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the bluelight preconception, pregnancy and parenting l337ness thread
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LoveAlways
Bluelighter
^^^I'm SO STOKED for you guys!!!!!! (I 
little asian babies! =) )
Wait I just realized you were the OP DUH lol sorry
Anyway just a little side note i, and pretty much all of my Mama friends smoked bud during pregnancy. I heard from a psychology student that her teacher gave a lesson on how it is actually beneficial for the baby! Not sure how, I wasnt in the class but I can see the kids are fine!! (well mine isnt but we think its genetic)
little asian babies! =) )Wait I just realized you were the OP DUH lol sorry
Anyway just a little side note i, and pretty much all of my Mama friends smoked bud during pregnancy. I heard from a psychology student that her teacher gave a lesson on how it is actually beneficial for the baby! Not sure how, I wasnt in the class but I can see the kids are fine!! (well mine isnt but we think its genetic)
Samadhi
Bluelight Crew
Hehe, I had an inkling that something was a brewin' (in fancy fresh's tummy) I am beyond happy for you, R and yeah, i didn't think i could get more clucky. I'm turning into a fucking chicken! 
I am beyond happy for you, R and yeah, i didn't think i could get more clucky. I'm turning into a fucking chicken! 
izzy66
Bluelighter
aww what a great thread... my baby is 26y/o now but i remember everything so clearly.
he was very wanted and very planned. i was clean of everything for 3 months or longer when we made him. i knew exactly when, that he was a boy, that he loved reggae (and still does), that he would love grilled cheese sandwich w/ tomato soup (my only craving and not something i would eat before or since but it's a huge fav of his). i felt great, walked to and from work (2mi each way) cuz i had to and i knew it would help w/ labor and delivery.
i wish we had been able to have another but i had miscarriage troubles and then my husband passed away in an accident.
i kept a journal which is prob my most cherished material possession. a full term healthy pregnancy and a healthy beautiful little boy w/ his daddy's eyes is the greatest experience i'll ever have and the absolutely best thing i'll ever do.
my biggest surprise- i expected that i would have unbelievable pain during the pushing birthing part but for me that was way easier than labor. 3 big pushes and he popped out, easiest part of the whole bit. my doc said all the walking really helped me have an easy birth. labor is called labor for a damn good reason. i remember my hubby was able to see contractions starting on the monitor before i felt them. he said "oh here comes another" about 3 times then i threatened parts of his anatomy if he kept that up.
oh my gosh this has got me all smiling and weepy.
my very best wishes to all of you. such an exciting wonderful time
-izzy
he was very wanted and very planned. i was clean of everything for 3 months or longer when we made him. i knew exactly when, that he was a boy, that he loved reggae (and still does), that he would love grilled cheese sandwich w/ tomato soup (my only craving and not something i would eat before or since but it's a huge fav of his). i felt great, walked to and from work (2mi each way) cuz i had to and i knew it would help w/ labor and delivery.
i wish we had been able to have another but i had miscarriage troubles and then my husband passed away in an accident.
i kept a journal which is prob my most cherished material possession. a full term healthy pregnancy and a healthy beautiful little boy w/ his daddy's eyes is the greatest experience i'll ever have and the absolutely best thing i'll ever do.
my biggest surprise- i expected that i would have unbelievable pain during the pushing birthing part but for me that was way easier than labor. 3 big pushes and he popped out, easiest part of the whole bit. my doc said all the walking really helped me have an easy birth. labor is called labor for a damn good reason. i remember my hubby was able to see contractions starting on the monitor before i felt them. he said "oh here comes another" about 3 times then i threatened parts of his anatomy if he kept that up.
oh my gosh this has got me all smiling and weepy.
my very best wishes to all of you. such an exciting wonderful time
-izzy
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Mariposa
Bluelight Crew
I already knew from elsewhere, IP, but much love and congrats to you and Fancee once again!
It's almost an impossibility for me to have a kid without significant planning (yay IUD) and I am 50/50 on whether I want one. I am age 30, have my moments of cluckiness, and also have those moments where I see a screaming baby and exasperated mother.
My uncle (45 y/o father of 2) said "when in doubt, don't" which I have followed so far. I paid so much attention to my career in my 20s that it wouldn't have been close to fair, and at present I am in no position to have or raise a child financially, emotionally, or spiritually.
The upside to planning? I'll be totally clean of everything (including my Rxs - yikes) and have a healthy, drug and chemical-free body with strict diet control.
It's almost an impossibility for me to have a kid without significant planning (yay IUD) and I am 50/50 on whether I want one. I am age 30, have my moments of cluckiness, and also have those moments where I see a screaming baby and exasperated mother.
My uncle (45 y/o father of 2) said "when in doubt, don't" which I have followed so far. I paid so much attention to my career in my 20s that it wouldn't have been close to fair, and at present I am in no position to have or raise a child financially, emotionally, or spiritually.
