At least you have a level of openess and honesty in your family relationships. I've never been able to broach the subject of drugs with my family since they found out i was smoking hash and taking mushrooms as a teenager. They asked few questions and so i told no lies about my drug use whilst at uni, though it must have been fairly evident that i was a hardcore stoner and then got into speed and Es later on.
As far as they know i've left it all behind years ago. Am on the verge of getting the opi/kratom monkey off my back once and for all, and can then concentrate on the etiz problem. There's no need for them to know anything about any of this as it would cause uneccsary worry, strife and tension. The benzos dont solve any problems, they just seem to make them easier to live with day by day. Its like putting sticking plasters over festering wounds, just covering them up doesnt really help heal them.