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The EADD a trifle annoyed thread v. I bet that smarts a bit

Never have i been in such a foul mood. Days like these I miss opiates. I'm so irritable for no reason n i cant punch owt because my irritability is never physical n turning the garden over didnt relieve it. Grrrrrrr. Hope this snger goes away soon

Evey
 
Eveyvibe said:
Never have i been in such a foul mood. Days like these I miss opiates. I'm so irritable for no reason n i cant punch owt because my irritability is never physical n turning the garden over didnt relieve it. Grrrrrrr. Hope this snger goes away soon

Evey
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Evey are you due your period?
 
Fuck you 2 - go get the chocolate but make sure its sustainable and organic ok.
 
Eveyvibe said:
Yes - I used to get major bad pmt before going on citalopram n since coming off them it's come back with a vengence.

Evey
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Awww, that's shite - go get the jar of nutella and a spoon and fuck them all I say :D

<3
 
Ugh i was in the supermarket looking at some sausage n some woman totally humiliates me "do you want some help?" I just ignored her n walked off. Have I a sign on my forehead saying "I've a disability n want to be noticed n treated like a total moron?" Just because I lpok close at something doesn't mean I need help. I'm an independent woman. Why cant people mind their own business instead of drawing attention to people n making them feel like a loser?

Christ!

Evey
 
Eveyvibe said:
Ugh i was in the supermarket looking at some sausage n some woman totally humiliates me "do you want some help?" I just ignored her n walked off. Have I a sign on my forehead saying "I've a disability n want to be noticed n treated like a total moron?" Just because I lpok close at something doesn't mean I need help. I'm an independent woman. Why cant people mind their own business instead of drawing attention to people n making them feel like a loser?

Christ!

Evey
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you were looking at sausage and a woman offered you help, so she humiliated you?

Anymore context to the story, or have you slightly overreacted?
 
To be fair, I can see Evey's point, though at the same time I can see (and agree with) yours.

I don't have a visible disability, but sometimes I will either feel bewildered in public, or I'll act 'unusual' or 'childlike', which sometimes means people will treat me in what feels like a totally patronising manner. Luckily I'm articulate enough to brush it off quickly.

Thing is, it's probably not them being deliberately patronising, but just trying to put you at ease the best way they know how. They're not trying to draw attention to you at all, Evey - they're trying to help a disabled person, as they're instructed to. They probably have to do it all day for auld folk, y'know?
 
Hi, thinking about it I feel bad now that I wasn't polite to her as she was just being nice. It just made me feel uncomfortable. I like me seeing me as an independent woman n as me, not someone with a disability that defines me. Some People do treat me differently like I'm someone to be pitied which is frustrating. 1, because there are people with far worst n I don't see it as an issue. 2 because some treat me like a child rather than an adult.

When i was first in college i was MADE to have a classroom assistant constantly n people didn't speak TO ME. They'd speak to THEM ABOUT ME. And when I tried explaining how I felt it was "so you don't want our help then!" I wasn't saying I did not want their help I was saying I wanted to be treated as an equal human being. My claasmates would treat me differently. I'd be spoken ABOUT or like a child. I wasn't used to this because in secondary school I was treated as an equal n my visual impairment wasn't noticed unless I needed help. In college it was made to defibe me AGAINST MY WILL.

As a consequence wirh this n battles with social workers, etc I battled my whole life to be treated as an equal. You'll be surprised how some disabled people are spoken to, even people with dislexia, these days its disgusting. And it's why I struggle to accept any help off people. It's another reason why I like the internet. I'm seen as an equal n not someone with any for of disability.

Evey
 
^ evey, you recently got annoyed with felix because he treated you like a regular person and told you to just scan the first page for a thread you couldn't find.

not you're getting annoyed with somebody else for treating you as somebody with a disability and trying to help you.

you can't have your cake and eat it so which is it?

alasdair
 
no you're twisting it. But of course staff are going to defend felix. He was an admin for a long time. He can get away with anything he likes.

Telling someone to "use their initiative" when a person struggles with it due to disability is nothing to do with treating someone different or the same. This is exactly the kind of ignorance I'm talking about.

Eg what was wrong in simply replying, "it's on the front page."

Evey
 
i disagree evey. you played the disability card in one situation and got annoyed and demanded to be treated normally in another.

i'm not ganging up on you with felix to attack you. i'm giving your my opinion of your words. that's all.

when you post an issue publicly, you are implicitly requesting the opinions of the community. those opinions may not always agree with you or be what you want to hear. that doesn't mean you're being attacked. it's perfectly healthy dialog. in fact, it says nothing about you at all. it's an opinion - just like yours.

felix is a bluelighter just like you. just like you, he's bound by the forum rules.

"what was wrong in simply replying, "it's on the front page."

as far as i can tell, that's what he told you.

alasdair
 
You've a point about my opinions n sharing them with the community - yes I should expect some disagreement n not take it personslly.

I disagree with paragraph 1. Respecting that someone has a disability n thus may struggle with things is not the same as treating them differently. For instance, I have a friend with a mental health condition n acknowledge it but I don't treat her any different to someone who is NT.

Evey

Evey
 
Aye Evey, I did just tell you "it's there on the front page". Whenever I try to help you out with something, you throw it back in my face and accuse me of implying you're stupid or something.

And that's outrageous, that person showing some empathy and consideration in the supermarket. Maybe you should write a letter and try to get them sacked.

For fuck sake, the only person making life "difficult" for you is yourself. Grow the fuck up and take some responsibility for yourself, and your life will become much more pleasant. Nobody's out to get you, not even that terrible person in the supermarket or me trying to give you advice on your computer, Bluelight, or other stuff.
 
Christ o mighty. I think in future I'll vent on TDS where I can do my venting in peace instead of everyone starting n making it in a big drama. I never receive this when venting over there. If someone is upset, using it as a way to try n score cheap points is really low. Can we (again) please DROP it?

Evey
 
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