vurtomatic
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I suppose being un-shallow is as simple as being open to discoveries and affording ourselves and others the chance and time to surmount the immediate hurdles. 
vanth said:I generally try not to be shallow because I think its a silly attitude to take and one which results in missing out on a lot of good things.

Singles embrace cuddle parties
Thursday Feb 14 14:00 AEDT
Cuddle party-goers form a puppy pile. (Getty Images)
By Josephine Asher
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Lonely hearts tired of online flirting this Valentine’s Day might want to consider the ultimate antidote to virtual relationships — cuddle parties.
Billed as non-sexual "snuggle workshops", the gatherings see strangers engage in hand-holding, cuddling, spooning, back rubbing and massage.
Some participants form a "puppy pile", in which two or three layers of people lie on top of each other and giggle or sing.
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Australian cuddle party organiser, Anne Hunter, says the parties foster togetherness in a way digital communication cannot.
"As human beings we have a biological need for touch which isn't met by online interaction," Ms Hunter said.
“We all need a certain amount of safe, nurturing, non-sexual touch — and most people don't get enough of it."
The parties started in the US in 2004 and the trend has since expanded to Britain and now Australia, where participants pay $20-30 for the privilege of touching others.
Pyjama-clad participants at the living-room gatherings are graded as "cautious cuddlers" or "confident cuddlers" with the latter earmarked for the "puppy pile".
“Most touch in our society is sexualised — only 'allowed' in the context of a sexual relationship," Ms Hunter said.
"Most people avoid touch for fear of being misunderstood in their intentions."
While the cuddle parties were not specifically aimed at singles, Ms Hunter said they provided a potential alternative to online dating.
"[Cuddle parties] can offer people a safe space in which to be more themselves and more authentic with other people and I suspect that would facilitate more promising connections," she said.
Lija Jarvis, from dating website RSVP, said while online dating lacked certain physical elements, its big advantage was that users could use technology to narrow their search.
But Ms Jarvis didn't rule out cuddle parties as a future event for singles.
"If the demand for cuddle parties was there, that would certainly be something we'd consider introducing into our mix," she said.
ButrosButros_Grantos said:Being shallow is extremely fun. People keep thinking there may be some depth hidden beneath, but you constantly rebuke them with insulting gestures and whatnot. Yet for some reason they still think there is more.
Being shallow may be bad, but being stupid is far worse.
zephyr said:^ prove it.
zephyr said:Id rather take people at face
value
and risk
being duped
by a
shallow person
than be seen as one myself.
zephyr said:Shallow people are a lot better at being "people pleasers" than the "stupid" people and tend to have a lot of equally as shallow friendships/relationships.
Id rather take people at face value and risk being duped by a shallow person than be seen as one myself.