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opiatekrzy

opiatekrzy

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hi everyone I wanted to share experience that I had last week that has been kind of been on my mind and bothering me to an extent and I would like someone to share a reasonable explanation for what happened and if it's something I should let go and move on.

so as all of you know, I'm living in San Francisco and I only been here for 4 months so I don't really know anybody really. yes i been doing crystal and fetty mainly.
I was at Walgreens and I crossed paths with this girl and we gave each other eye contact and immediately we started having small talk and it took literally 3 seconds for us to find an alley to get high. we started getting high and talking told her a little bit about me that I'm new to the area, and why I left New York, she told me a little about herself and her life story. along the conversation she bluntly asks me if I wanted my dick sucked.i responded back laughing lightly and telling her hell yeah.
after we stopped getting high we went to the train station to go our separate ways and she said follow me into the bathroom so I can suck your Dick. she did and we eventually parted ways and exchanged phone numbers.
even after we split up, we continue to text each other throughout the next couple days and today we were gonna meet up and get high. we make plans and I was told to meet her by the coffee shop and wait there cause her phone may die but promised she will be there. I waited an hour and a half and she never showed. I tried calling her and she didn't Answer and after all her phone was never shut off like she said it was going to be.

can someone please tell me what happened? did I scare her away by messaging her the past couple days and offering to hang out and get high with her? is it possible she thinks I have expectations of getting my dick sucked since I'm offering to hang out and get high and she got turned off? I texted her and told her that even though I greatly appreciated the other night and how it made my day I told her that I have absolutely no expectations or hidden motives and I told her I took a liking to her when I met her and would like a chance to become friends as this city is new to me and I don't know anyone.
off the record I'll be honest, she was the first person in San Francisco that actually gave me the time of day and took time out to get to know me and I don't know I feel vulnerable like she got

please anybody any constructive criticism opinions or some reality checks would be greatly appreciated cause I'm confused. I just got out of a 7year toxic relationship about three years ago and it's been very hard on me
 
I don't think you did anything wrong that would deter her from meeting up again. IDK I would chock it up to experience, if you two find each other again it would be cool, if not, that would also be cool. It's not like you two were heavily invested in each other as a long-term relationship, you had a moment that was meaningful to you, let it go at that. If you meet up again, cool.
 
opiatekrzy said:
in San Francisco that actually gave me the time of day
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And then some ;) ;)

opiatekrzy said:
it's been very hard on me
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It sounded like a really great chrystal experience.

If you meet someone clear and sober it may be more of a boring encounter. Or a more infatuating experience. ;)
I'm sure you will meet someone someday. Just be yourself. Congrats on the suck. I guess it happens.
 
opiatekrzy said:
hi everyone I wanted to share experience that I had last week that has been kind of been on my mind and bothering me to an extent and I would like someone to share a reasonable explanation for what happened and if it's something I should let go and move on.

so as all of you know, I'm living in San Francisco and I only been here for 4 months so I don't really know anybody really. yes i been doing crystal and fetty mainly.
I was at Walgreens and I crossed paths with this girl and we gave each other eye contact and immediately we started having small talk and it took literally 3 seconds for us to find an alley to get high. we started getting high and talking told her a little bit about me that I'm new to the area, and why I left New York, she told me a little about herself and her life story. along the conversation she bluntly asks me if I wanted my dick sucked.i responded back laughing lightly and telling her hell yeah.
after we stopped getting high we went to the train station to go our separate ways and she said follow me into the bathroom so I can suck your Dick. she did and we eventually parted ways and exchanged phone numbers.
even after we split up, we continue to text each other throughout the next couple days and today we were gonna meet up and get high. we make plans and I was told to meet her by the coffee shop and wait there cause her phone may die but promised she will be there. I waited an hour and a half and she never showed. I tried calling her and she didn't Answer and after all her phone was never shut off like she said it was going to be.

can someone please tell me what happened? did I scare her away by messaging her the past couple days and offering to hang out and get high with her? is it possible she thinks I have expectations of getting my dick sucked since I'm offering to hang out and get high and she got turned off? I texted her and told her that even though I greatly appreciated the other night and how it made my day I told her that I have absolutely no expectations or hidden motives and I told her I took a liking to her when I met her and would like a chance to become friends as this city is new to me and I don't know anyone.
off the record I'll be honest, she was the first person in San Francisco that actually gave me the time of day and took time out to get to know me and I don't know I feel vulnerable like she got

please anybody any constructive criticism opinions or some reality checks would be greatly appreciated cause I'm confused. I just got out of a 7year toxic relationship about three years ago and it's been very hard on me
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Honestly, I wouldn’t automatically assume you scared her off or did anything wrong. You two met in a very spontaneous situation, connected quickly, got high together, had a sexual encounter, exchanged numbers, and then continued talking. That can feel like a genuine connection, especially when you’re new somewhere and feeling lonely.

