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Harm Reduction This is gonna be a sad,embarasing post, harm reduction though Combination help PLEASE

Yea I'd like to second the How old are you Question. I know some very nice people who didn't lose their virginity until their early 30s. I lost mine at 14 and we're all still friends. A hooker really shouldn't be your answer.
 
Theres so much wrong with this, and It's not that you have anxiety or that you're "wrong".

What I mean is taking that ridiculous combination of drugs is going to work against you, and the hooker's going to end up robbing your ass.
 
Yeah bro I went to an asain massage place one day I took ecstasy and I am like yo I am gettin some asain love while I am high.. well i was sooo fucked up and like they stole money from me and shit that i didnt even realize probably while giving me my happy ending. lol. I remember i like skateboarded there on e and I was so fucked up and sweaty.. they are like you wanna do a steam shower? im like na, massage. So she was like massaging my body that was soaked in sweat like slipping all over the place and crap lol. Oh yeah this whole time I had like studio headp[hones on connected to my ipod with techno blasing. I took em off halfway through te mssage and it was so fuckin weird cause it went from techno to like the ambiance of th eroom with fcandles and like sounds of the ocean playing. LOL it was an experience i'll never forget.. not one of the proudest moments in my life.
 
I would think that losing your virginity through prostitution is going to do more long term damage to your self confidence than waiting it out a while longer until it's not a sex for money exchange. I don't say that to sound mean, but I knew someone who did pretty much exactly what you're planning on, and he's more torn up and anxious over sex than he was before he lost his virginity.

I remember when I was in high school and I was incredibly shy around girls, because I put them on some pedestal, as if they weren't fellow human beings, but these celestial creatures sent to earth to torment me. After a while I got over it, but only through several situations where I really put myself out on the line, and learned how to deal with rejection. I guarantee that when you do lose you're virginity, you'll be very underwhelmed by it, but at the same time, it'll probably give you a more accurate perspective on sex and relationships in general, and from that point forward, you will most likely be able to engage in and enjoy intimacy more. It's just not fun if you're filled with terror about the whole thing, and honestly, I don't think doing all those drugs are really going to help that much. If anything, the kratom might give you a better chance of prolonging your orgasm, but I think it's pretty unlikely that without the use of a cocktail of drugs spanning from stimulants to psychedelics, that you will not be able to achieve an erection. I'm guessing you're a teenager or in your mid twenties, and unless you really do have some kind of medical problem, you will get up. As far as performing awkwardly your first time, well man, that's pretty much guaranteed to happen no matter what. The only way to get over on that is to find someone else who's a virgin to sleep with.

Somethings in life, unfortunately cannot be achieved without a little bit of suffering, and I really believe that sex is one of them.
 
Yeah I totally agree. I am actually battling some sexual shit like lack of confidence..because when I try to get clean from opiates and I fuck I can't last barely a minute if i am lucky. Unfortunately for me i haven't been successful in getting clean and hit like a 90 day point where I was like oh i am all better.. but I hope that shit goes back to normal after you get clean. But i am realizing too that its not supposed to be like a porno yo..,theres more to it. And honestly if you hav a nice girl she could care less if you embarras your self a little or something.

There is no reason you need to drown those feeling sout with drugs..because those are the feelings that makes the sexual experience special you uknow?
 
Dude, i may have the answer for you. Fleshlight. Buy a flashlight and practice not coming for as long as you can, it will prepare you for real sex. Fleshlight is a sex toy for men that feels similar to a real vagina. Get the STU (stamina training unit). Work on your skills with that and your first time with be better than many guys' dozenth time. Learning not to come too soon is important, and fleshlight will get you there, and you will be a lot more ready.
 
Ive been watching this post for awhile.. was wondering when the fleshlight was going to come in. 5 points ohayou.
 
Haha a fleshlight..thats a funny name. I dunno I think I would feel mad creepy playing with a sex toy by my self lol.
 
