doing the exact same thing they are. I think that's pretty normal actually. I mean, if my company wanted me to travel or something, I'd totally try and get my boyfriend to come along (if he could).

ParappaTheRapper said:
@llama

what's he working with?
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I'm not sure what you mean by that?
 
depends on whether they're being obnoxious about it. it's not cool if someone doesn't really have their own authentic interests, but it doesn't really effect me one or way another. but if they're being braggy or fake, that does make their company very unpleasant.
 
double ewe said:
depends on whether they're being obnoxious about it. it's not cool if someone doesn't really have their own authentic interests, but it doesn't really effect me one or way another. but if they're being braggy or fake, that does make their company very unpleasant.
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Yeah, I find it extremely important to have SOME mutual interests and SOME individual interests :)
 
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