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socially inept people

I don't think I'm socially inept... I just prefer my own company and I don't really like people in general! So I tend to avoid parties and large groups, and just hang out with a few like-minded friends.
 
Me on the first one or two times I meet someone. I'm fine after that.

That is not a 100% rule though. On random occasions I have no problem striking up conversation and talking to new people.
 
^^ Same with me man.
Although I would not call myself "socially inept" in any sense of the phrase, but certainly sometimes in some social situations I can be fairly reserved. I think it depends mainly on my mood at the time and also the personalities of the people around me.
 
Everybody thinks im kind of wacky and most of the people I meet dont take me seriously at first

I'm just really shy and I have to get a feel for a person before I open up to them. I had areally hard time going through school and it honestly messed me up a bit. I wasnt a preppy jock and I had a mohawk and sang and played guitar in garage band with my friends. About 90 percent of the kids in my school hated all of us through out grade school and middle school.

And then when everyone grew up and started trying new things for their selves they understood my values a bit more. Everyone is turning into hippies around here. And now i run into people i used to now and it feels great to see so many open minds.
 
jam uh weezy said:
To be honest with you, I don't think your question really makes sense.
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fair enough. I didnt think this would get so many replies.

I guess that i see myself in this category sometimes. The thing is, i didnt used to have a problem meeting people. But i moved around a lot and now its different.
Especially meeting others with shared interests. i dunno
 
into "partying" to me infers being into socializing with others, as that is what "partying" is, in some sense of the word. To truly enjoy it, is to have grown up associating and testing / honing ones ability to commune and socialize with your fellow human beings.... To be socially inept / aspergers-eque is to, on some level in my opinion, dislike the way people socialize or see something abhorrent in it...

...unless I am going too far and by "partying" you just mean the hedonistic use of drugs and pleasure like sex/masturbation etc.

To many I would imagine drugs would be an escape from inadequacies, so social ineptitude would indeed be one among those many escapes to which drugs find their way to "help". It makes sense that many non-social drug users do so for that very reason; that they are ill-equipped to manage with what socializing entails.

I am one of those to a degree: I certainly wish to express myself in person better than I feel I can a lot of the time. I am overly verbose when it comes to the written medium so here I am as I come across in that convoluted context; which is flawed in the opposite manner and often not very concise and just plain badly written from a rambling mind. ;-P
 
I'm not this at all, but I am extremely judgemental and tend to write people off too quickly. It's a fault and I understand it.
 
JohnnyRedlight said:
do people here know anyone that is really into drugs/partying but is too socially inept to meet & connect with others?
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You're talking about guys like me.

Love drugs, love slightly reckless usage of them but in sober day-to-day life, I'm just poor at conversations and specialising in getting out of family stuff.

Over time, friends have lost patience and now I've gone from 10 really good friends to 2.

So it's just the drugs for me now.

Should add though - NONE of my friends touch drugs but in the past I've got on really well with FOAFS who did.

I keep saying there's still time - you didn't make contact but nor did you do anything hugely wrong.
 
i'm so socially inept sometimes i cant even socialize through the internet

opioids can help make up for lack of social skills, as can mdma. alcohol can also help. but these temporary fixes dont last forever.
 
I would only call someone socially inept if they try to be social and continually fail. Those who are not very social by choice simply are not dependent on or get off by constantly being around people.
 
well, i do love parties.
and all my friends seem to think i'm the most outgoing of them.

but i don't like going up to a stranger and making conversation...i do it because i don't want to seem like a wierdo, just standing there and thinking that everyone is looking at him.
 
rangrz said:
I think I come off as too cold and creepy or too weird for most people.
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Maybe that's just how you like to see yourself. Has anyone ever actually said that to you, or are you just reading into things a little too much?. I used to think I was weird, but now I look at those things as being quirks. Those are the things which separate us from one another and should be celebrated, not hidden away. I'm not gonna pretend I don't care what people think of me, because I do. But I'm not about to change myself to 'fit in' either. :)

In response to the OP - I'm much better suited to smaller groups. Large groups are far too daunting for me at times, and they only make me withdraw into myself and away from conversation. I'm an observer, and I like to get a feel for the people I'm with before I open up. I tend to have trust issues. But once I get to know someone, I'm fine. Suffering from anxiety complicates things for me somewhat though.
 
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