To the OP; you probably don't have access to it, or hell if I know, maybe you do. All I know is that an excellent drug for your situation as long as you don't start abusing it hardcore after, and as this is a harm reduction site, no more than dosing 3x per week, and 3x per day. GHB (gamma-hydroxybutyrate) or Sodium Oxybate, which is a prescription in parts of Europe and in the UK. The Pure Pharmaceutical version of GHB is the top notch quality salt, Na.GHB Sodium Salt. (4-hydroxybutanoic acid - also another name for it.)

^ Now if you do have access to some GHB, I would use this very carefully for this occasion, because too much GHB can cause Nausea, Vomiting, Myclonic Jerks (Twitches), and passing out without being able to be awoken for at least 4-5 hours. the GHB induced sleep is a *4-6 hour TEMPORARY Coma type stage where the user/patient is unable to be awoken for at least the next 4-6 hours. (Also sometimes called the G-Hole.) when a person has consumed too much GHB and passes out.

Now.. enough of me babbling.. getting down to business again. The reason I also chose GHB is because it does have very strong Euphoric and Aphrodisiac (which can also result in 24/7 around the clock dosing and severe addiction issues, other than that, its no more addictive than any other drug out there, but does indeed have some nasty physical w/d but nowhere close to the withdrawals from benzos + opiates combined. Besides, the GHB withdrawal period is quite majorly intense only for the first 12-24 hours. After that, you are smooth sailing. So I don't find it to be as addictive as a lot of things.

Now, what I would do, if you do want to get a hooker, by all means go ahead. What I would suggest doing is, well most likely if do you have a connect for G in your area, most likely it will be in liquid form and be the Na.GHB but in liquid form. If you do manage to find powdered GHB, to live in an area where it is readily available like it used to be back 15+ years ago. I would go with dosing approximately
2.5g-3g approximately 30-40 minutes before she gets there, or you go there. Dosing the powder is much easier, safer, cleaner, and slightly more Euphoric I find compared to a lot of Street GHB, or GBL.

Anyways, I'm tired.. and I probably fucked up writing quite a bit of this, and missing things I forgot to mention. *snip*

Anyways, I'm going to go smoke some Triple AAA Westside Canadian super sticky dank weed right now, and then eventually pass out.

Cheers :D
 
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These things are hard to give good advice, if you are NOT 100% sure you must have sex this way, forget about it and build some more confidence.

However.. I know a good friend who wanted to commit suicide because he was virgin at 22 years. He seriously went on border of a high bridge and stood there for 20minutes but we managed to persuade him. Then we bought a hooker for him as a gift and it really helped him. Since that he is at least somewhat confident around girls even when sober.

Just want to say it CAN be a solution to order a prostitute; I'm sure thousands of men did it before
 
I think thats fucked uup that people made him feel so bad abou tbeing a virgin that he wanted to kill himself. Like damn yo thats fucked up I feel bad for whoever his "friends" are that they are such dicks.
 
I don't think it was his direct friends, at least I don't remember anyone making fun of him.. it's the whole society beginning with crappy MTV hiphop clips which make teenagers think they should fuck 3 girls a week..
 
My first time with a girl, I was actually sober & enjoyed it, although she wasnt a virgin, she knew I was nervous but so what, we both had fun. Second time we smoked weed it was a cool experience.


If you have that much nervousness, I see nothing wrong with mixing a half of Cialis with some opiates, ive done it & it works great.
 
6apbhmm said:
These things are hard to give good advice, if you are NOT 100% sure you must have sex this way, forget about it and build some more confidence.

However.. I know a good friend who wanted to commit suicide because he was virgin at 22 years. He seriously went on border of a high bridge and stood there for 20minutes but we managed to persuade him. Then we bought a hooker for him as a gift and it really helped him. Since that he is at least somewhat confident around girls even when sober.

Just want to say it CAN be a solution to order a prostitute; I'm sure thousands of men did it before
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Im glad I never had retarded friends like your friend........I cant imagine the pressure of being a virgin & having my friends ragging me, then again, I never cared what anyone thought, so...............

Everyone doesnt think like me so we should always be there for our friends, no matter what & yes, a prostitue can go a long way to giving some confidence in a young man.
 
