Norcophile, welcome to BL!
It sounds like you're off to a good start with your pain management. It seems you realize how important it is to EARN your Md's trust by being honest and genuine with him/her about your pain. This can be a long, frustrating journey that many of us here have gone through (and are still going through).
I definitely agree that youth can be an enemy of sorts when dealing with chronic pain. Mine began soon after the birth of my wonderful child over nine years ago. After years of fairly undertreated pain, a botched surgery that made things even worse, 3 ignorant and uncaring doctors who made me feel guilty about taking narcotics-I finally found the right PM Dr. for me.
I am honest and open with him; not only because I have to be, but because I WANT to be. He could see that I was genuinely in LOTS of pain and while he has treated my pain aggressively, he's conservative when he should be. I've been seeing him for about a year and a half, and my quality of life has been much much better (although I'm quick to whine when there are bumps in the road, lol).
We have a pain management contract, and I try my very best to stick with it. I've made a mistake or two, like going through my bt meds a bit too quickly, and I told him about it. I trust and respect him, and he has told me that he trusts me. That's a good feeling

Sorry for going on and on ...and on some more

I just realize how lucky I am to have found this person and I know that many of my friends here are still the place I was a year and a half ago...and it literally hurts my chest when I get on here and read what some of my special friends are going through.
Norcophile, It sounds like you may end up being 1 of the lucky ones. Please continue to be honest with your doctor and take the necessary time to build a solid foundation for your relationship.
Good luck to you.
Thanks again to anyone who took the time to read this