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the bluelight preconception, pregnancy and parenting l337ness thread

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So i'm off to see a doctor tomorrow - it's our new GP in brisbane, but the good thing is that she specialises in women's and child health, and has focussed her career on pregnancy and fertility issues, and has been recommended to me by my sister in law who has a couple of kids. I'm looking forward to getting to know a doctor who has come so highly recommended! :)
 
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DFRS deleted me from her facebook maybe a month or 2 ago as she felt I was being negative towards her and was trying to make her feel bad which I don't quite understand. Too bad really I was looking forward to watching her pregnancy and I miss our interaction. I hope she is doing well.
 
Rules of parenting 101, do not leave your child with the dodgy uncle and a pair of clippers. Busty Jr is now sporting a mohawk. I know if I pulled that on my shift there would be hell to pay. I have to admit he does look like the coolest kid in the playground, and the toughest in his taekwando class.

He turns 5 tomorrow and it is days like this that make it so hard living so far away from him. I am working until 8pm tonight, back at work by 7.30 am then have the 1 1/2hr commute after work to see him for an hour or two before driving back home. I only hope that he and his sister appreciate that I never miss an important date when they get older.
 
They will, Busty, I'm sure :). And perhaps ask their mother why it is they lived so far away.

I wonder how MDAO's little family is going. They've been in my thoughts this week.
 
Busty - my father may have been through hell, but he fought for me, and he's never forgotten my birthday or anything else. We talk almost daily, and I consider him my best friend. I've already booked my ticket for the holidays to spend a lovely week.

Still not planning conception anytime soon. It's been enough to get over my non-stepchildren not being in my life. I miss them ever so much, particularly the littlest, who turns 7 soon. I'll be sending a small savings bond in care of his father in his own name.

Lefty, your baby just keeps getting cuter. What an adorable smile :) It makes me so happy every time you post a pic of him. <3 I know it's gotta be hard being away from him :( but the bright side is that he'll be that much happier to see you.

MDAO, I've already wished you and your wife the best of love and support - I will do it again.

DFRS, much love to you, hubs, and the lil bean <3

Atri & Geggers - wow, that is going to be a beautiful lil one <3

Samadhi, much love as well. I think there are some BLers who know about herbs that can assist in conception. Hopefully, they will respond.

Isn't it interesting when we BLers grow up? :D

If it's better to start a separate thread, cool, but I am still really considering fostering a child. There are classes on how to successfully do that. My dad told me to get a puppy. We'll see what happens. I'd like to help raise a little person someday, whether born, fostered or adopted. I'm not ready right this moment. I'm sorting that. I have to get over these non-stepkids and their father. I'm sorting out what I

I hope that all the parents/potential parents I have not mentioned are doing healthily, lovingly, and with much comfort and bravery. <3 More pics, pls. :)
 
Finally I have a spare 10 minutes or so on my hands.

My daughter finally made a late entrance to the world. Willow Grace was born on 16th September 20:53 pm and weighed 8.1 pounds, which IMO is a great size. The birth did not go to plan at all, I ended up having an induction as Willow went well past her due date which was not something I wanted at all. The gel only got me so far with contractions being 5 minutes apart (meaning not in full blown labour), so about 24 hrs after the gel was put in I was placed on a drip then had an epidural as I'm not that great with pain and found the sudden intensity with contractions to be way too much. 4 hours after I was placed on the drip Willow was born which is probably lucky in some ways... Anyway the main thing is that she was healthy and ok, also the skin to skin contact straight after she was born was nice.

Since the whole birth experience and getting home it's been a rather big adjustment and to be honest one that I don't think I could have prepared myself for. I wish more people had of pre-warned me about how locked down I would have been, and also how difficult breastfeeding can be. The feeding part isn't too bad now and I'm glad I've stuck with it, but some days I feel trapped, housebound and like a sense of identity has been lost. Regardless though Willow has started smiling early (bit over 2 weeks old when she started) and is now making lots of bubbly noises. Also she loves bathtime (thank god), loves the pram and tries to talk to us in bed at night when we're attempting to get a few hours shuteye before her next feed. Very cute. :)
 
brilliant news! congratulations:D:D:D

skin on skin is the best, my wife and i get into big disagreements about it though. rest assured, the initial difficulties are normal. there's no real way to prepare cuz you just don't know until you're there. it gets better. <3
 
Congratulations, Miss Peks <3 I'm glad to hear that your little Willow is healthy and happy. I have every faith that as L2R said, things will get better :)
 
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Congrats on your pregnancy. I hope your baby is a healthy one. :) I know we've had our differences, but my congratulations are sincere. :)

My mother's family is now on Maximilian the 5th - it's a name that's carried on for generations. I am the first grandchild and was almost named Maxine. I won't be continuing the pattern if I ever have a child. It is unlikely that the littlest Max will be having children, as he is severely autistic. His mother underwent experimental fertility procedures in her mid-40s; luckily his fraternal twin is not autistic.

I love the name Mia for a little girl.
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don't be silly, there are no hard feelings at all. it is the interwebz ;\ thank you very much!! <3

MDAO, i am sorry you have to go through this. a friend on facebook just brought their son home after being born at 23 weeks, absolutely incredible. my thoughts are with you, stay strong for your wife!! <3

CONGRATS MISS PEKS!! hang in there with the BF it gets easier, i promise!!
 
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We're doing OK. Her fetal fibronectin (fFN) test came back negative, which is good. fFN is the protein that glues the placenta to the uterine wall -- when it's absent in a vaginal swab, that's a 95% guarantee the babies won't need to be delivered in the next 2wks.

So far Mrs. Doors is getting better at tolerating the magnesium, though it still makes her feel loopy. She hasn't needed any stronger drugs, and the contractions have tapered off. She gets ultrasounded every day, and the babies are developing well, moving, and have beating hearts. Yesterday one of their hearts was in the lower range of normal, and today that was the case for all three of them. It's probably the mag.

I just took Mrs. Doors outside in a wheelchair to a cafe next door, and we had a little coffee date. It wasn't much, but really helped break up the monotony for her.

Both her parents and mine have been incredibly supportive. I'm just juggling so many important things these days that it feels overwhelming. I can't imagine what it's going to feel like when the babies are born and I'm in residency.

Our regular Ob-Gyn came back from vacation and sounded more hopeful about the pregnancy than the dude he had covering for him. He thinks there's a good chance she'll go 32 weeks, maybe even 34.
 
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