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PT you really need to be able to say NO to your friends. I know it's really hard when all you want to do is help them with their problems. But like you said, you're suffering because you're not giving your own problems enough attention. So whenever a friend asks for your advice and help for a situation you really need to learn to say something to the effect of "I really think it would be best if you talk to *insert other loved one's name here, partner, mother, whatever* or your doctor about this problem". Or even if you're comfortable saying something like "I don't think I'm qualified to help you with this problem" or something like that.

Who do you turn to?? Please see your therapist or supervisor and talk to them about how you're feeling. Even though you are now graduated from psych school doesn't mean you are immune to suffering psychological distress. I suspect A LOT (probably the majority?) of psychologists/counsellors/therapists seek therapy of their own at various times in their professional career. So don't be afraid to reach out for help, just as you would normally if you'd never studied psych.

You need to look out for #1 PT, YOU! <3
 
^^ Wow man good for you!! That is a really courageous thing to do. All the best, and be sure to check in here if you need help/support <3
 
Pillthrill said:
Hey guys I need some advice and support...
With work at A Crisis Call Center/ Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault/Homeless women's shelter and all the crap I have to deal with there. I love my friends a lot and they often come to me to vent, give advice, help give them resources or even be the friend to call when you are going to hurt yourself or someone else. But I won't be able to "always be there" for everyone all the time anymore like I used to. Which with between my friends I am known for. It just it takes too much out of me. And I and suffering mentally and my poor coping skills are showing!!!


Just today: I have like 2 or 3 friends I'm trying to help (high risk situations), have lets says at least 20 people I'm trying to be there for, support, encourage, whatever at work, and maintain balance between that and my coworkers and their issues and crap that happens when you work with people, and have some sort of healthy relationship... its just too much.

Not to mention that I CONSTANTLY THINK about about when I'm not there (like when I'm trying to sleep) and medication such as Klonopin (Clonazepam) are proving more problematic than helpful.
I TRY not to take it home with me but closing my eyes at work and not thinking about it all is hard. My supervisor is a wonderful woman that I can go to and has been really supportive. My long term bf tries to help but there are things I can't tell him. My former pastor sent me a nice message but I feel bad that we don't share the same beliefs with me being atheist and all. I don't know where to turn.

There is so much that I CAN'T talk concerning work because of the nature of what I do. But I'm not sure WHAT to do. Am I working too hard? Who do I turn to? Help?
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When I help people it's a relief. Like here in AA/NA, the way Dr.Bob and Bill W. got sober was talk about their problems with each other.
Which i'm sure when your friends talk to you about their problems, you can relate and share your experience, strength and hope with them, and in the long run they feel alot reliefe(sp?).
I was the same way. I've extremly co-dependent on other alcoholics and addicts because I know by first hand experience how fucking hard this disese is. So I want to do everything I can for them, and that included pretty much working their program for em.
It got me high after a while, and I knew that I was doing something wrong.. While I was helping these people my problem was that I wasn't working on myself. Watching these guys go and get loaded after I told them what i've been through, helping them do chores, giving them some $ etc. I felt awful, like I was doing something wrong. After a while I was like "Fuck it, no one is listening to me".

Don't let it overwhelm you PT. <3
 
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I'm better now. Tony has been very supportive in helping me avoid poor coping skills. I don't have to be super woman and do it all or try to carry the workload for those who aren't doing their job. Thats not what I'm here for. If I go home at night knowing I worked hard to do what I could for those that needed me then I'll be alright.
I have this WHOLE weekend off. I need it.
 
good job PT. Keep it at work. I cant imagine the shit you you go through at work, i know by living in a homeless shelter before that your job has got to be rough.

Kudos for working it out though, It built character :).



I start work on monday, have really no idea what the fuck i am doing in this field of work. I know that my mom told me not to fuck with eletricity as a kid, and this is the kind of shit i'll be doing on monday lol.
The guy said he would train, so I guess he's expecting me not to know everything my first day.
 
Pillthrill said:
There is so much that I CAN'T talk concerning work because of the nature of what I do. But I'm not sure WHAT to do. Am I working too hard? Who do I turn to? Help?
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Dear Pillthrill, I don't know you, but the job you do is so vital and amazing, you must be a wonderful person <3

I'm the sounding board for all my friends. Any time they need help, I go to them, drive them around to vent, take all their concerns, offer advice, and basically every day or two wake up at 3am to a phone call and have to drive out to see someone. It really does build up, and I can't imagine what it's like on the scale you deal with, you're clearly a really strong person too.