I think you would gain far more if you met an older woman that you found really hot. This may sound cold, but believe me, it will be the experience you really need. Just look at her after you have met her the second or third time. Look her in the eyes until you cannot look at her anymore. She will ask you to her what is wrong.

Tell her you need to know what it is like to be with a woman.

Her human nature will eliminate any requirement you might have to chemically calm yourself. And she will be there for the third and fourth time, too.

Just an opinion from an old guy who remembers it happening to me.
 
Theonlinefisherman said:
I think you would gain far more if you met an older woman that you found really hot. This may sound cold, but believe me, it will be the experience you really need. Just look at her after you have met her the second or third time. Look her in the eyes until you cannot look at her anymore. She will ask you to her what is wrong.

Tell her you need to know what it is like to be with a woman.
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Okay man, firstly, let me start by saying that I totally 100% respect your opinions and experiences. But do you honestly think someone who is completely lacking in confidence would have the courage to do this?? :D
 
Sex is not going to fix your social anxiety or make you more confident. It is sex, however, and I guess that's the way to go if you want to fuck without resolving your issues and working for it...looking for someone with whom you can engage with meaningfully.

Don't take all those things unless a doctor has given the go-ahead. You may have nasty blood-pressure effects.

Finally, don't trust anyone who refers to you as "bro" more that 3 times in a post/conversation. Those people are just plain ignorant and worse yet, uncreative.

Don't act in desperation; you can find happiness with careful effort. That means taking your time.
 
^Lol

Just remember that you have purchased the lady's time for the purpose of having sex with her. If she is ugly, does not resemble her pic, makes you feel uncomfortable, acts kind of shady, tell her to step off. You are paying for this experience and as such are free to dictate how it will go. Tell her agency to send someone ATTRACTIVE or someone that resembles the pic you have seen of her. Or go somewhere where you can pick a girl out. I would STRONGLY advise you to not get a street prostitute. For OBVIOUS reasons.

Frankly, what I would do is get a motel room that is fairly decent. Thataways this chick does not know where I live. What's more, you will find that a lot of these women like to get their party on. In my mind, what a better way to break the ice than get high together? Then share with her your quandary and that you are nervous. I am quite sure that she will be happy to take the lead. Hell, this might be the fifth time she has "seen" a customer!

Just remember, that if she is not kind to you tell her to get the **** out. But if you decide this after you orgasm with her you are SOL and rightly so.
 
Dude, just f*ck that girl.

Don't fear what other people think. This is one of the greatest prisons you can build for your own mind. Just flow with life... and if your penis fails during sex or anything happens... whatever? The world won't stop spinning because of this. I've experienced some very embarrassing moments in my life, but who cares?

You need to thoughen up... don't feel sorry for yourself. Everything is possible. Open up to all possibility. You can change your life whenever you want to. It's just a choice.

You're a man, right? What's the problem? Other people are the same as you: HUMAN (well, most of them...). They also feel a lack of self-confidence sometimes. Just go for it. Whatever happens - it won't be so bad that the world ends or your life is ruined forever. DON'T FEAR WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK! Express your uniqueness!

I know that anxiety and panic can be very limiting factors in one's life, BUT very often one creates prisons for him/herself by saying "I can't do this, because I'll freak out and panic" instead of just going for it. Maybe you won't freak out and it will be great? For example, when you order a prostitute - she won't bite you (unless you do something dumb and hurt her or whatever)... if I was you, I wouldn't take any drugs whatsoever. Maybe I'd drink A LITTLE. Not much. But you act as if you'd need a lot of medication just to have some sex. That's not healthy for your psyche and body. I wouldn't order a hooker anyway... not saying I haven't done it in my life, but the point is, that you need to take a deep breath, take a step back and look at the situation again. It's not that bad, trust me. I haven't read all the other comments and posts in this thread, but I don't need to. I know what it's like to be very anxious, but don't let it take over your life. YOU MUST be in control of your life!

I hope that everything will turn out fine for you.
 
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