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Cocaine Someone who knows what a coke/crack user looks like? Can you tell me if parents are

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Hi I finally decided to come on here and just ASK since my whole life seems to revolve around this.

To keep this very simple and not write my life story, basically my relationship has been destroyed with my parents over my belief (they say "delusion") that my parents are cocaine or god-forbid crack users. I am in my mid-20's and basically when I was a late teen I started having this belief that they used something. The only way I can describe it when you feel you have parents like this is you just think you "know".

What made it worse is I started studying celebrities, etc. people who supposedly use cocaine often and they always looked like your everyday "joe" to me! I had always heard of "that girl" or "that model" who went on a "coke-binge" and lost her nose! I never knew it could be used almost like marijuana, daily, or whatever... This ties into my story because I always thought something like that would be obvious to me but I can't tell and never will be able to with the research I've done and seeing people who use it often, it's nothing I would ever be able to "see" in someone's eyes!

People might ask why do I care? I won't go into how this has destroyed my life, I just wanted to come on here and ask if anybody thinks they are experienced with being able to tell if someone is a user. I would like to send you some pictures of my parents and see what you think.

For people who are experienced with these drugs, is it really something you could potentially "see" in another person if I gave you some pictures or is this a lost cause and there is no way to know?

I greatly appreciate if ANY of you do this for me you are literally saving my life and it would mean the world to me!
Thanks
 
One real easy way to possibly tell if they are using s stimulant it to check their pupil size.. I they are dilated then there is a good chance they are using a stimulant. Another good way is since your an adult you could just ask them?
 
First off, there is no possible way we will be able to tell your parents are using by looking at their pictures. This sounds very strange to me and you sound very nosy, possibly destroying the relationship with your parents due to paranoid suspicions. WHY do you think they are using? Are they up at weird hours, low on cash, constantly have runny/bloody noses? Just a note: these are not PROOF someone is a coke user. Never assume. Im an active addict an no one has any idea, ive told people before just to see their reaction and they laugh and dont believe me, so i laugh it off saying just joking. I have a job, in college, apt and car, definitely dont fit stereotypical addict. Watch out with your accusations.

Edit: what is the weirdest to me is you want to send your parents pictures to strangers and have them judge whether or not we think they are using coke. If I found out my family was sending my photos to strangers like this, we'd have some serious problems. Unless this is directly affecting your life, which it shouldnt because you claim to be in your mid 20s, then whats the harm?
 
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I don't remember ever seeing a thread like this before...

If they really have been using cocaine for so many years, I would think you would have found some hard evidence of it by now...An empty baggie, a straw/pipe, a drug deal, simply walking in on them doing it!

I had a girlfriend who's parents did coke and smoked weed, but they were only occasional users. Some people can hide it very well and act normal, but as a long time daily drug user, I can tell you that it would be very difficult to completely hide for years....If they only use a few times a week, it really wouldn't be all that hard, just a matter of keeping it behind closed doors, but everyday cocaine use is usually pretty fucking obvious...

Do they leave on random "errands" all the time but come back without having bought anything?

Are they constantly excusing themselves to go to the bathroom or bedroom and coming back in a completely different mood?

Do they become restless and irritable for some unexplained reason?

Are they constantly sniffing, or in the case of crack, are you noticing a strong smell like burnt plastic or "chemicals" coming from the other room?

Are they always broke with no explanation as to where the money's going?

Cocaine causes drastic mood swings in many users(although some can act normal), and this would probably be the most telltale thing...That, taken in conjunction with answering "yes" to any of the above questions would be a good indicator that they may be using....

but again, I have a hard time believing that over a 10 year period they never made a single slip and left something out that would definitively prove they were doing it!

I always end up eventually screwing up and leaving something in plain view...The laundry seems to be what's screwed me many times when living with my mom...She just grabs all the dirty clothes lying around and something ends up surfacing...That's probably why the whole "coming out in the wash" expressions exist. You can tell a lot about a person by the trash they have in their pockets!
 
This Thread is fantastic in so many ways! lol@> "Another good way is since your an adult you could just ask them?". Anyways how funny would it be if she sent her parents pics and they just looked like obvious homeless crackheads? "Yep, they're using."
 
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I think you need to explain a little more what your parents are doing that is ruining your relationship.
Or are you just so morally judgmental that even the thought of your parents doing drugs is tearing you up inside?
If that's the case, get a grip.
If not then explain, because as others have said it's never clear cut without evidence. More likely they're just moody or irritable or unstable people, in which case the same advice applies... just be less involved with them...
They can't ruin your life unless you allow them.
 
'your relationship has been destroyed because your belief your parents are using'

Dude, you're 20. Ask your parents. Sit them down, and ask them, and tell them you wouldn't be upset, that you just want to know. They say "no", then take their word for it because you would want them to take your word for things. /thread

Granted, they never stole from you, or that sort of thing..
 
I let this one go for a while but, honestly, it's not OD material. There really is no HR value to this thread, and it's pointless to speculate on if your parents are on coke (how the hell wold we know) and if so, what to do about it. That's not the purpose of this forum.

If you maybe want to make a post in TDS or something to discuss the emotional issues regarding this, feel free, but this kind of discussion doesn't fit here and just clogs the forum.

Closed.
 
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