The upside to planning? I'll be totally clean of everything (including my Rxs - yikes) and have a healthy, drug and chemical-free body with strict diet control.
voxmystic
Bluelighter
congrats, IP! what exciting news! i wish you the best pregnancy/delivery/parenting experience ever!
our timing won't be as close as you were thinking. i should have bitten my tongue, too, as i didn't get past the 12 week mark, and had a subsequent few days throwing a pity party in a tequila bottle.
our timing won't be as close as you were thinking. i should have bitten my tongue, too, as i didn't get past the 12 week mark, and had a subsequent few days throwing a pity party in a tequila bottle.
tiggerific
Bluelighter
sorry to hear that vox, hope it goes better next time
aww what a great thread... my baby is 26y/o now but i remember everything so clearly.
he was very wanted and very planned. i was clean of everything for 3 months or longer when we made him. i knew exactly when, that he was a boy, that he loved reggae (and still does), that he would love grilled cheese sandwich w/ tomato soup (my only craving and not something i would eat before or since but it's a huge fav of his). i felt great, walked to and from work (2mi each way) cuz i had to and i knew it would help w/ labor and delivery.
i wish we had been able to have another but i had miscarriage troubles and then my husband passed away in an accident.
i kept a journal which is prob my most cherished material possession. a full term healthy pregnancy and a healthy beautiful little boy w/ his daddy's eyes is the greatest experience i'll ever have and the absolutely best thing i'll ever do.
my biggest surprise- i expected that i would have unbelievable pain during the pushing birthing part but for me that was way easier than labor. 3 big pushes and he popped out, easiest part of the whole bit. my doc said all the walking really helped me have an easy birth. labor is called labor for a damn good reason. i remember my hubby was able to see contractions starting on the monitor before i felt them. he said "oh here comes another" about 3 times then i threatened parts of his anatomy if he kept that up.
oh my gosh this has got me all smiling and weepy.
my very best wishes to all of you. such an exciting wonderful time
-izzy
thank you for sharing this beautiful post
L O V E L I F E
Bluelighter
Ip!
AmorRoark
Bluelight Crew
You're going to be the best dad IP. I assume you guys are planning on raising the child to be bilingual? What a great asset to pass onto your youngin.
Busty St Clare
Ex-Bluelighter
Congrates IP.
On a more serious note I have some sage advise as you enter the early stages of "husband of the mum". I suggest you tread carefully as your beautiful wife turns into a foaming at the mouth crazy incubator.
By all means tend to her every whim in these early months. Smile and nod as she asks for more insane requests such as midnight runs to 7-11 for ice cream and lime soft drink, only to complain that the drink is too fizzy. Be prepared for swings in both mood and preference for no rhyme or reason. Just because she says a week earlier she should really try and stay fit, expect to have your arm chewed off if you even raise an eyebrow to the fact she just polished of a jumbo pack of M&M's. If you have grand ideas about chalking up brownie points for each and every foot massage, to be redeemed at a later date when you want something, forget about it. Reality is as soon as the baby is born the slate is wiped clean with the scream "I just spat a water melon through my vagina for you and our parents!!! Of course you can't watch the NBA when Oprah is on!!!".
My advise is to put your Air Jordan's down early and hard. If she complains about heartburn tell her to come back to you when she has cracked nipples and has something to really complain about. Also make the most of her jumbo tits while you can. You will sign those puppies away in the name of science and nutrition soon enough.
That should do for now. I'll attempt to return with more fatherhood advise in the coming months. Next chapter... How to survive The In-laws.
On a more serious note I have some sage advise as you enter the early stages of "husband of the mum". I suggest you tread carefully as your beautiful wife turns into a foaming at the mouth crazy incubator.
By all means tend to her every whim in these early months. Smile and nod as she asks for more insane requests such as midnight runs to 7-11 for ice cream and lime soft drink, only to complain that the drink is too fizzy. Be prepared for swings in both mood and preference for no rhyme or reason. Just because she says a week earlier she should really try and stay fit, expect to have your arm chewed off if you even raise an eyebrow to the fact she just polished of a jumbo pack of M&M's. If you have grand ideas about chalking up brownie points for each and every foot massage, to be redeemed at a later date when you want something, forget about it. Reality is as soon as the baby is born the slate is wiped clean with the scream "I just spat a water melon through my vagina for you and our parents!!! Of course you can't watch the NBA when Oprah is on!!!".
My advise is to put your Air Jordan's down early and hard. If she complains about heartburn tell her to come back to you when she has cracked nipples and has something to really complain about. Also make the most of her jumbo tits while you can. You will sign those puppies away in the name of science and nutrition soon enough.
That should do for now. I'll attempt to return with more fatherhood advise in the coming months. Next chapter... How to survive The In-laws.
badandwicked
Bluelighter
^ thats some pretty archaic humour you have there.
Kenickie
Bluelight Crew
i think lacey k's pregnancy & delivery thread deserves a mention and bump here.
congrats to pregnant people, sympathy to not pregnant people & other appropriate feelings all around
congrats to pregnant people, sympathy to not pregnant people
& other appropriate feelings all around 
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