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The SO Pre-conception/Pregnancy/Parenting Megathread vs. You are NOT the father!

bL2R Bathing his child in a liquor tub. So Aussie =)

My brother + SIL got rid of the bath from their house so bathed the kids in the laundry tubs to begin with, then once my niece went through a stage of not wanting a bath they'd fill up one of these bucket things on the back patio and throw her a cake of soap - she loved it like it was a treat because she didn't have to have a 'bath'. Now she and my nephew each sit in one in the shower and splash each other like they're in a bath.

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Samadhi said:
I can't wait to see Abigail growing in photos - growing more and more into herself <3

As for me - injecting oneself with hormones is a delightful experience. Overall, i've been relatively unscathed by side effects up until today - i spend the day switching between vagueness, raging out and almost crying. *Eye on the prize samadhi, eye on the prize* <3 =D
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Exactly. :)
I'm sorry, I missed something here- so when do you go in for IVF?
For some reason I thought you were just doing the shots.
ooooh this is getting exciting! :)

Atri- Your daughter is gorgeous. <3 Congrats again!
 
Kenickie said:
how is mr. and mrs. mdao?
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Thanks for asking, Kenickie!

We're doing very well. The triplets are now 11 pounds and 4.5 months old, and really starting to develop unique personalities. They coo and babble, crawl, hold their heads up, clasp their hands, swat at objects, and follow the adults' voices around the room with their eyes. They have an amazing range of facial expressions, and sometimes when I talk to them, I swear their body language and facial expressions indicate they understand me. They're just getting over colds, but other than that, no major illnesses or health problems. They're pretty well behaved too. Mrs. Doors and I have had no trouble sleep training them -- they typically sleep 6.5h/night now, without waking up or needing to be consoled.

We get a lot of attention out in public when we have triplets. Whoever said strangers never talk to each other on the streets of NYC was clearly not a parent of multiples.

The hardest part of it all is living with my parents in the house. I have never spent more than 10d under the same roof with my parents since I was 18. I love them very much, but they have some very different living habits than us, and worst of all, my wife has found that she simply does not tolerate my father in more than small, vacation-sized doses. I find myself relaying a lot of messages between the two of them, which feels like a farce, and we've all decided that long term we can't live together.

I'm really not sure how things are going to go once I begin my medical residency in June, and my parents begin to be away more than present. I'm sure I won't be able to spend nearly as much time with the kids, which is why I'm glad I got to spend a good deal of time holding them and feeding them during the crucial first six month bonding period.

Being a parent has come very naturally to me, something neither I nor my wife expected. The little trials and tribulations of it don't bother me as much as I anticipated, even being woken up at odd times, which is something I normally despise.

I wonder if we're going to eventually see a critical mass of second generation BLers :)
(Though my kids will not know about my activities here, or what we talk about here, until they're at least 18, if I have anything to say about it.)
 
wow MDAO! sounds like the babes are great and really well behaved, something i'm sure most parents would kill for, especially that young! sucks about tension between Mrs. MDAO & your dad :(
 
^cheers! =D we have a proper kids bath at ours, we've improvised at the grandparents' place :) my man turns 1 this wednesday, and the whole country gets a day off to celebrate. ;)

great update, mdoa <3
 
I had to take my two kids to an engagement party at a hotel tonight and I couldn't have been more proud. The 5 and 9 yr olds sat on a couch while everyone drank and played chess. They then took on guests in challenge mode. My 9 yr old then told me that she had a nightmare the other night that Vasco De Gama was trying to kidnap her and smuggle her back to Portugal from India. Apparently it was something about his beard that was scary.

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I am either raising some special kids or they have some serious issues. ;)
 
Hi everyone.

My daughter is 3.5. She will be returning to my custody when she is nearing 4. We have been apart for a little over a year, though I have seen her every other week for a half day each time. I have called to talk with her most nights. We are very attached as I nursed her until 18 months.

She will be home full time a little after school begins in the fall. For over a year she has been in an early learning center 35-40 hours a week. So that's a lot and IMO too much for a little child.

I plan to send her to the Montessori school. I have the application/deposit ready, however, I'm hesitant to register her until I see how things feel after she is home. I am second guessing to send her at ALL until at least January (spring semester). We have been apart for so long. Also, she won't be home full time until several weeks after school begins. So I'm not sure if they would accept her in January or not until the next Fall.

I can "afford" to stay home and not work for a few months. My concern is possibly being overwhelmed with a 4 year old 24/7. We haven't spent full days together in so long. It seems like we NEED to though.

Thoughts?
 
i read your original post the other day, but don't have the advice that you are after. i have no idea about that school, and my boy is much younger. still, i do hope it goes well for you. taking time off to acclimatise, since you are able to, may prove to be difficult at first, but invaluable later.
 
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