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the bluelight preconception, pregnancy and parenting l337ness thread

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tbh, i was very scared of the child before he arrived. i had very little exposure to babies in my life, i was so worried about holding him and connecting with him. but these things came like a pro from the moment i first held him. it was like i discovered that i was programmed for this activity and never knew it. cuz i sure as hell didn't really learn it from anywhere.
 
PI, i used to work for a woman who divorced her first husband for very similar reasons. i am not really sure of the exact details, but i know it came down to differing opinions on having or raising children. she is happily remarried with a child. her ex is also happily married and a step parent. she and her are still pretty close but neither of them regrets the divorce.
 
I think that this thread should be about all-things baby/child/pregnancy-related; be it whether someone is expecting, a partner posting a question about their pregnant partner, or for people to discuss the reasons why they may not want kids. Jo is right - it really rounds out the thread... after all, i'm positive that pregnancy and babies isn't all fluffy white blankets and roses.

PI - i really hope you and J figure this out - as Jo said, it's a shitty, shitty situation - but you are looking at it in a really healthy way. Wanting/not wanting kids is so very fundamental to a person, and a relationship.
 
It is up to him to figure out whether he wants to start over and be lucky enough to find someone like me to have his baby. I don't envy that task. Each day that passes since our conversation 2 weeks ago makes it easier for me to move forward. I appreciate all of your support as I have chosen not to talk about this to my family nor my friends.
 
facetime yesterday, my boy showed off his new trick: sticking his tongue out at people. he laughs when they do it back too.
 
I became a father six days and nineteen hours ago. My son was 8.5 pounds at birth.

I always swore I would not be a dad until I was 40+, but she's the right woman and the baby amazes me. For once, there is something more important than me & that's good.
 
L2R said:
it's a good time to be separated from loved ones
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*sigh*
 
it's hard to believe something so gorgeous could have swam out of MY sack (of potatoes)
 
Congratulations jude101!

L2R, I think your son is so adorable he could be in print advertisements, if you wanted to teach him the value of hard work very, very early in life. :)

My wife was just admitted to the hospital indefinitely for signs of preterm labor at only 25wks gestation. The doctors are saying she likely has less than a month before she'll be forced to deliver, meaning a lengthy, expensive NICU stay, and dicey prospects, for my three children. I slept in a chair last night at the hospital holding her hand. I'm juggling this with buying a house and interviewing for medical residencies next year within a 100mi radius. I'm holding it together, but barely. I have a lot of faith in modern medical science, but at the same time I'm going to be devastated if we end up losing any of the three children, and/or getting stuck with a five or six figure hospital bill. Please hold us in your hearts.
 
oh mate, forget the househunting, it's exceedingly stressful. stress you can't afford right now.

my heart is with you and yours. <3
 
MDAO - you and your family are in my thoughts and heart <3 I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through.

Small consolation, but you have all of us rooting for your little team <3
 
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