I can honestly say I have NO idea why a woman would be sexually attracted to me, but I was never nervous or activly looking for a sexual partner. Never the less, I was amazed that on an average evening out, 2-3 women would always be chatting me up. I was thrilled by the attention, but I'm an odd fish, I can't just jump into bed with someone I just met. Anyway, one girl accepted a date, she asked to stay, she stayed. I didn't get a wink of sleep. Sarah, what a cool lady.
Just don't come over desperate, their is nothing more unattrative (either gender) than desperation. I don't mean acting aloof, just go in and see what happens. Don't try and force things to happen. If it's your first time, a more experienced woman is probably the best. Sarah was also a lot of fun. Having pillow-fights at 4AM was so cool. I got up early & made her breakfast in bed so she stayed until 7PM. More sex (with lesson-plans for me) and lots and lots of laughing. Jesus, that was 18 years ago and I still think of her.
I did ask her what she saw in me and she was very complementary. Gentleman, funny & (to her at least) handsome. I mean, she was WAY out of my league. She was beautiful, smart & verrrry funny in a giddy sort of way.
She didn't want a relationship but she did tell her friends how nice I was and I got several more ladies hitting on me. She was a friend as well, you see. She wanted me to find someone special so would be a non-stop matchmaker. Dunno if she mentioned how I was in the sack honestly, I assume I was crap although I did give her a massage and basically followed what she asked for. Don't be afraid to admit your not experienced, use whatever skills you do have (I learnt masage of a friend) and treat her like a godess (no, not LIKE a goddess, as the godess she IS!).
If you have some female friends, ask them for advice. True friends are on your side and will help you out. I invested in massage oil, scented candles & made up an MP3 disc with some relaxing music. Make sure your home is nice & clean to create the right impression. Get rid of any playboy calanders or porno since a lot of ladies really don't like them & you don't want to upset the lady.
A huge MP3 collection on your PC, linked up with your hi-fi means that you can ask te lady what she would like to hear.
Remember, a bore talks about themselves, a gossip talks about others but a good conversationalist talks about YOU. Don't make up pretend questions, ask about things that really do interest you. Find the same wavelength. Bullshitting will get you nowhere with most ladies...
Worked for me
PS I'm called Sean as well. It's good because it's not a common name (especially with that spelling) so people tend to remember your name more.
PPS the medication I'm on means I have NO sex-drive at all right now and it IS a relief. One less thing ompinging on the thought processes.