I say, perhaps see a psychologist? They can be a person to vent to, and with doctor-patient confidentiality, you can tell them whatever you need to about your work and it wont leave them. They can also teach you coping mechanisms. Findn the right one for you, it may take time, but it'll do wonders.
 
I got a summons for jury service in the mail yesterday which I thought was rather amusing, considering I've only just finished a 9 month community sentence! I'm sure they'll exclude me from the jury as soon as they take a look at me, which is fine because I don't want to do it anyway. On the first day at court I'll make sure I look as much like a tweaker as possible... I might even get a t-shirt printed saying "fuck the law!" That should work. :)
 
^ I'm in a bit of a funk, to be honest. I think I'm going through another stage of depression. But I'm staying with drug_wench at the moment which is helping to cheer me up a bit.
 
That's good to hear you're with d_w, she'll take care of you :)
Give each other a big hug from me!!
I hope that whatever depression is coming your way does NOT stick around for long <3
 
Sweet P said:
^ I'm in a bit of a funk, to be honest. I think I'm going through another stage of depression. But I'm staying with drug_wench at the moment which is helping to cheer me up a bit.
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Aww sorry to hear your feeling down :( . I'll try and catch ya online sometime soon ok?

Glad ya have someone around to cheer ya up abit too That always helps. Feel better soon :)
 
Congratulations D's! Is this the electrician helper job? If so, it's a good line of work to get into; and if it's not, I'm still super glad to hear that you're working! Not only for the material gain, but it is so much easier to feel good about yourself if you have something to apply your energy to.
 
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good luck, man!!!!!! Haha!!!! D's is all responsible now! =D Feels good. You'll see!!!!
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Dave said:
Congratulations D's! Is this the electrician helper job? If so, it's a good line of work to get into; and if it's not, I'm still super glad to hear that you're working! Not only for the material gain, but it is so much easier to feel good about yourself if you have something to apply your energy to.
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thanks jeff, hell yeah man. i'm now growing the social higharchy ladder of oblivion.

yeah dave, i have no idea what the hell i will be doing sept learning tommoro. the guy said that he will train. (and he picked me up a tool belt and a hard hat) lol wouldnt my mom be so happy seeing me in a hard hat.. hahahah

i kno wat u mean man. u can ask od. this job fell like right on the same day that i was going to leave. well leave due to rent not being paid. even tho im in a recovery place, er halfway house. it still costs $ to be here. $125 a week to be exact. which seems like a lot to me, but it includes everything.
i dunno how much i'll be making.. but hopefully its a little more then minimum wage, because my fucking amends list is quite large, and id atleast like to make a payment towards my ER visits this past year..

I get to pack a sack lunch! :)

lol yeah
 
I'm applying to get my first real job today at gamestop. Hopefully stop doing landscapping like i've done for the past 9 years. lol
 
nice wayfarlost, that would be a sweet job.

eh, the new job is alright. im doing construction work, so i'm learning the basics. like how to read a tape measurer, diffrent sizes of sockets, different wires, etc.
im sore, but its good. it builds character. :)

gonna hit up a NA meeting 2nite and call it a nite, gotta do same shit tommrow..

i work Saturday now :/. overtime baby! :D
 
D's said:
nice wayfarlost, that would be a sweet job.

eh, the new job is alright. im doing construction work, so i'm learning the basics. like how to read a tape measurer, diffrent sizes of sockets, different wires, etc.
im sore, but its good. it builds character. :)

gonna hit up a NA meeting 2nite and call it a nite, gotta do same shit tommrow..

i work Saturday now :/. overtime baby! :D
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hey,bro...i did some back tracking to get up to speed on what you are going through. I had no idea. sounds like you're doing awesome! good for you.
you still going to roo? does the environment there make it hard for you to stick with your program? i quit drinking years ago. i have a cpl of beers maybe 3 times a year,but a roo i tend to drink 1 day out of the 5 that i am there. and i can definitely say the environment in a way seduces me. however,it does not make me crave opiates or speed-which is strange. all in all those 3-alcohol,opiates and speed are things i have gotten away from and my desire to never be as miserable as i was while using them seems to be enough to keep me in check. of course i am an old lady;) at 34 my body can't handle the shit i used to put it through. getting older has definitely been a factor in giving up most drugs.

anyway-anything i can do to help you at roo...just let me know!
keep up the good work!

much peace and love............... skillz <3
 
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