But I’d also try not to attach too much meaning to the connection yet. She may have genuinely liked you and still changed her mind, gotten busy, gotten high and made plans she didn’t follow through with, or simply not wanted to meet that day. There are a million possibilities, and unfortunately you may never know which one it was.

I also wouldn’t keep explaining that you don’t have expectations or hidden motives. You already said it once. At this point, I’d leave the ball in her court. If she wants to reach out, she knows you’re interested in being friends.

And honestly, I think the part that’s hurting you most isn’t necessarily her disappearing. It’s what the interaction represented to you. You’re new to SF, you don’t know many people, and she was the first person who made you feel seen and welcomed. That can make a quick connection feel much bigger emotionally, especially after coming out of a toxic relationship.

So my reality check would be: don’t chase an explanation that she may never give you. You didn’t necessarily do anything wrong, and her ghosting doesn’t automatically mean she didn’t like you. Sometimes people are just unpredictable.

Give her some space and keep meeting people. If she comes back, cool. If she doesn’t, let it be one weird chapter instead of turning it into a statement about your worth or your ability to make friends 💜
 
Maybe she was so attracted to you in the moment she gave you a blowjob but was never intending anything beyond that. But it doesn't hurt to check, right? Maybe one more? Pretty please? I'm kidding.
 
Dude honestly the fact that this chick just went up and sucked some stanger dude's dick like nothing it's past the point of giving a shit about her feelings or why she "blew" u off. I would've been so turned off by her I would've refused the bj and maybe went as far as to scold her for being such a slut.

and just wanna add u gotta think she's done that to other guys if she was so quick to just offer up and do it. Yuck, wash ur dick bro.
 
I'm sex positive, you're sex negative. I don't have any cognitive deficits that lead me to judge how consenting adults conduct their sex lives, you quite obviously do.

For the record I've been celibate for about 5 years at my choice. After 20 some odd years of marriage my grown kids have come to me and told me "Dad, you should have left 15 years ago. Please leave Mom and move on with your life." So that's what I'm doing. Sorry to derail OP, I thought it was funny post.
 
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Dude honestly the fact that this chick just went up and sucked some stanger dude's dick like nothing it's past the point of giving a shit about her feelings or why she "blew" u off. I would've been so turned off by her I would've refused the bj and maybe went as far as to scold her for being such a slut.

and just wanna add u gotta think she's done that to other guys if she was so quick to just offer up and do it. Yuck, wash ur dick bro.
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Obviously it's always advisable to play safe; especially with a stranger and substances involved. With that said, I think you're speaking down to OP; as if you've a moral high ground of some kind. I've seen your posts, you are no angel.

"Scold her for being such a slut" - that's fucked up to say.

Yuck, don't be a dick bro.
 
I know, because maybe she really liked you. A lot. And then she left and forgot about you.

Oh, gawd ... why am I here. ;);)

Better luck next time. Hang on.

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cool story Bro
 
BK38 said:
Obviously it's always advisable to play safe; especially with a stranger and substances involved. With that said, I think you're speaking down to OP; as if you've a moral high ground of some kind. I've seen your posts, you are no angel.

"Scold her for being such a slut" - that's fucked up to say.

Yuck, don't be a dick bro.
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that was really hot.


but but it actually deserved a heart <3<3<3<3<3 ty
 
edit : I'm sure he was just puking around, in all defense. ;);)



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Or here's one even .....

Maybe SF makes you feel like sucking *ick. I know it did for me. Looool.

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BK38 said:
Obviously it's always advisable to play safe; especially with a stranger and substances involved. With that said, I think you're speaking down to OP; as if you've a moral high ground of some kind. I've seen your posts, you are no angel.

"Scold her for being such a slut" - that's fucked up to say.

Yuck, don't be a dick bro.
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I don't know man, maybe when I was younger I'd be into some random girl just grabbing me and going at it but nowadays I don't even know if I'd ever share a joint with someone I didn't know.
 
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